u/Weird-Highway-3958

I breezed through the Muldowney Protocol's Lower Extremity Exercise Progression but the Neck, Mid Back And Upper Extremity Progression is soooo hard! Anyone else struggling here?

My question: Is the top level of each progression intended to be a "normal" person's baseline?

Are there any standards for what is considered a "normal" level of strength for things like TYI exercises, lateral raises, tricep pushdowns, etc. other than "train them until it stops hurting"? Having a goal makes it easier for me, psychologically speaking, to know that there is some kind of end point.

(X-posted in r/eds but didn't get any response so seeing if anyone here has experience with this they'd like to share)

I breezed through the Lower Extremity Exercise Progression but the Neck, Mid Back And Upper Extremity Progression is soooo hard!

My question: Is the top level of each progression intended to be a "normal" person's baseline?

My therapist will ask me what an emotion feels like in my body. I have basically the same response every time, that it feel like I'm about to cry - tight chest/throat, cotton-y in the sinuses and tears welling up. But this reaction happens for a lot of, maybe almost all of, my emotions. It makes it really hard to tell what's going on.

The binding is so cheap and they are so popular that it breaks almost immediately. Plus they take up SO much space on the shelf in an already jammed kids section. So I keep jamming broken garbage onto the shelf because I can't throw out a popular book we bought just 2 months ago...

I also hate the concept - I can't put my finger on exactly why but there is something about it that annoys me. It feels like a cynical cash grab and/or some kind of AI sloppification of how to turn cartoons into bedtime stories. Maybe I'm just old and grumpy.

My dad (70M) had a large tumor found on his kidney and is having surgery to remove it next Tuesday (4 days from now). The original surgery date was in August, but got moved up suddenly when the surgeon had an available opening.

Because of the size and location of the tumor the surgeon is unsure if he will be able to do a partial nephrectomy or a total removal. It's a robot assisted laproscopic surgery.

I was planning on flying out to be with them ASAP so my mom doesn't have to be the sole caretaker and for some moral support for my dad. When I talked to them they told me that he would probably stay in the hospital for 1-2 nights after surgery so it's not important for me to show up until after he gets home.

I can see their point but at the same time I wonder if this is really true because they don't really know how things are going to go either. Obviously I will respect their wishes but they are both quite wishy-washy and I get the feeling that they are putting on a brave face and trying to "spare me" from unpleasantness.

In your experience as a patient or a caretaker, what do you wish your family had done for you before and/or after surgery?

Especially Hyperactive-Impulsive types.

I know this is a gross generalization and that ADHD-HI types have a hard time too, the grass is always greener, yadda yadda yadda.

But it seems like society is more forgiving overall of people who do stuff, fuck up, and try again.

I just don't have the energy or motivation to do anything interesting and it's bumming me out. I come up with a cool idea and I can hardly get started, let along sustain any amount of effort. I always let my doubts and "common sense" prevent me from doing anything that's even a little bit risky.

I'm just so unwilling to mask or do anything socially taxing these days.

I wish I had a more neurotypical experience so I could actually do stuff that I want to do. Meds and therapy help but it's only getting me so far.

I'm in a VHCOL city in the US so it's a nightmare for everyone, but being an Audhd couple looking to buy for the first time makes it suck so much worse.

My experience:

• The real estate industry is full of so many glad handers who can't wait to sell you just any old dump so they can take their cut. I don't know who to trust or how to know who to trust.
• I don't understand the dynamics of asking prices vs what actually people offer or the psychology of this at all. Is this listing priced low because the seller wants to spark a bidding war? Are we expected to offer over asking? Why? All this 4-D chess and maneuvering is bananas to me. Why don't people just put the dollar amount they think their house is worth. I mean I "know why" but it bothers me that this is just "how the game is played." It's not a game to me, it's where I (potentially) LIVE!
• Every sensory need that we have between the two of us whittles down the pool of viable options until there's nothing left. I get treated like I'm too picky for needing features that won't cause my husband's allergies or chronic pain to flare. We've been looking seriously for 5-6 months and bid on 2 places that seemed alright but didn't work out and I feel like we are getting a "hurry up already" vibe from our agent.
• Agents don't take the time to make sure that you fully understand every small step of what happens and when because they've all done it a million times and don't know what we don't know. They are so cavalier and dismissive about what seems to me like an enormous amount of money.
• The speed of the process post-offer is insane. What do you mean I only have a week to coordinate and complete 5+ specialty inspections because the general inspection won't actually tell me anything useful? I spent 30 minutes maximum there at the open house 2 days ago and now I'm gonna gamble my family's, my husband's and my own life's savings on this?

I guess this is a location-specific gripe but around here it feels like the only two options are either 100+ year old building with visibly flaking lead paint and moldy wet basement, or new building made out of cardboard and toothpicks that is still off-gassing VOCs and also 50% more expensive.

Also yes I know we need to fire our agent but it's so fucking awkward!!

Has anyone in this sub made it through this process in a hyper competitive VHCOL city? How long did it take you and what is your advice? I'm feeling a little bit desperate at the moment.