u/Witty-Artichoke-8878

You are as unique as you are. Somewhere in the world, your origin is considered unusual. Most importantly, it's you as a person that matters.

I wrote this because I have seen some gals I know who did ancestrydna, and it hurts me to hear how they feel like they are boring with only northwest european dna, or only certain very localized dna, and couldn't get over it for days

As a southeast asian, things that you might find plain and boring aren't plain and boring for us. What happens is that you stick too much in the anglospheric sphere, so you feel like you're boring. I hope you know how diverse our world is and that you guys are part of the diversity as well

Hey yall, so I know Malay (native), English (second/official language), Russian (B2-C1), learned classical Arabic formally at a young age, and currently learning Mandarin.

He, on the other hand, only knows Russian but is improving his English with me. We speak Russian with each other.

We are planning to have our future kids raised in one of major cities of Russia since their public schools are better than the ones in my home country (Malaysia) and the laws in Malaysia can be quite unfavourable to Malaysian woman-foreign man married couple (harder for our future kids to be a citizen and so harder to get into public schools and life as a foreign kid is tougher in Malaysia than in Russia).

Not sure whether the laws have been amended or not, but I have heard of such existing cases in Malaysia, while in Russia the law regarding to this is pretty much more flexible.

Anyway, since they would be assimilated in local culture, it's kinda expected for them to be fluent in Russian as native speakers (Russian is pretty useful not only in Russia but in a lot of surrounding countries too, where they speak Russian as an official or work language). We then would build a comprehensive English-learning environment at home since English is basically the global lingua franca now. Probably Mandarin too with Chinese part-time tutors (not confirmed).

We read that kids growing up with more than 1 or 2 languages have higher chance of being late-talkers and having slower language development since their brain would be doing more workload than most kids who are monolingual, so the kids would feel like they are left behind. I grew up with 3 languages and was a late-talker as well (started talking normally at the age of 9)

I agree with him to put Malay aside.

However, I grew up as a kid who was really insecure of her own ethnic identity (Malay) and looked down on her own language due to the fact that we didn't have anything significant in global stage and no demand for it, and so I pivoted myself to Anglophonic communities and the collective Western culture and cultures that are widely/globally recognized for historical achievements. It took me 20 something years (recently) to start being proud of my own culture.

So the insecurity came creeping again when knowing that our future children would probably not grasp Malay due to the same reason why I looked down on it.

In many regions of the world, it seems that people think that darker features are inferior while lighter features are superior (blue/green/grey/ basically non blackish eyes, white skin, blond/light brown hair/red hair,etc..). Plus, people seem to think that having flat wide nose is ugly too.

I live in an european country and on internet they say women who have these features are ugly and how we resemble monkeys. And in such southern asian countries where people have these darker features, they praise european features.

Hi! I am a foreigner from Southeast Asia. I am just curious, are non slavic and non european appearance on women considered attractive too in Russia? Like indians, southeast asians, south africans, zambians, etc.. or do most russians actually prefer only slavic/european/white women?

Sorry in advance if the question sounds stupid but I am curious.

Привет! Я иностранка из Юго-Восточной Азии. Я просто хотела бы узнать из-за любопытства: Считаются ли неславянская и неевропейская женщина привлекательными в России? Например индианки, Юго-Восточные азиатки, южные африканки, замбианки, т.д.. или большинство русских и россиян предпочитают всё равно только славянок / европеек/ белых женщин?

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