I (25F) am hoping to move out with my boyfriend soon mainly because my mom has been getting more emotionally abusive and I can no longer take it. I am worried once I am out that she will still be treating me badly, I dont want to completely cut her off but would like advice if anyone has some on how to set limits. I am hopeful once i am out it wont be as bad anymore.
Ive been encountering issues with my mom pretty much my whole life but for the past two years things seemed have went from bad to worse. She has threatened to hit me in the past week twice but what she’s been doing more that bothers me the most is she gaslights me for everything. She claims to say things that I have done or said that are not true and when i stand up for myself she constantly makes me feel like im insane and wrong. She constantly tells people she wishes I would move away and she starts fights with me when she notices im in a good mood. At this point part me is starting to think she just doesn’t like me. Im not sure what I do wrong but in her eyes im the worst and the only one that messes up. All my other siblings have always been treated differently. I unfortunately am always the one who has to help my mom with everything and when I can’t its like im horrible person and everyone else gets to do as they please, and im still the worst. Im not sure if its some sort of psychological punishment or something that she is trying to put me through but I would really appreciate help.