u/Wild-Childhood6881 — reddlx

I learned about CPTSD two years ago and have had the hardest years of my life since then. I use this everyday, hopefully it helps you.

Hi all,
I'm a reddit lurker generally but I've been very appreciative of this and similar communities. I was floating through life, barely existent (I lean very freeze-type) until I came across the concepts of C-PTSD, trauma, narcissism, and the things that eerily fit my own life.

Since that point about two years ago, I've blown up my life (divorce, moved across the country, limited family contact, multiple job switches) and have struggled to find my way. FWIW, I'm a 34-year old male, and I tend to isolate quite a bit because of the baseline fear and hypervigilance. I've consumed all of the amazing resources out there (Pete Walker's book, Alice Miller's books, Healing the Shame that Binds You, attachment theory books, Heidi Priebe on YouTube, Crappy Childhood fairy, Dr. Ramani on YouTube, countless others). I've done talk therapy, meditation (I've liked the Open app), lots of journaling.

Anyway, shit is still pretty hard. I find things that work but it's temporary. A combination of writing, meditating, somatics, and consuming positive resources tends to help me a lot when I can stay consistent. It helps me feel like I'm supported in a world where I've never really had any close connections.

I've found that one of the biggest problems for me is the pit of emotional flashback. I can't remember the life-changing insights, the helpful practices, the feeling of not having fog filling my brain. So I made a little tool that I've been using everyday and I wanted to share here. It integrates a lot of these practices and does something that I've found particularly valuable for me - tracking patterns. It helps me understand the things I'm doing that are keeping me in flashback and the things that always help. It's almost like a little version of me there to be like "hey dude, you hate yourself when you do these things".

It's at https://bluebonsai.life. It's free, no data selling, AI training, nothing like that. You can use it on your phone if you just hit Share > Add to Home Screen (if you have an iPhone).

I hope it helps someone - thank you all for sharing your experiences, it's helped me tremendously.

u/Wild-Childhood6881 — 4 days ago

▲ 28 r/turo

Turo canceled my reservation while I was mid-flight, charged me for it, then hung up on me. First and last booking.

First time using Turo, definitely the last. Currently sitting at the airport figuring out my transpo right now so I’m going to do my best not to rage post this. Here’s the timeline, speaks for itself:

Booked a car for airport pickup, reservation set at 5pm for 1am (late flight). I was on the flight during the verification window (which I didn’t know was a thing). Wheels up 10pm ET, landed 12am CT.

10:15pm CT: email saying I need to provide more info or the reservation gets canceled. I’m in the air. No way to see it, no way to respond.

11pm CT: second email, reservation canceled. Still on the plane.

Charged for most of the booking anyway.

So I land with no car, already out the money, and I’m booking an Uber on the spot.

I went through chat and phone support. The whole response was “it’s our policy,” over and over. Nobody would acknowledge that the cancellation window opened and closed while I was physically on an airplane and could not have responded if I wanted to. I laid out the exact timeline to the phone rep and asked him how he’d feel in my position. He hung up on me.

I’m not even posting for the refund at this point. I just can’t believe a company can cancel on you for not answering an email you had no way to see, charge you for it, and then have a person hang up the phone instead of dealing with it. I’ve booked rental cars with most of the national brands and can’t imagine anything like this happening.

For anyone who uses Turo for the first time, how is this not a constant problem? Posting as a warning and just venting. Build in a backup, because their verification system apparently doesn’t account for the possibility that you’re traveling to the airport where you’re picking the car up.

Literally never again.

Edit: just to add insult to injury, received this text at 1:44am “Turo: Action required. Your trip will be canceled at 11:00 PM CDT if you don't submit the required information”

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u/Wild-Childhood6881 — 12 days ago

▲ 0 r/Ask_Lawyers

Are these resources helpful to people that can’t afford attorneys?

Hello lawyers of Reddit. I went through a few challenging legal situations in the last couple of years and found myself having more questions than attorneys could answer, not because my attorney weren’t good, but because I honestly couldn’t deal with any level of uncertainty and of course, very few legal processes are straightforward and predictable. Reddit helped, online resources helped, but I’m more than a little neurotic so I ended up constantly ChatGPT’ing about my situation.

Fast forward to the other side of these legal troubles and I’ve found myself wanting to help others (with resources, not legal advice) if they’re navigating similar things. I used many of my chat transcripts, personal case docs, and a shit ton of general research to track what people may want to know as their cases progress, and I put together free resources to help answer things around the process. The idea is basically to help people be a little less afraid when they’re entering one of the most challenging periods of their lives (bankruptcy, divorce, immigration, and adding others).

Put simply, my question is - would this help your clients? Or people that can’t afford to be your clients.

buddy-foundation.org

Thanks in advance!!

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u/Wild-Childhood6881 — 1 month ago