Feeling Guilty - what to do?
My wife (40f) and I (40m) have been together for 22 years and married for 12. We have an 8 year old son. Over the years we have drifted apart. Little to no communication, no intimacy, we don’t do anything together etc. We have been nothing more than roommates for probably the last 10 years or so. I have fallen completely out of love with her. I don’t want to live the rest of my life like this. My mental health has not been good, at all. The other day I brought this up to her. Now she’s being all lovey dovey and telling me she wants to fix things, and that she loves me so much. She’s also said I can’t leave because it would hurt my son. She’s also said I’d be breaking vows I made. My son is happy, he’s smart, he’s doing well in school. She seems to be content living like this. So I’m feeling guilty now that I’d be ruining both of their lives if I left. I’m struggling with what to do. I’m not in love with her anymore but I care about her and don’t want to hurt her. Do I just suck it up and keep them happy? I don’t know.