Feeling like a villain for my boundaries.
Me and my boyfriend have just moved into a new house together. The current set up is that he has his son alternate weekends and usually gives the ok if his mum asks him to have his son in advanced on the odd week days, all fine. however. The house we moved into is not to far from his school, and just recently he’s been turning up and letting himself in while we are at work, sometimes with his friends. They are a good bunch of kids, little geeky so I’m not worried they’ll trash the place. however I don’t like it. I feel like my personal space is being invaded, like I have to make sure I keep everything tidy, nothing personal lying around. This stops me feeling relaxed in my own home. I also work flexible hours sometimes I work from home, sometimes i’m out in the morning and home in the afternoon or vice versa and I now don’t feel relaxed in my own home because he might turn up. I get on with him great, but I just need my own space. I don’t have kids of my own and I have never wanted them and i also lived on my own for 5 years and grew to appreciate privacy and peace. Is this a me problem ?
my boyfriends view is that his son should be able to come and go as he pleases at ”his” house which leaves a bitter taste. because it’s my house too, I get where he’s coming from but also feel like it’s not what I signed up for and my boyfriend knew this about me.