u/WeirdWriters

Or what are you majoring in college if you’re a college student

This is a question for my fellow adult users here :)

Took me a year to finally feel like I’m moving on from a guy and really process what had happened. I feel like throughout this journey I’ve backslided so many times (holding out hope deep down inside) and ruminated on trying to figure him out and where he stood, applying MBTI to how I viewed his behavior, thought of different possibilities as I found comfort in just going over them and knowing of these different scenarios.

But everytime I really tried to make sense of things, my mind just couldn’t. I wasn’t getting anywhere with really understanding the situation for what it was, and I don’t think it was me subconsciously wanting to avoid the truth, but rather my brain was focused on two puzzle pieces that were not shaped to fit each other and I’m just there scratching my head sitting there not really knowing what to do with those pieces but just knowing I had to make sense of it. But now I’ve felt the desire to really find the truth telling myself (as lately I’ve just been distracting myself and putting my energy into something else) “let’s try to look at this without letting emotion and ego get in the way and that messing up the process to understanding things” and it just really hit that true peace is just accepting the situation for what it was, at face value and just knowing I deserve better. It’s not complex as my ego or heart wanted to make it.

I knew I had to take things at face value before, but something in me has surrendered and aligned at last. I’ve accepted to see him without the dimension I gave him in interpreting his character and what could be between us and why he hadn’t reached out to me for this long or reminiscing on what was. I’m not scorned, bitter, hurt anymore at last. It’s just like “he just didn’t like you that much and that’s ok, you deserve better and you’ll find better” I’m even excited now for the future as I feel this sense of freedom and possibilities of how to make my life more fun again.

Was this the naive idealistic Ne Hero and inferior Si in action? Or was it just my ADHD or another cognitive function lol

I’m not really on the Native American side of social media often but on TikTok I get videos from time to time of black Americans saying they’re the real indigenous people of the Americas and that the people we know today as natives aren’t really native and are transplants. I know most black people aren’t like this (this has to be a tiny minority of people within the black community who think this.. right? Like I’ve never met a black person who’s thought this irl) but I also feel like this idea is growing amongst that community which is really disappointing and disturbing.

It’s crazy to see a video’s comments get like 15k likes reiterating that. As a racially indigenous person (roots in South America but born and raised in the US), I find this highly offensive. It makes me want to throw hands.

Have you met anyone who’s believed this in real life? And do you think this idea is growing or becoming more visible?

I think I’ve only met and have some decent time with 2 ENTJs within the last couple of years and currently have a mentor who’s one!

I met him in a program and many people didn’t really like him perceiving him as intimidating and too blunt, but I actually appreciated his direct objective assertive no bs way of expressing himself. It was very authentic and eventually as I spent more time with him I’ve seen how he is always toning down his bluntness because he seems aware sometimes some people may a little more sensitive and will make someone feel appreciated or like it’s not their fault entirely and can be very understanding. He’s just very aware and I get the feeling that it took some time to learn to be more gentle at times when it’s needed.

I also just think that his blunt and honest expressiveness is hilarious many of the times (even when he’s being serious unfortunately). He’s a great mentor and guy. He’s very grounding and inspiring to be productive and putting in the work to get to your dreams. Maybe it’s my Te child admiring his Te Hero mindset lol

Not sure how I’d feel about ENTJs as lovers though lol.

What’s your experience with ENTJs?

I was just thinking how many of the songs my mom loves are from Europe because she grew up with a lot of euro-pop in the early 80s lol.

This is aimed at ENFPs in the mid 20s and up. Also mention their MBTI if you know it :)

As someone in my mid 20s and still single after a recent delusionship, I need to know how you guys did it!

Personally, I feel like average guys don’t really interest me, I’m weird, I like topics that I feel like your average joe won’t care about which feels like the dating pool is smaller and the kind of guys I like are less common to come across. I want someone who can see nuance and take interest in deeper elements of reality.

ENFP men, feel free to chime in as to how you met your partners!

Hola! Soy de Estados Unidos con papas de Perú y me entró la curiosidad de saber qué común es tener y saber de antepasados indígenas más o menos recientes, por lo menos tatarabuelos. Que vienen de regiones donde hablan una lengua nativa y tienen las costumbres directas indígenas?

Mis cuatro abuelos eran de la sierra y altiplano donde hablaban quechua (y aymara creo) y migraron a la ciudad donde tuvieron mis padres.

Y que de común es ser Peruano mestizo donde no conoce de un antepasado indígena porque sus antepasados eran mestizos por muchas generaciones?

Cambio: Perdon por la confusión. Tenía en mente preguntarle a Peruanos de ciudades grandes como Lima o Arequipa. Para ellos es la pregunta