u/Wonderful_File_4426

Sorry for bad formatting im posting this from my phone 🫣 i know myself very well at this point and i cant notice IMMEDIATELY when i start getting unhealthily attached to someone. i lack self control and I will do anything to be close to the person im attached to at the moment even if it hurts the people around me and i cant have that happen right now.. im in a very good place in my life despite the fact im developing a new dependency on this guy and i guess im just wondering is there any way to avoid becoming overly attached and dependent on him?? I know i can just break contact or cut it down but it genuinely feels like life or death.. hes also my friend so i really am against cutting contact.. i think its worth mentioning that i have bpd. Im just looking for help on how to maintain this relationship in a healthy way because i like his company i just dont want to spiral into being so disgustingly obsessed with him because im very aware its unhealthy.

Sorry for bad formatting im posting this from my phone 🫣 i know myself very well at this point and i cant notice IMMEDIATELY when i start getting unhealthily attached to someone. When it comes to my fps i lack self control and I will do anything to he close to them even if it hurts the people around me and i cant have that happen right now.. im in a very good place in my life despite the fact im developing a new fp and i guess im just wondering is there any way to avoid becoming overly attached and dependent on him?? I know i can just break contact or cut it down but it genuinely feels like life or death.. hes also not aware that i have bpd and i dont wanna scare him by telling him that hes my fp i just dont know what to do 😫😫 also the fp is strictly platonic, i have a s/o. sorry im just having such a hard time with this i dont know how to stop the attachment without causing me or my friend emotional distress..