u/Working-Oil6790

So I (25F) am in a relationship with my wonderful girlfriend (22F). We’ve been together 6 months and it’s actually been my healthiest relationships. I’m struggling with recent thoughts/feelings regarding our relationship. For context, I am all sorts of messed up. I was SA for 10 years by a “loved one”, I had an emotionally and mentally abusive ex, and I have homophobic parents. So, safe to say I have lived with constant anxiety and ptsd (both diagnosed). I’m struggling to understand what’s going on right now with my partner because I know I love her and things are so perfect with her. I love everything about her as a partner and we genuinely match each other so perfectly as a couple. Lately I’ve been finding myself criticizing every little thing she does then sticking to that “thing” and being less drawn to her. The pattern continues: I see smthn I pick it apart then stick with it. For example, she tends to make a silly face and make a claw like gesture at me randomly. One day I thought about that and felt it’s weird so now that’s something that drives me crazy. When I catch myself thinking like that I bring myself back to reality and then I’m good. But recently it’s just been exhausting bcs over any little thing. And the worst part is, she has no clue about this exactly. I do share with her how my last relationship and my life experiences impact me now with us but she so graciously accepts me and wants to work on it with me. I think I’m rambling on now but yeah, any thoughts?

I (25f) was in a serious relationship and have since moved onto a much healthier relationship. However, I randomly find myself trying to remember things that I think happened with my ex but I just can’t seem to have a clear picture of it. Backstory (of what I remember in that relationship) my ex would ask me things like “are you stupid?” Or “are you using your brain” when I’d ask “dumb” questions. She also called her best friend and grandma on FaceTime once to ridicule me for sitting on our coffee table with my yoga pants pulled to my knees to rub icy hot on my knee. I did this after massaging her legs and yes, I do see how I could just sat on the couch but in that moment I didn’t want to move her or stain our velvet couch with icy hot so I chose to sit on the coffee table. She called them to talk about how ridiculous that was. Still, I seem to fit myself on how real any of that was or whether something is true or just a made up “memory”

OK, so when my partner and I said it was too full winter and she had mentioned that she wanted to work on because she gained someone entering college, which is perfectly normal I never had/have a problem with wait however a summer has crept up has gone, making it that her weight is a big security of her. I am always willing to assure her that no matter what I love her and understand how she does not feel like she is at her best because of the week I do not ever try to undermine or dismiss her feelings. However, I have started to notice that in time had a go out or gather or anything. That’s some sort. She tends to shut down and not want to be wherever we’re at for example I drove over four hours to spend time with her friend and she did not want to take photos or really enjoy much of the time because she was feeling insecure. I can only imagine how difficult it might be for her because she is the one directly experiencing that, but I myself don’t know how to deal with that or how to approach it because when she mentioned going to the gym, I am right there with her and do you think to stay active and possibly wait with her however, I have mentioned once about how I have several friends that have gotten on weight loss pills and that helps them with health mental and her own mom is on that weight loss shot or whatever it is we have several weddings and events coming up and I know that pill and shot not cure everything, but I don’t know what to do because I know that she will not enjoy those events and I do not understand or can’t figure out how to help

OK, so when my partner and I said it was too full winter and she had mentioned that she wanted to work on because she gained someone entering college, which is perfectly normal I never had/have a problem with wait however a summer has crept up has gone, making it that her weight is a big security of her. I am always willing to assure her that no matter what I love her and understand how she does not feel like she is at her best because of the week I do not ever try to undermine or dismiss her feelings. However, I have started to notice that in time had a go out or gather or anything. That’s some sort. She tends to shut down and not want to be wherever we’re at for example I drove over four hours to spend time with her friend and she did not want to take photos or really enjoy much of the time because she was feeling insecure. I can only imagine how difficult it might be for her because she is the one directly experiencing that, but I myself don’t know how to deal with that or how to approach it because when she mentioned going to the gym, I am right there with her and do you think to stay active and possibly wait with her however, I have mentioned once about how I have several friends that have gotten on weight loss pills and that helps them with health mental and her own mom is on that weight loss shot or whatever it is we have several weddings and events coming up and I know that pill and shot not cure everything, but I don’t know what to do because I know that she will not enjoy those events and I do not understand or can’t figure out how to help