u/WeakReflection1788

I'm going to lush in a couple days with my dad.

I previously went to Lush abroad and got creme brulee body scrub and the olive oil body butter and loved it!

I want to go again now that I'm back in the UK, and I'm wondering what are any must have Lush items for you lot ?

As i wanna get for myself and my friends I thought it'd be nice to get recommendations,

I like sweet/fruity smelling stuff but am open to most scents I would like stuff to get rid of dead skin/acne.

So I wanted to know what are your must have items and you would suggest I get?

(My friend is into vanilla and my other friend is not picky).

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Me and my friend are no longer talking she knows I've been a lesbian long time, she used to be a Muslim and would tell me that while she doesn't support the LGBT she still respects it because of her religion.

At the time I didn't question it because it would mean she would have to question her whole identity and I didn't want drama.

So fast forward years, we are now long time friends and are super close but recently got in a disagreement as we were talking about some homophobic girl and she agreed with thinking its wrong but instead said 'While I don't support the LGBTQ I still respect it'

She is now an atheist.

I asked 'Why can't you support it then?' and she said she still wouldn't but still respects it somehow. I asked her why and she said 'Idk it's just against my choice and my morals yk' No I don't know.

She continued on by saying she has no problems against and respects but wouldn't support or disrespect/discriminate against someone and said it's like a conscientious disagreement she described it by saying its people who believe people should be free and do whatever they want but they don't feel they can personally affirm every lifestyle and belief.

I though she was confused and told her that you don't have to be a gay activist to support LGBT people she continued saying it was her morals I asked her what she meant by that and she sent me a CHATGPT explanation of a conscientious disagreement regarding gay people.

She said she finds lgbt weird and it's not the type of thing she encourages (except she helped me get my crush so that's really confusing).

I asked her do you think I'm weird and she said when did I say that.

We went back and forth and she said 'I didn't ask for a debate on my morals' and she said she's just not bothered about supporting it I told her it felt like she's not supporting me as a person.

I started to ignore her and she texted paragraphs saying how "I don't need her opinion" and she hopes I can accept her opinion as her friend and she kept drilling in that it's not based in religious beliefs or anything.

I sent her a long paragraph about how she doesn't have to be a social activist to support and how she would hate someone saying they don't support BLM so what's the difference here? I said it was a little homophobic and that she can't say I deserve love if she won't even support me.

She said she was glad I was honest with her but she didn't want to make me feel inferior nor like a bad person and that she sees how it came across as hurtful and why I feel that way and that it's just her moral beliefs formed from her upbringing and not hatred .

She repeated what she said before and asked me why I care so much about what she thinks about the LGBT (IM A LESBIAN) she kept sayng if she doesn't care about it she shouldn't support it.

So I said to that I don't support brown people(she's brown) and asked her to explain why it's wrong( I do support brown people and see them as equals I was hoping to show an example she could personally understand and align with).

She got upset and asked why I brought her race into this and that you cannot support brown people because it's a race and she said she never said the lgbtq was wrong and she said that she didn't expect me to react that way and she didn't know if we could be friends anymore and that I shouldn't make her feel like her beliefs were wrong and she doesn't have anything against me.

She stated being brown is something you can't control and I said neither is being gay and explained the point I wanted to get across she stated someones whole being is not their race or sexuality but I said it's a big part of who I am.

She said we're both much bigger than that and she'd never treat a person bad based off of one charateristic and I said that's not what I want at all and she said she needs space and she doesn't support but does accept.

I said shes contradicting herself and that we both need to cool off alone and talk later she said 'Idk if theres gonna be a later' and that we may not speak again I said that's dramatic and that I don't have a problem with her as a person and I want to be her friend for life which she put a 'thumbs up' on.

Aaaaaannnnndd that's it. What do i do now? I don't know how to explain to her how she really hurt me and how tolerance is in fact intolerance in the end and I'm trying really hard to be reasonable and see it from both sides because she is open minded and I want to help her be better like how she helps me understand things better. And no I won't leave my 4 year long friendship as this is literally the only problem, but I will take advice. And I thought maybe I need older gays who know what they're talking about as I am still in secondary school and struggling to understand myself me and my community so it's harder to educate others.