u/Wittgenstein3D

Have a canon AE-1 35mm film SLR with FD 50mm f/1.4 and 35mm f/2 I’d like to pass on, a metabones FD - x-mount adapter if you want to use the lenses with your Fuji camera, a bar chair purchased from Copenhagen Inports a few years ago, plus a bottle of Ardbeg Blaaack Scotch, the committee release at higher strength. Prefer to meet within 5 sq. mi of downtown PHX.

Canon AE-1 + Lenses: $500 OBO

i would prefer to sell these together but i will piecemeal them out.

the camera is in very good condition, I've shot film through it successfully. you can see the battery terminals are clean - there's no corrosion and it just needs a new battery. lens elements are all clean and undamaged and mount just fine.

Metabones FD-X-mount adapter: $75 OBO

Lets you use FD mount canon lenses on a Fuji x-mount camera. Great condition, works perfectly. Happy to bundle with the AE-1 and lenses

Ardbeg Blaaack Islay Scotch: $400 OBO

50.7% ABV, matured in New Zealand Pinot Noir casks. I've had the regular release and it was delicious, like eating a grilled strawberry. this is the same thing, just more concentrated. Sealed bottle.

Kube imports Aarhus counter stool: $300 OBO

https://www.idcmn.com/products/kube-import-aarhus-counter-stool?shem=aimgspe,

Bought this chair, kept it in storage, and now I don’t have a bar anymore. Bought from Copenhagen imports here in town. Has enough of a back to be more comfortable than most bar chairs, I wanted something I could work in.

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I’m posting here again because you were all incredibly supportive last time. I’m sorry because I don’t know how many people I responded to—but I read what you wrote and it meant a lot.

I’m an MS3 finishing their first rotation. That might not sound like much; the context is that I passed step 1 in may on my 3rd attempt (my school only allows 3) while homeless after my partner of 6 years ended our relationship. She filed a fraudulent order of protection against me, which I successfully contested while studying, working, and sleeping in my school’s student lounge. I haven’t seen our dog in 6 months. Her parents were more supportive than my own and now they won’t speak to me.

After a brick wall learning curve (I was unenrolled for more than a year) my preceptors have mentioned massive improvement. From barely able to wrap up a scattered HPI and bumbling presentation in 45 mins to meeting expectations RE assessment, diagnosis, and independence. Cue a response from financial aid finally rolling in: because of the OBBBA, because I missed the continuous enrollment deadline by 6 days, I am no longer eligible for federal student loans.

I’ve already applied to one private student loan and been denied. I don’t have co-signers. Some of my relatives live in this city and when I told them I was sleeping in my car they essentially told me, “tough luck”. I wouldn’t be here at all without the incredible generosity of a few people, but I’m already overstaying my welcome in someone’s home and my car, which a drunk driver backed into during the leave, is barely functional yet I’m supposed to start my next rotation on the other end of town in two weeks. I genuinely feel like this is how my medical career ends: not with a bang, but with a whimper. After remediating MS1 while grieving my dad, passing step 1 from a dirty couch where I had to hide from the security guard, and getting out of bed to show up for patients every day when I felt like walking into traffic, it seems like a myopic piece of conservative budget legislation is what will finally do me in.

I really don’t know how much to disclose so I’ll do my best to make things succinct but there’s a lot of moving parts to this story.

I was in a relationship with someone for 6 years. We met just before COVID hit and fell in love fast. Neither of us trust easily but there were a lot of things that we connected on right off the bat. We moved in together after a year of dating and lived together relatively happily for around 3 years while I worked on my CV. I’ve processed a lot of trauma that has made close relationships feel impossible, and I was making good progress. We ended up moving to the same city together for me to attend medical school and adopted a dog together right before moving.

That’s when things started to go downhill. My dad died a few months before I got my acceptance, and my mom disowned me after I invited his sisters to my white coat ceremony. They separated when I was a kid, really nasty divorce, and never reconciled. I really should have deferred at this point but hindsight is 20/20. I tried to push through and ended up failing the first year. My partner was supportive the whole time, but the cracks were starting to show. I know there were things that I still need(ed) to work on as a partner, but I felt like something had to give when it came to school vs. my relationship vs everything else in my life. My aunts recommended a therapist who we tried but I didn’t find them helpful.

She broke up with me in 2024 but really in name only. We would occasionally sleep in separate rooms but also alternate with sleeping in the same room, having sex, etc. We still did all the things that couples do together. Looking back I wish I had led some kind of change but it felt like I wasn’t in control of my life. Like the whole thing was on autopilot while I was struggling to stay above water. Things got bad towards the end. We were both being really cruel to each other. I knew intuitively that things needed to change but I couldn’t see a way out, and I think she felt the same way.

Things came to a head last winter when she started dating someone seriously and I failed my first board exam. She had tried dating previously without success, but this time was different. She didn’t tell me at any point, I found out by accident. I couldn’t progress in my education without passing this exam and I was ineligible for loans during the in-between period. She had taken on progressively more financial responsibility over the years and I feel terrible about that. My situation became more dire as my support systems dropped off, but I could have accessed more resources and I didn’t.

Crucial detail I almost left out: I found a therapist for us to see before I moved out who looked like a good fit. I still beat myself up about this as someone who is going into mental health treatment. The therapist advertised billing commercial insurance for couples therapy by seeing one person initially as a way to get around the fact that only medicaid lets you bill for couples. She saw my partner once and made clinical judgements without ever meeting or evaluating me. I think this was the beginning of the end. From that point on my partner’s whole attitude changed. She started referring to our dog and cat as “her pets” and talked about having me sign a liability form if I wanted to watch them while she was visiting her parents.

I ended up moving out at the end of the year and things seemed really amicable. We had an emotional last conversation and I was honestly hopeful about everything. I don’t hold anything about the physical separation against her, I don’t feel like she owed me any kind of material support. I ended up homeless for a month or so due to my dad’s family and a classmate who I thought was a friend withdrawing support but I managed to pass the test anyway. I told her when I left that I was going to be out of touch while I studied for the exam because her dating was too painful for me to be exposed to, but that I missed her and our dog and cat (adopted a wandering stray after moving) every day. She sent a heartfelt response and I didn’t think anything else of it.

When I tried to get back in touch, though, she didn’t respond at all. I ended up getting in touch through her parents, who had been more supportive than my own, and she said her therapist advised limiting contact for her wellbeing. I agreed to abide by whatever she needed and tried to keep my distance while I focused on passing my exam. The previous year she had emphasized multiple times (before seeing the new therapist) that she wanted to make sure we could both see the pets.

While in the midst of studying for my exam I had to coordinate with her cousin about some stuff I had left at their house and I mentioned seeing our dog. He told me not to come to the house. I tried reaching out to my ex and she didn’t respond. At that point I was starting to get worried and I contacted our vet only to find that my name had been removed from the records (thank god the county registration and vet had all been in my name up to that point) and they’d been instructed not to talk to me. I recovered his (dog’s) county registration account and was told that I had “given him away”. I was heartbroken. I knew I had fucked up as a partner but she was systematically disconnecting me from the pets we raised like our own children. I hadn’t seen our old neighbors for a while, so I dropped by to see how they were doing. I asked them if they could write statements about seeing my take care of the dog in case things devolved further. That’s when things got even worse.

When I found out that she had lied to the county about me giving our dog away I did some research and after exhausting all reasonable options I sent a demand letter, basically saying “I originally purchased him in my name with solely my money, please give him to me—I want to make sure we both see him”. I live in a state where pets are considered property and there is no such thing as joint custody, like with children. I got a letter back from a lawyer telling me to go fuck myself in not so many words. She also filed for and was granted an order of protection based on me visiting the neighbors. I contested it, and it was quashed, but at that point my mental state was severely deteriorated. I saw her dad at court and he shook my hand and asked “how did things get like this?” I said I didn’t know, which was true. I later reached out to express how much I DIDN’T want things to be the way they are and he never responded.

Most recently, I asked my ex and then her parents if I could see our dog for father’s day and received no response. That hit me in my gut and really took me back to my own childhood. I spent most of the day in bed with the scenario since last year looping in my head. I don’t understand how this happened and how she’s acting this way. I’ve never known her to be like this. I know I was a bad partner but I don’t see how anything I did or didn’t do would make me deserving of this. I’m more or less ready to file in court because in addition to the dog she has in excess of $10,000 of my possessions and that’s all stuff that would have been really nice to be able to sell when I needed the money, which I still do, but using the legal system against someone that I still care about feels so disgusting. I’ve since passed the board exam and started the next phase of my training but I’m just going through all the motions of life like a husk. I don’t see how I’ll ever be able to trust anyone again with something like a pet, my heart, or god forbid a human child.

I’m sure I told a biased story but I really need an outside voice or two to either tell me I’m getting my just desserts, or that this is inhumanly cruel, or something in between. Every day that I don’t see the dog it eats away at me and this behavior is so fundamentally at odds with who I thought she was.

tld;dr: Long-term relationship ending catastrophically, started very strong but devolved over time, can’t understand recent actions and want outside perspective