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How do I respond to racism from fellow Sri Lankans who have fairer skin?

How do I respond to racism from fellow Sri Lankans who have fairer skin?

I have gotten these insults

  1. "brown like a beggar"
  2. "u look black like a N word"
  3. "face only a mother could love, dark bich"

Photo above is the colour of my skin (take it with a pinch of salt it's under lighting)

I have been depressed for various reasons and this being one of them, I tried revealing about this in therapy and the response i got was "that's how classmates are" this is from a licensed counsellor btw

Recently, a close friend of mine posted a bad photo of me in status because I was leaving for Canada and he thought it was funny in his head and I confronted him about it and I said I go to therapy for shit like this - he refused to take it down until his girlfriend saw it and she sent a laughing emoji to that status and he sends me the screenshot and then he takes down the story... When I blocked him he has gone and insulted me about how dark skinned I am and how much I look like a beggar - made fun of me going to therapy (this guy's family sees caste btw) which my best friend like a best friend shared to me (I still can't trust anyone)

I just don't have a response against fair-skin prejudice in Sri Lanka - I'm so sick and tired - it's now bad to be brown in Sri Lanka and especially if you're a Muslim

I have gotten sneaky mico-aggressions like "are you Hindu?" (Eluding to the fact that Tamil people have darker skin tones)

I can't say anything to people with fairer-skin, I should just take the insult and go - you think success is a answer to these fair-skin people? They probably don't care - because they see me as a brown guy at the end of the day...

End of rant - I think I just gotta take it in the chin

u/z3in-23-2 — 17 hours ago

SriLankan vehemently defends Israeli tourist's Chabad houses.

Full video : STV

Too impatient, iam starting off with my personal opinion,

Lmaooo this is hilarious, even a sane Pro-Israeli person would agree this is leashed dog walking 😭

No tourist project needs this type of defending, specially if the establishment is a solely religious institution. Unless there are actual SriLankan Jews (Which I have not heard of), permanent Chabad houses for TOURISTS who practice Judaism make NO sense.

Pretty clear the basis/foundation of this man's argument is deep hate/fear for Muslims, nothing else.

Not even Indians and Thai would go this far to defend something so foriegn, specially a religious institution.

...

The man's main reasons for defending Chabad houses:

"If Muslims kill cows for Haj and we allow it, even on days like Wesak, then the Jewish tourists can also have their Chabad houses"

"Israeli military technology and support were part of the reason we triumphed over the LTTE"

"(Allegedly) The protests were born out of jealousy where a party lost a good deal with the Israeli tourists and riled up the village to try to intimidate the other party"

"The Chabad houses have not tried to convert any Buddhists or spread the religion"

"Israel pays Srilankans alot of money and make them rich in their home land while the other Gulf countries treat Srilankans badly"

"There is about 29 Buddhist institutions in Israel both Theravada and Mahayana, where are the same in Saudi, Kuwait and Qatar"

u/quikplots — 22 hours ago

Sri Lanka Travel Agent Took Our Money, Promised the Trip Was Happening, Then Completely Ghosted Us — Now Even the Refund Is Missing

I'm posting this because a group of us a completely stuck and honestly furious, and we advice on what steps we can take.

We were supposed to travel to Sri Lanka on 22 August 2026 through d trave

agent.

People started making payments in June.

One ₹10,000 indian ruppee for the land package. Other people paid significantly more for land + flight packages:

Couple - 50,000

Couple - 66,000

Solo traveller - ₹27,000

Solo traveller - 35,000

And several other people paid different amounts according to the state they were travelling from.

The payments from people in India were made through Google Pay/UPI and bank transfers to people/accounts based in India, who were apparently handling the Indian-side collections and were supposed to transfer the money to the Sri ankan agent.

o we have transaction records and payment trails.

round 20 days ago, we all started asking for the flight tickets over groups & dm, he's responding to no one. Then, on a single message he mentioned-

would be is would be shared soon (no it'd b shared).

then NOTHING.

Days and days of trying to contact him. Calls, whatsApp messages, Group messages, Individual messages. No respon

We kept trying to reach him because the travel date was getting closer and closer, and people understandably wanted confirmation that their their visas, flights and arrangements were actually sorted

But we were basically talking to a wall.

After getting no proper response for days despite his previous assurance that the trip was definitely appening, people understandably started getting nappening, people understandably stal worried and began requesting refunds.

Some of us formally requested refunds by email as well.

And this is when he finally responded saying that the refund would be credited within 14 days. We have been asking for a transaction ID, refund receipt, proof that the refund was actually initiated. receipt, proof that the refund was actually initiated, or literally any evidence that our money is being returned. Again. NOTHING.

u/Mysterious_Ask2674 — 1 day ago

Where does ‘Pipunu Thisarun’ come from?

A cover of Charitha Attalage’s Latin Kankariya is going viral these days, which has this line ‘Pipunu thisarun magadi dutuwai?’, referring to female breasts. I know ’thisara’ is a literary word for swan, but why exactly is it used as an euphemism for breasts? I don’t see a resemblance.

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u/ScreenshotSmuggler — 1 day ago

Grindr or Tinder?

24M looking forward to a healthy adult life. Been missing out on dates and stuff like that. So i'm looking forward to using either of these apps.

Which one works well in Sri Lanka? Is there anyone here using these? How's your adult/dating life?

Drop your thoughts fellas.

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u/ChickenKotthu — 1 day ago

I am korean, living in srilanka

hello, I came to srilanka when I was 3 years old. I like srilanka, love srilanka. but my parents didn't teach me srilanka language, culture, any thing about srilanka.

the question is what should I do to know about srilanka?

I don't know what is the best way.

just I don't want to spend my time in srilanka like this.

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u/Im-not-uglykorean — 1 day ago
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Good Martial Arts Clubs in Colombo

Hi peeps! Are there any good martial arts clubs in the Colombo area that I can join? It would be great if they’re beginner-friendly. Hit me up if you know of any!

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u/Hairy-Log5279 — 1 day ago

If monthly cost you 25k - 27k lkr for transportation ( uber ) it’s worth to buy motorcycles that cost you 7,5 laks ?

Do you think is worth?

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u/Junpert88 — 1 day ago
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A-Level students, how many hours a day do u actually study?

Hey everyone!! Im doing Edexcel bio, chem and physics. I just wanted to get a realistic idea of how much time A-Level students spend studying daily (both on school days and weekends).

Are you tracking pure study hours, or just going with the flow? How are yall balancing school, tuition, and self-study without burning out? Would love to hear what works for you guys.

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u/Accomplished-Tap8585 — 2 days ago
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If anyone is interested in starting a vehicle importing ( From japan auctions ) business , I can guide/handle you through a entire process without any thirparty

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u/xtxsl — 1 day ago

Any ENTJ, ENTP, ENFJ, ENFP girls who'd be into a dynamic FLR relationship?

I know this isn’t a dating sub. Maybe that’s the point. I’ve typed and deleted this like five times already.

24M, 5’11”, athletic build but currently in dad bod recovery. Holiday damage, it’s whatever, I’m back at it.

INTJ. So yeah, I’ve already overanalyzed this post, the replies I might get, and probably your reaction to reading it.

I’m not looking for someone to just exist with. The whole job → marriage → kids → die script feels empty to me. I want someone with depth. Someone who thinks about shit beyond the surface. You don’t need to have it all figured out. I just need you to want more than the default.

I like a woman who’s dominant and decisive. In the intimate/personal side of things, I can let go. That’s not how I operate in the rest of my life though. I have my own code, my own direction. If things start going off the rails, I take the wheel. Not a power struggle, just knowing when to step up.

My circle is tight. Trust isn’t something I hand out. I’m not gonna dump my whole life story in a public post.

If any of that resonates, drop a comment. If not, keep scrolling. Either way, I’ll probably overthink this later. Lol.

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u/EastReindeer6713 — 1 day ago
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Advice for October travel

Hi all - I am planning to visit Sri Lanka with my parents in 8th - 13th October.

Currently thinking of doing Colombo, Galle, Weligama, Ahangama, Mirissa, Hriketiya, and maybe Tangalle too. I understand October isn’t the most ideal month but this is in extension of a conference.

Wanted to see if this weather is doable for the beaches? Will I be able to even go to the beach and maybe step/ play in the water? Do we get sunsets or is it cloudy mostly? Any guidance on locations of choice, activities, weather etc is super helpful. Thanks!

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u/Creepy_Law_3426 — 2 days ago

Cosmetic websites in SL Real or Fake?

I recently ordered a SKIN1004 Madagascar Centella product from AdumaKuduma.lk for around LKR 6,400. After ordering, I found another website, centella.lk, selling the similar product for roughly the same price.

Now I'm wondering if I made the wrong choice by ordering from AdumaKuduma 😭. I’m not sure whether AdumaKuduma.lk is legit and sells authentic products, or whether centella.lk would have been the safer option.

Unfortunately, I've already placed the order and can't cancel it now, so I'm mainly looking for people who have actually ordered SKIN1004 products from AdumaKuduma.lk and can tell me whether the product they received was authentic.

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u/Rude-Put5701 — 1 day ago

Is Israel genuinely interested in destabilizing SL, or is it just easier to pass the blame onto them?

Kalmunai has been getting alot of attention lately after Muslim nurses were barred from entering the hospital premises due to their work attire that conforms to religious requirements. Read more on the issue .

Since the event, Chandrasekaram Rajan (Chairman of the hospital committee) has not backed down, instead doubled down, voicing the majority union notion of the state-wide universal dress code.

This is where former state minister Harees makes the claim that Mossad is behind this agitation, meant to break the Tamil-Muslim relations.

The real topic here is foreign intervention! Does the state of Israel gain from a divided Srilanka?

This is the second time I have come across Israel being alleged as the main conspirator.

The other incident was the tragic Easter Bombings where Israel/Mossad was alleged to have had a connection with Zahran. This is similar to the claim that Abu Bakar (Caliph of the Islamic State) was trained by Mossad/Is an Israeli.

What does Israel actually gain from all this? Sri Lanka is already diplomatically close to Israel and surveys on public perception show SriLankans have a slightly favorable opinion on the state (Compared to other nations).

That said, what does Israel ACTUALLY gain from doing all this? From an unbiased standpoint I personally cannot fathom SriLanka being of any importance to Israel's global agenda.

Other notable conspiracies involving Israel is the founding of ISIS itself, orchestrated the Oct 7 incursion and doing 9/11.

Looking at the above allegations, Kalmunai hospital dress code does not seem to be a potential globally reverberating plan hatched by Mossad that benefits the state of Israel.

u/quikplots — 3 days ago
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I need a trustworthy place or doctor to get checked a toe. In Colombo.

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u/Prime_lucky — 2 days ago

Ongoing protests in jaffna

Scenes in Jaffna rn as locals protest the gen0cide of the Tamil people during the civil war (specifically the newly discovered mass graves) and call for justice. Do they stand a change w the current government or is it a lost cause? I'm new to Sri Lanka so I'd love to know your thoughts.

Also, the racist mods over at the r/srilanka sub removed this for some reason. Even though the discussions were civil

u/No_Tough_4263 — 3 days ago