How do you handle this if this happened to you?
I’m 33F, and my partner previously had an 8-year relationship with a woman from a less privileged area in Colombo. After they ended their relationship, she got married within a month or two and now has a child. They separated as she was not willing to move out of the area, and my partner's parents were not happy about the family background and her religion.
Even years after the breakup, she has continued posting old videos of herself with my partner, including some with his watermark and inappropriate captions. For example, she once posted a video of herself on a beach with a sexual caption referring to their past." We had semx here, and it was good, kinda in a very Sinhalese poet, so I cannot recall it exactly". I tried contacting her and requested that she remove these posts since they are no longer together, but she refused and blocked me.
Recently, although it has been several years since their breakup, she has started posting in various Facebook groups, implying that she was mistreated and he left her due to her vitiligo. She got vitiligo two years into the relationship, and he stayed with her for 6 years with that condition, he thought things would be okay even though the vitiligo was kind of a problem for his parents. And from her past FB posts she actully were treated well , she has got all her jewelery made for the wedding if one day they get permission , my partner paid the rent of her nursery she was operating, and many many trips and it's all still in her FB wall . While she does not mention my name directly, people recognise the situation and bring it back to me, which is affecting me socially. She has also contacted acquaintances of my family and spread disturbing rumours.
My partner has also reached out to her and her husband asking them to stop, but the situation has not improved and she continues to respond in a very disrespectful and offensive manner ( a typical mudukku behaviour ). At this point, we are unsure how to handle it and are currently considering ignoring her behaviour.
How do you handle this if this happened to you?