u/Weird-Wasabi-3741

Been trying to get in touch with my surgeon for 2 weeks now with no call back no email back absolutely nothing.
Not only have I directly contacted her office, I have talked to appointment services a few times and they have also left her messages to call me back regarding a rather urgent issue. I also called the surgery scheduling line to see if they could help, also no reply and no call back. I’ve called multiple times to each department and emailed my doctor multiple times to no response. I’m not sure what’s going on but it’s really frustrating as my issue is just getting worse.
I don’t understand why she/ her nurses have not at least sent me a quick and short email back to let me know what’s going on or a call from her nurses to let me know the situation.
Guess it’s time to look for yet ANOTHER doctor within kaisers shit network 😒

I hate Kaiser, never once had a good experience with this stupid hospital.

Anyone else have a hard time getting in contact with their doctor?
I’m not sure if I should file a grievance or not as I don’t want my doctor to get upset or annoyed at me as I really need to continue seeing her.

My surgery was canceled and I have been having an extremely hard time rescheduling.

Emailed my doctor a week ago and no reply. Called to make an appointment and she is completely booked 🤦

She’s a great doctor and I obviously don’t blame her for any of this it’s just frustrating.

It’s just so annoying fighting for 3 years finally getting a surgery date and last minute something outta my control and the doctors control happens to cancel my surgery and last minute at that. I really hope she doesn’t drop me as a patient lol!

Has there been any ucla movement for the waitlist? I have see first years get off but what about transfers? Also idk if they go by major, I’m a psych major.

Thanks!

How did u guys deal with the pre op anxiety?

I have been pretty excited for the weeks leading up to surgery but when the day came a few hours before I was overcome with horrible dread and anxiety. My heart felt like it was going to leave my chest and I was fighting not to throw up. I have no idea why I was so anxious as I don’t believe I will regret this. I was excited to be done with BC pills, pain and bleeding but at the same time I felt like i should just be able to deal with the pain and bleeding since that’s “normal” for people who experience periods. I plan to ask for some anxiety meds as my surgery was pushed back and hopefully that will help but idk.

I was scheduled to have surgery this week and canceled an hour before. Not sure why as I am certain I do not want kids. I have no idea if it was just pre surgery nerves as I have never been under anesthesia. I have no diagnosed issues like pcos, adenomyosis or endometriosis. I do however have extremely painful week long periods where I can’t get out of bed and the bleeding is heavy. I am on birth control pills for about 2 years and in these 2 years I occasionally spot for a few weeks/months but the pain isn’t as bad. I also take it continuously because the thought of bleeding again every month for a week sounds like hell on earth. I got approved for surgery with no children and I am on the younger side (20). I’m a cis women but I do want to end up with a wife long term so bio kids are not an option anyways but even if they were I have never wanted them and don’t think I will in the future as I plan to become obtain my doctorate which takes many years to purse. I also have no interest in having children when I barely start my career which realistically will be at 28ish. I plan to work with foster youth so I have always been open to fostering/adopting as I see no point in brining a child into a world that already has many that need a home. I very much regret not going through with surgery and have no idea if I can reschedule but I hope I can as I haven’t been able to get over not getting it done. Since I canceled I haven’t been able to stop crying or basically do anything. I fought to get this surgery for 3 years and now that it came I chickened out. I would like to say it was nerves but I have no idea. I also feel since I am not diagnosed with anything that my pain isn’t valid (never been tested because no doctor has wanted to or believed my pain) I also feel as if I may just be over reacting and women deal with worse. Why did I get lucky and find a doctor when other women suffer for decades? It’s a weird feeling bc it’s not about me but about society, I feel as if society and doctors want u to suffer and don’t believe women so I doubt my own feelings about pain. Also I did mention being on bc pill which has horrible side effects which is another reason I would like this surgery. I have tried a few brands of pills and non work. Not interested in any other form of BC as it doesn’t have estrogen and I have no interest in bleeding on progesterone only BC. Also I have been on these BC pills for so long I have gotten used to the horrible side effects and only cry a few times a month about them and then kinda move on because what else am I supposed to do. I don’t really wanna stay on BC until I go through menopause or until I’m 30 and “not as stupid” to then fight again for a hysterectomy. I also feel as if people say that younger adults are stupid and don’t know what they want. I would like to believe I’m not an idiot and can make choices at this age that I won’t regret but it’s difficult when everyone thinks otherwise.

Idk the point of this post ig anything would be helpful. If u were young and had it done and how are older how do you feel? And another thing that would be helpful is if you got it done and had no diagnosis.

Thanks sorry it’s so long.

TLDR: I’m 20 and canceled my hysterectomy the day of and now I REGRET it. I would like to get it done but I had nerves the hour before after being excited for many weeks before. Idk if it was just pre surgery nerves or actual second guessing as I don’t want children. I think I feel as if my feelings aren’t valid and I should just suffer on BC pills until I go through menopause or am 30 and “less stupid” according to every adult ever.

Sorry for any typos and bad writing.I just wanted to write everything out. Didn’t really think about the formatting of my writing lol.