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Hi! I'm on Ritalin 10mg (2x a day), but want to ask my psychiatrist to change my dosage. My original prescription was for Concerta 18mg (I was able to secure this in March 2026) but due to shortage I'm just reserving the last 6 tablets for when I absolutely need to take it.

Concerta 18mg works well for me.

Ritalin 10mg at 2x a day - I think is starting to lose effect for me. Like I can't... start on anything anymore compared to months ago.

I want to ask my psych for a Ritalin LA prescription instead of the IR. It will either be LA 10mg, 20mg, or 30mg. I know Concerta 18mg works for me, maybe the Ritalin LA 20mg will be okay. But I just want to know if the drugstores (Metro Manila) have these in stock? And which ones usually?

Tyia.

Hi! I'm curious with how people handle caffeine (specifically tea and matcha) with their meds. I'm currently on Ritalin 10mg (1-2x a day depending).

Before being diagnosed, coffee didn't do anything for me. Matcha sometimes helps me with mood and tea keeps me alert. My psychiatrist told me not to have caffeine at all, or at least have it in controlled amounts (tea) and not right after/before taking meds.

I want to have a daily matcha routine but worried it will make the Ritalin less effective.

How is everyone's relationship with caffeine nowadays with medication?

I'm probably overthinking this. Is there a specific order in the greeting flow?

Is it:

• 아머님, 아버님, 안녕하세요! 만나서 반갑습니다.
• 안녕하세요, 아머님, 아버님! 만나서 반갑습니다.
• 안녕하세요 아버님! 안녕하세요 아머님! 만나서 반갑습니다.

I'm going to give them a gift (small token of appreciation). Maybe I can ask how was their flight (they landed last night), and if they enjoyed their breakfast (they ate with my boyfriend).

They are staying at my boyfriend's apartment for the 5-day trip in my country.

Maybe I can also add: 한국말 잘 못해요. 그래서 [my bf] 번역할 것입니다.

We're having lunch together (first time to meet).

Thank you for advice!

I can't understand why some theists get offended when I say I'm a non-practicing Catholic... I didn't even say I'm a non-believer technically. I've never understood organized religion. But in my country, Catholicism is so ingrained in society that it's just something expected of everyone to follow. Many that I know lack the critical self-reflection. I've seen it over Reddit threads as well... Anonymity grants disrespect and unkind words to "non-believers".

In my direct cultural community, we have a syncretism that blends in Taoist, Buddhist, and Catholic practices. Which is honestly why I'd usually just say I'm agnostic and open to every religion. To me, I think all religions kinda teach the same lessons of kindness, human dignity, humility, compassion, etc. All the books I've read growing up would have thought me this anyway.

I don't know, I just wanted to rant a little here. I'm tired of people (online and in person) trying to lecture/criticize me about my personal relationship with spirituality and the universe. I grew up with a mix of religious/spiritual teachings and philosophies. But I definitely wouldn't hate on others for believing in one religion.

Hello! I'm a (non-practicing) Catholic, and my fiance is atheist (no religion). We'll have a Church wedding as requested by my parents (no problem here). But I do have a fear of dolls and human-like statues (basta may mukha na hindi gumagalaw....) so I wanted to check if there are any locations that don't have those. The few churches we checked had a lot (they were scary to me).

Would appreciate leads! Anywhere within Metro Manila, and with aircon, and can accommodate 200+ guests. Our reception is at Marriott (Newport).

Hi! I'm Chinese-Filipino, my boyfriend is Korean. We're in our mid-30s and living in the Manila. We've only been dating for 10 months and my boyfriend already wants to get married so we've been planning our wedding (setting for earliy 2027). I honestly think it's going too fast. His parents told everyone in his family that we're getting married even though I haven't met his parents yet (they're all in Korea). I want to slow down but at this pace, I don't think it can be stopped.

My parents are workaholics and I live with them. I am definitely privileged to have responsible and generous parents. They really take care of everyone. I just want to move out because of a lack of privacy (we're in an apartment), constant negging/criticizing, shop talk 24/7, and emotional negligence. So I will have to put up a fake attitude with my parents until marriage...

I feel a bit guilty when I think of my parents as my walking piggy banks. It's awful to think! (but the thought is already there...) But they've always told me they'll handle everything, that I don't need to worry about money. In my head, it meant that I did not need to do anything more, or work as hard. Which is not the best lesson to give to a child.

Now as an adult, I'm able to work through my personal finances by myself. But my parents have been writing my name in contracts without my consent. Apparently I legally own properties and loans even though they're paying for it. (If something happens to them, I'll have to continue paying on my own... This is too expensive for my capabilities....)

Hi! I accidentally bought an EPS-TOPIK book and found it it's for employment purposes. I just wanted a regular TOPIK I book. Is there a difference in the material?

Hi! Getting married in Q2 2027. I wanted to ask about guest lists!

• I initially wanted 200 guests at most (includes our families and closest friends). I personally don't have many close friends (literally less than my hand). My parents insist on at least 400 guests (they are paying together with fiance's parents) so they can invite all the family members, their friends, family friends, business contacts, etc.
• I'm mostly worried about cost but my parents really want to expand the guest list anyway so okay, sure!
• We're Filipino-Chinese, so the logic to inviting this many is so that we can receive more "angbao" / money envelopes.
• I'm very introverted and not really sociable (sakto lang lolll). Luckily, my Korean fiance is an ambivert so he has a lot of friends, close business contacts, and family members to invite too.
• Will it be awkward/weird if I invited my old friends from high school and college? These are people I used to spend time with / shared timelines and memories with. But we're no longer close because, well, life happens. I think this could still be less than 30 people lol.
• I don't think I'll invite our co-workers/ office employees kahit na matagal na sila with us. (We're family-run business, my parents are the executives.)

TLDR Do I invite old friends (no bad energy, just naturally drifted away through time) and their spouses, even if I wasn't invited to their weddings?

We'll have another wedding ceremony in Korea 2 months after the Philippines wedding.

And expects everyone to treat their opinions like it matters.

I don't understand it! I always try to consider everyone's thoughts and perspectives. So everything matters (to some extent). When I give my own opinion that my APs don't agree with, they will give a lecture about it then end it with "but what do I know? My opinion doesn't matter."

I get so confused about it because if you believe your opinion doesn't matter, why even say it out loud and make me feel bad? I'm just confused.

Hi! My boyfriend (33M) and I (32F) have been discussing our wedding plans and future family life together. I thought it was great that he was being straightforward and intentional. I just feel like we're rushing in this too much.

We've only been dating for 10 months. He's asked for my parents' blessing (they accepted). Now HIS parents are flying in to meet me and my family for the first time. My boyfriend is Korean, and introducing a partner to Korean parents means he is serious serious about marrying me. They don't just meet casually/ on a whim.

For the past week, I've been having fun planning out what our wedding would be like. I was making it to be for 11 months later (early preparations and reservations are necessary here). All of a sudden, he says why wait that long? We should get married in the next 8 months already. That he wants to have kids right away because I'm already 32. And every passing year, my body will have a harder time for pregnancy. Which is why he wants to make it as soon as possible (the wedding).

While it's nice he cares so much, it just feels forced at this point. And honestly very condescending and preachy! It's my body, my choice. I don't need him to lecture me about my reproductive organs.

Also he.. I hate to say it, but he doesn't have money. He's kind, respectful, calm, he's hardworking and he has his businesses, but he doesn't get paid at all. He's not lazy or anything. I just think if he wants to start a family "right away", he needs to be more financially stable.

Maybe an end of rant. I feel conflicted. I've always been 70/30 (no/yes) with having kids (like I wouldn't mind it if it happens, but I also wouldn't care if I never do). But I can't get out of this anymore. My parents and his parents are meeting soon to discuss the wedding timeline. I just want things in my own time too.

Hi! Planning a Q2 2027 wedding in Metro Manila. Our guest count would be 250~300pax for a Korean-Chinese-Filipino wedding. I inquired with a few wedding coordinators (my graduated friends have vouched for at least one of these), and they sent me these rates for 2027:

1. Day One Project: P150k (full), P85k (partial), P65k (OTD)
2. The Knot: P170k (full), P125k (OTD)
3. COTE Events: P180k (full), P150k (partial)
4. Event Alchemy: P120k (full), P95k (partial), P50k (OTD)
5. Choi Cabebe Events: P90k (full), P50k (OTD)

I already have a general moodboard deck with preferred vendors and program flow. But these can still be ironed out!

Please share your experiences and thoughts on these 5 coordinators/planners! Or if you have any recommended suppliers, that would be great.

TYIA!

My Korean boyfriend and I (Chinese-Filipino) have been discussing marriage and wedding plans (we're based in the Philippines). They already know he's serious about proposing. We're going to have a sit down dinner with my Chinese parents to "formalize" their blessing.

The very few times I've seen my workaholic AD in the past week, he told me:

• "As long as you stay in the Philippines. There's so much more business opportunity here in our country compared to theirs. There's nothing to do in Korea."
• "I want you to stay (settle) in Manila because I have more power here than his parents have in Korea. If you go there, I have no control..." I asked "control what? power for what? why do you need to control for?" He started getting defensive but basically said "I have control here in the Philippines. I don't in Korea and neither do his parents."

I told him he didn't need to think about that yet because we're just in the early stages of asking for their blessing.. Also we're not going to move to Korea in the near future yet because my boyfriend has his businesses here.

Was it rude of my AD to say these things about them? He hasn't even met my boyfriend's parents (they are based in Seoul) yet, but they'll fly to Manila this month to meet us. AD just assumes no one else has power except him. He's never lived in another country.

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The other week we were talking about personality traits of Chinese zodiac signs for fun. He was dictating what he read online, and he got to the part of "being overly ambitious with business/work, and prone to neglecting personal commitments, family/friends, and health"

I was nodding and he really said "No way! We travel all the time. We're a tightknit family". Duuuuude if "tight-knit" just means "tightly controlled" ugh... We're not close at all. We just travel for business purposes. He doesn't listen to me, my siblings, or my AM if it's not about work. We're very emotionally distant.

This month, my Korean boyfriend's parents are flying from Seoul to my SEA country to meet me (and my parents) for the first time. When I told my Chinese parents, the first thing my dad told me was "As long as you stay in [our SEA country] please! There's plenty more opportunities in [our SEA country]. There's absolutely nothing to do in Korea. It's so boring there."

Already offending future in-laws without meeting them? 😓 (Anyway we're not moving to Korea in the near future as my bf has businesses here).

I'm not nervous to meet my bf's parents (they only speak in Korean). I can only speak in English (and my mother tongues), and just started learning basic Korean. But my bf and I will be together to translate. I'm more nervous that my parents will offend them immediately...

I want to know if there are certain subjects that should be avoided when we meet? My dad particularly is fond of locker room jokes and lost the ability to read a room.

*My bf talks about me to his parents (he's living in SEA, they live in Korea). And they know that he wants to get married to me soon. Hence, the meeting. It will just be me, my bf, and his parents for the first few days. And then my parents will join us together for a private lunch or dinner.

I was listening to a music playlist on Youtube (from the living room TV). I was trying to focus on work, and really just enjoying the music at the same time. My dad suddenly barges in with his snacks and sits on the couch. He listened for a few seconds while munching away. And then just grabs the remote from me saying "give me the remote". And then starts watching Good Doctor, turning up the volume (he's been marathon-watching this show for months. It's an annoying show for me). No other words exchanged.

No "can I watch a show instead?". No "are you done listening to music?". Just an unwelcome pos. End of rant!

Hi! My Korean boyfriend (33M) and I (32F) have been dating for 10 months. We live in a SEA country. I'm Chinese-SEA, he's Korean. Now we're discussing marriage and engagements! We're on the same page. Originally, we were supposed to fly to Korea so I can meet his parents for the first time. My parents suggested that they fly to us instead. Boyfriend's parents are looking into it (and are agreeable).

I'm not sure if there's a cultural norm about meeting each other's parents. My mom said that it's usually the groom's parents who would go out to meet the bride/parents. Which is opposite of our initial plan (for me/my parents to fly to Korea to meet his parents). My bf and I are fine either way, as long we get to spend time to get to know each other.

If his parents fly to us, it will be the first time I (and my parents) will meet them. We're excited! Are there certain courtesies I should observe? Do I give them a gift when they arrive? Tour them around my country or city? We'll eat somewhere nice together when we meet. I don't know what to expect. [I'm already learning basic polite Korean language.]

I want to impress but not overdo/ show off. I also don't want to bombard, but I want to show appreciation and gratitude.