I stalked my friends ex for him
UPDATE: I took some advice from you all, I talked to her actually at the gym and I feel bad because she got scared, not about me but about him wanting access to her. she asked me to not talk to him about her understandably. she said she’s still healing and wants no part of him, his life or one associated with him. She also thought it was funny I went to Reddit 😂. so thank you all for the help
so my buddy‘s ex broke up with him back in February. they were together for like 2 years or something. they broke up once before (again her leaving him) but this time it was bad and it was clear she wasn’t coming back.
i had never met the girl, they met at work, they both work in psych hospital. he worked there first and he said he was drawn to her one day after hearing how she engaged with patient. anyways. he got a new gf like immediately after she broke up with him, he’s a content creator, he does some spicy stuff too. she didn’t seem to care about that stuff though.
well, she got pregnant and even though they are both 32 he told her he can’t have the kid because it would ruin his online image. he needs to stay the single guy to keep the views, she went through with the abortion but man, it clearly destroyed her. and to make things worse he started to treat her like absolute trash the whole time. even was hitting up the ugly ex that nobody liked because he needed attention. the guy needs 24/7 admiration and attention that’s pretty clear, pretty sure he’s a narcissist and Borderline because he also has bipolar.
anyways. I started stalking her IG for him to keep tabs. even talked to her a little bit. i really don’t like his new gf, she’s obnoxious and he doesn’t know she still heavy tries to get at other dudes. but his ex, she’s amazing. she’s super sweet, hella funny, she’s a good mom (she already had a kid which pisses me off because he made it sound like her having a kid was problem) its been 6 months now maybe since they broke up and im starting to actually hate my buddy and really like his ex, not in a way but in a “someone needs to protect this girl” type of way. shes the type of person who you know would show up for you at 3am no matter what. (when they broke up the first time he called her after his bike accident and the girl dropped everything for his dumb ass and took care of him)
so my moral dilemma is: do I keep stalking his ex or do I drop him because he’s really starting to come off as a fake person. I almost want to out him online too because it’s weird the way he acts online but then know what I know about what he did to this girl who is like every man’s dream woman.