u/Wouldntbelieveme

I have to give a lot of context, since this is a really long story. English is not my first language.

I (30f) never had a good relationship with my father (64) nor my aunt (60). Since I was a kid they were verbally abusive towards me, and I specially HATED how my aunt would always ruin family events. She had 2 children and they both passed away from the same genetic disease when I was a baby, since that trauma affected my whole family, they would let her do whatever she wanted basically.

My family is very big, so they had the tradition of celebrating the "month's birthdays", since my brother, a cousin and I were born in July we would share a cake. The thing is... one of my aunt's children was also born in july, so she would always cry just before we would sing happy birthday, and everyone came straight to the rescue, leaving us to blow up the candles alone. I would understand that, but she also made a lot of comments like "I wish your cousin was here instead of you" throughout my life, everytime I would tell my dad about it he would tell me she was grieving and I should understand, but my mom started to celebrate two different birthdays so my brother and I could enjoy our special day (I'm so blessed I know). Every christmas, mother's day, or special event, she came up with some drama to fight about or a reason for her to cry and get all the attention.

As we got older, we started distancing ourself from her, and eventually my mom caught my dad cheating on her so they got divorced. When I got married, 2 years ago, I invited the whole family but her, and que the flying monkeys. I was pressured A LOT, but I didn't wanted her to ruin my event, a lot of relatives didn't go and I accepted the consequences. I was heartbroken at first but it was a lovely wedding and I had the time of my life.

Recently, I found out my father was getting married to his mistress, I went no contact with him so he send an invite directed to my husband and "a plus one", of course we didn't go, but I just got all the gossip about it so buckle up.

I just found out that my aunt asked my dad to go to his wedding wearing white, his bride said no, but he convinced her and she apparently caved because they "negotiated" for it to be white pants and a blouse instead of a gown.

When she arrived, everyone was shocked, she wore a deep cleavage white sequins blouse and wide white pants. Everyone avoided the topic so she wouldn't make a scene. That's until she took the mic and gathered all the people so they could listen to the poem she wrote to my dad. She read it all, something about how courageous it is to get remarried, and then she gifted the couple a picture of the both of them with the poem written over it so they can put it up in their home. Then, she went to a table where the wedding souvenirs were, and she put little cards with her poem so the attendees could take it.

My brother is getting married next week, I know, a lot of weddings lol, but it was in a span of 2 years. They sent the safe the dates before my father's wedding, so now they are nervous she could show up in white. They warned her and the wedding planner that she cannot wear white or give any kind of speech. If something transpires and you want an update let me know.

I have to give a lot of context, since this is a really long story. English is not my first language.

I (30f) never had a good relationship with my father (64) nor my aunt (60). Since I was a kid they were verbally abusive towards me, and I specially HATED how my aunt would always ruin family events. She had 2 children and they both passed away from the same genetic disease when I was a baby, since that trauma affected my whole family, they would let her do whatever she wanted basically.

My family is very big, so they had the tradition of celebrating the "month's birthdays", since my brother, a cousin and I were born in July we would share a cake. The thing is... one of my aunt's children was also born in july, so she would always cry just before we would sing happy birthday, and everyone came straight to the rescue, leaving us to blow up the candles alone. I would understand that, but she also made a lot of comments like "I wish your cousin was here instead of you" throughout my life, everytime I would tell my dad about it he would tell me she was grieving and I should understand, but my mom started to celebrate two different birthdays so my brother and I could enjoy our special day (I'm so blessed I know). Every christmas, mother's day, or special event, she came up with some drama to fight about or a reason for her to cry and get all the attention.

As we got older, we started distancing ourself from her, and eventually my mom caught my dad cheating on her so they got divorced. When I got married, 2 years ago, I invited the whole family but her, and que the flying monkeys. I was pressured A LOT, but I didn't wanted her to ruin my event, a lot of relatives didn't go and I accepted the consequences. I was heartbroken at first but it was a lovely wedding and I had the time of my life.

Recently, I found out my father was getting married to his mistress, I went no contact with him so he send an invite directed to my husband and "a plus one", of course we didn't go, but I just got all the gossip about it so buckle up.

I just found out that my aunt asked my dad to go to his wedding wearing white, his bride said no, but he convinced her and she apparently caved because they "negotiated" for it to be white pants and a blouse instead of a gown.

When she arrived, everyone was shocked, she wore a deep cleavage white sequins blouse and wide white pants. Everyone avoided the topic so she wouldn't make a scene. That's until she took the mic and gathered all the people so they could listen to the poem she wrote to my dad. She read it all, something about how courageous it is to get remarried, and then she gifted the couple a picture of the both of them with the poem written over it so they can put it up in their home. Then, she went to a table where the wedding souvenirs were, and she put little cards with her poem so the attendees could take it.

My brother is getting married next week, I know, a lot of weddings lol, but it was in a span of 2 years. They sent the safe the dates before my father's wedding, so now they are nervous she could show up in white. They warned her and the wedding planner that she cannot wear white or give any kind of speech. If something transpires and you want an update let me know.