u/WeakDonut6406

Maybe it is just because I am incredibly F-ing pregnant right now.

Maybe it is because my husband has told (5yo at the time) SK right in front of me "I watched you come out of your mom's body" during a time when SK's mom was still trying to get back with my husband and creating unnecessary conflict with me.

But listening to SK tell me twice within the last 5 minutes "dad watched me get born" puts me in a seriously weird mood. I don't know what to say, I dont want to hear it, I don't want anyone around me to know how I feel about that comment.

Am I expected to have a natural birth like she did, even though I've had C-sections in the past? Am I expected to have his whole family, including his brother's girlfriend, up at the hospital with me while giving birth like she did? What if my husband is pissing me off too much to want him there? And if he is not there on his own accord, does that mean he cares less? Will he think less of me if this experience is different for him? Will he love *our* baby enough to make future partners feel uncomfortable with comments about watching me give birth (if we break up- who knows what the future holds)?

Having a baby with a man who has already had one is taking a hell of a mental toll on me.

My husband was the first one who learned about my pregnancy. We thought we would wait until I was further along to tell family to ensure it was viable, but my husband's mother texted him to ask about it and all he had to say was "that's the last F---ing thing I need from her!"...I was 8-12 weeks along at that point. I didn't see the text until several weeks later. I've been trying to forgive him for this, but I learned today that he had no adverse reaction like that to his mom finding out about his exes pregnancy and it makes the hurt feel so much worse.

This feels like the ultimate betrayal.

Husband and 7 yo SK moved into my home- the one I had before marriage- with me and my 2 kids. We combined phone plans, and it was important to my husband that his son (5 at the time) remained on his phone plan. Why he thought a 5 year old needed an iphone is beyond me, I also had a 5 yo (at the time) who had never even asked for a cell phone, but I wasnt going to argue too much right after marriage.

Here we are 2 years later. I have been growing increasingly frustrated that my husband has 0 rules and boundaries regarding this cellphone, and SK is only getting more and more disrespectful.

SK has already lied to CPS about me & created serious consequences for me, he badmouths me to hid mom every chance he gets, he does not respect any adult at all, and he has virtually no rules or responsibilities. Basically asks for something and he gets it handed to him.

This kid is 7.

And my husband has 0 rules or boundaries regarding SK's nearly brand new iPhone- no parental controls, no limits on screentime, doesnt take the phone away at bedtime, and doesnt take the phone away as punishment when SK intentionally harms other children.

My husband and I argued one day because I believed the phone should be taken away at bedtime, and he didnt want to upset his kid by taking it away, so I suspended the line until we could agree on some rules and boundaries regarding a 7 year old possessing an iPhone.

My husband did ask me to turn the phone back on once, but I declined, reminding him that he still allows SK to have phone at bedtime, and that he still has not established a time limit for screentime on SK's iPhone.

No further discussion about it at all.

Today, I learned that my husband went off several weeks ago without telling me and got SK's phone set up with a new carrier that *he* is paying for....while i have still been paying for the suspended line on my own phone plan.

How did I find this out? SK and my 7 yo bio-kid go to the same school and get on the same bus so I woke them up for school at the same time. But SK got on his phone right away and played on his phone for 20 minutes (since my husband doesn't take it away at bedtime) instead of getting dressed. So when it was cutting close to the time I had to leave, I knocked on SK's door and let him know that we were running late and needed to hurry.

My husband, who didn't have time to get SK to school without missing a dr appointment and making himself late for work, yelled at me for this- said to leave SK alone, that I didn't need to nag him right outside the door, and that he would be taking SK right to school instead of trying to make it to the bus stop.