Vent/seeking advice[16m/16f]: girlfriend moving to india
To get it out of the way: I'm young, as the title of this post indicates, and frankly inexperienced wrt relationships. Probably, the smart thing to do is to accept that I have plenty of time to find someone else, and treat it like a break-up. Probably, I'll come off as naive (because I probably am), but I just needed to type this out, I guess, and maybe have someone tell me if I'm being insane.
This story could probably be a rom-com, or a good not-meant-to-be romance -- we're both (or, she's really good; I just dabble) writers, so go figure. Perhaps, ten years down the line, I'll write something and dedicate it to her.
Note: I am in the UK. So, without further ado:
Maybe three months ago, I met a girl on reddit. Three months isn't a long time, I know, but for one it's the longest serious -- if you can call a relationship at our age serious (id like to think so, but I know some people disagree) -- relationship I've been in; and, for another -- I dunno, it feels like I've known her forever. That seems a theme in our relationship: after even just the first few days of speaking to her we felt as though we'd been friends for weeks, she'd changed her phone password to my birthday, and in general we hit it off to an immense degree. I loved the fire and wit of her mind -- I don't know what she saw in me, but evidently she liked me very much too.
There was a hitch, though: having met her through reddit, I mostly fell in love, if you'll excuse the cheese, with a disembodied voice. I figured I needed time to fall in love with her body too, and in that regard I was right -- I have had time now -- but rather stupidly I said that out loud and as one might expect there was some turmoil in our relationship. But, that passed, and I met her in person in late August, our relationship having finally found its footing. I even went so far as to on several occasions make the mistake of imagining what raising a family with her would be like -- not seriously, of course, and certainly I was under no delusions it was likely, but I hope I have managed to impress upon you the degree to which I felt -- as I told her in no uncertain terms some eleven hours after we'd first met in a r/gcse comment section -- she was perfect for me.
I do still feel that way, of course, and it goes without saying that I love her very much. But the author of our story, evidently having decided that enough time had passed since the last major challenge to our relationship so as to risk viewer retention, has now created another: due to issues outside her control, which I will not go into here, she has to return to India, where she (or, rather, her parents intend for her to) will complete her education at least until the undergraduate level.
Given I am posting here, I neither want to nor intend to break it off. I do truly believe I will not find someone like her again, for better or for worse. On the other hand, she is now going to be preparing for NEETs with half the time a normal candidate will have, so will -- as she has warned me -- have little time to talk to me, or eat, or sleep, or do anything. On a similar magically-appearing third hand, it will be at least two years until I can see her again -- there is no chance her parents will agree to let me/her visit, costs aside (they, being stereotypical Indian parents, disapprove of her having any contact with boys); and even calls will be few and far between (when they are out of the house, and we're both not busy).
So, um,
Thoughts? Am I being stupid? Does anyone have any encouraging/reassuring/motivating words/stories/examples? Any general advice would be appreciated too!