this person thinks I have to what they say be on go when they say jump when they want me too it’s annoying they also always ask me for favors and they also insult me but want to be in my life it’s so draining and weird this a weird friend ship has so much to say about me but remains trying to hangout with me
I’m officially done with a friendship that’s lasted over a decade. I’ve unfriended and removed her from everything before, but she always finds a way back in — texting me from other people’s accounts to “apologize,” or reaching out to my family members asking about me.
It’s gotten to the point where I have daily anxiety because I never know if she’s going to lash out or make a judgmental comment. It’s completely unprovoked. She’ll have a bad day and then say things specifically to bring me down to her level. She’s perpetually in crisis and expects me to have the perfect advice every time. If my response isn’t exactly what she wants to hear, she resorts to name-calling — “dumb,” “weird,” telling me I “don’t understand anything” like I’m a child.
She demands immediate replies. If I don’t respond within a minute, she’ll blow up my phone. She brings up my personal life out of nowhere just to criticize it. I’m constantly self-editing before I speak because anything can trigger an hours-long argument.
I’ve addressed this with her multiple times. I’ve told her that if she dislikes or resents me, we don’t have to talk. But she insists on staying in my life while simultaneously tearing me down. She’ll message me random criticisms about me because she’s angry then act like I should just accept it because “that’s how she is.” She frames it like I’m overreacting, when really it’s constant emotional dumping and projection.
I’m exhausted. It’s emotionally draining to feel like I’m walking on eggshells 24/7. For anyone who’s had to go no-contact with a long-term, enmeshed friend: how did you actually make it stick when they refuse to respect boundaries?
I’m officially done with a friendship that’s lasted over a decade. I’ve unfriended and removed her from everything before, but she always finds a way back in — texting me from other people’s accounts to “apologize,” or reaching out to my family members asking about me.
It’s gotten to the point where I have daily anxiety because I never know if she’s going to lash out or make a judgmental comment. It’s completely unprovoked. She’ll have a bad day and then say things specifically to bring me down to her level. She’s perpetually in crisis and expects me to have the perfect advice every time. If my response isn’t exactly what she wants to hear, she resorts to name-calling — “dumb,” “weird,” telling me I “don’t understand anything” like I’m a child.
She demands immediate replies. If I don’t respond within a minute, she’ll blow up my phone. She brings up my personal life out of nowhere just to criticize it. I’m constantly self-editing before I speak because anything can trigger an hours-long argument.
I’ve addressed this with her multiple times. I’ve told her that if she dislikes or resents me, we don’t have to talk. But she insists on staying in my life while simultaneously tearing me down. She’ll message me random criticisms about me because she’s angry then act like I should just accept it because “that’s how she is.” She frames it like I’m overreacting, when really it’s constant emotional dumping and projection.
I’m exhausted. It’s emotionally draining to feel like I’m walking on eggshells 24/7. For anyone who’s had to go no-contact with a long-term, enmeshed friend: how did you actually make it stick when they refuse to respect boundaries?
Need advice on cutting off a childhood friend. We’ve been close for 15+ years, but the dynamic has gotten really unhealthy and it’s taking a toll on my mental health.
She’s extremely critical and controlling. If I don’t text back within a few minutes, she’ll blow up my phone and get upset. She gets mad if I don’t share my personal business or tell her where I am all the time. If I’m busy with my kids or my partner, she makes rude, shaming comments about me being a parent — like I’m wasting my life or I shouldn’t have more children. It’s constant.
She downplays anything I accomplish. If I share good news, she’ll say “anyone could do that.” If I set a boundary or say I have plans with my family, it turns into a huge fight that lasts for hours. When I try to talk to her about how her comments hurt, she flips it on me, says I’m too sensitive, and claims “everyone else thinks this too.” Then she’ll act like nothing happened.
I’ve told her she doesn’t have to stay friends if she’s unhappy, but she won’t accept distance. She’ll call from different numbers if I don’t answer and expects to see me most days. Honestly, it feels less like a friendship and more like a toxic relationship. The double standards, the guilt trips, the need to know where I am 24/7 — it’s too much.
Has anyone ended a friendship this enmeshed? Did you have a conversation or just go no-contact? I’m worried about the blowback if I try to cut contact. Friends 15+ years. She blows up my phone if I don’t reply fast, demands to know my personal business/location, shames me for being a parent, and starts hours-long fights if I set boundaries. It feels like a toxic relationship. How do I end it?