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had a TFMR at 14 weeks in June 2026 for diagnosed T18, and my husband and i had agreed to take time off from TTC by focusing on getting in shape, eating healthy etc, before trying again next year.

just missed my period a few days ago, and got a positive test result.

i don’t know how to feel. all i wanted was to have a healthy baby, but after experiencing the tfmr in my first pregnancy, i can’t get the thought out of my head that everything is going to happen again. have been spiralling over the past few days, wavering between elatedness and pure fear.

A very wanted pregnancy but unfortunately we received the diagnosis that our baby has T18, and will be proceeding with a medical termination early next week (when I am approximately 14 +4).

Prior to consulting with the doctor on the termination method, I had been under the impression that I would be undergoing the surgical method, and thought that would be better for me both emotionally and mentally as I have been distraught since finding out about our baby's condition. However, the doctor informed me that for a 14 week pregnancy, the primary mode would be via medical termination (mifepristone / misoprostol), and I've been scheduled to take my first mifepristone pill this Sunday, and thereafter get admitted for the misoprostol to be inserted.

I've been trawling through any forums I can find as well as reddit for past experiences, but have seen many traumatic recounts and am getting very fearful and anxious of what is to come. I'm particularly fearful of the pain that some have talked about, as well as the possibility of excessive / prolonged bleeding.

Would be grateful if you could share your experiences with me.