u/Wonderful_Mouse1312

Sometimes I'll have a couple days in a row or even a week where I notice a lot of strange coincidences. Like I hear a song I haven't heard in decades 2 days in a row or I hear some niche historical reference in a podcast and then somebody brings it up in conversation soon after. And I realized the content of the coincidences wasn't important but it was a sign that I was really taking a lot in for my environment. I think that can mean my intuition is heightened (magic angle) but now that I understand I am AuDHD, I think it's also my nervous system gently warning me that I'm headed into overstimulation or burnout (science angle).

So that's the kind of thinking I want to apply to a situation I run into less often but that is happening this week. This week two potential clients who hadn't moved forward with me last year randomly came back and told me they were ready to get started. And my dad, who never makes spontaneous phone calls, called me out of the blue to tell me he was thinking of me, which was so incredibly sweet but he never does stuff like that! And I got a nice text from a friend I had lost touch with. So it's all great stuff but it's just weird that it all seems to be happening this week.

I think any one of those things wouldn't grab my attention but I know I'm thinking of it because there were several incidences this week. So I guess that's the science explanation. But are there any witchy, astrological, reiki, etc explanations that you personally refer to during a week like that? Even if it's half skeptically?

Hi all! My niece is 10 and very active. She needs to move around a lot to be happy. She lives with her parents in a middle-floor apartment (we're in the US) and there are places to play outside but they're not visible from the apartment.

I want to get her something she can use or play with inside to get the wiggles out, but it can't be anything that'll disturb people in the apartments above or before them. I looked at balance boards but they're out of my budget. Anything under $100 would be best for me. Thanks in advance!

I (42F) was preeettyyy sure I was AuDHD for a while now but I got the official diagnosis earlier this week and it's feeling good. The diagnosis route was what I knew I needed for myself for my own validation and closure and I'm really thankful I could do that for me.

But man, I need a new therapist. She's lovely and I appreciate the way she's helped with some things, but she's a neurodivergence novice and there are some things I've just never been able to get her to understand about my brain.

I only figured out language for this like two days ago but when I am working on something complex like figuring out how to do something new or figuring out how I feel about something nuanced or digging into the root cause of something, it's like I'm building a case file in my brain. And all new angles or information has to get organized in that file, so I have to make sure it's relevant and accurate and where it fits into the bigger picture of what I know. It's honestly a great skillset to have and I consider myself to have really reliable and fair intuition about things - it just takes me a while to get there and I have to ask myself a lot of questions.

But whenever I talk about that thought process, my therapist has misinterpreted what's going on. For a while she was guiding me to give myself more compassion and talk about my experiences with a self-compassionate lens. And that IS important but that didn't feel like it was the right approach for what I was experiencing. And then she was treating it like self-doubt or imposter syndrome and that definitely wasn't it either. But I didn't quite have words for it so I tried to explain it was like I was passing everything through a filter in my brain but it wasn't about self-criticism or self-doubt or anything... just like, facts? But she never really got that.

And something I'm just ready to claim about myself now that I'm sure is that I get SO ANNOYED when I'm ready to figure something out and I have to slow down too much. Gaaaah it makes my blood BOIL. So I realized today I've been masking to accommodate her trying to catch up and I need to be able to move at the speed of my brain and she's just not it.

Oof, feels good to get that off my chest! I don't have anybody lined up yet so I'll do 2-3 more to wind down, but she'll understand if I tell her I'm ready to start over with somebody who works more regularly with late-diagnosed AuDHD women. She'll get that, luckily.

Thanks for letting me share! It helped me to process it but maybe it'll be validating if you've been thinking about therapist fit lately too. That fit is so hard to define but soooo important.