My parents refuse to let me start T and I don’t know what to do
I feel like I’m losing my mind over this. I’ve known for years that I want to transition and start testosterone—it’s not a sudden idea or something I picked up online. I’ve thought about it constantly, done the research, talked to other trans people, and every time I imagine my future, transitioning is part of it. The problem is that my parents control basically everything right now, including access to medical care. Every conversation about hormones turns into the same argument: they say I’m too young, that I’ll regret it, that I need to wait another year. When I try to explain how miserable I feel, they act like I’m being dramatic, and when I explain why testosterone would help, they treat it like I’m asking for something reckless.
The hardest part is that they say they’re supportive while refusing to actually support this. They’ll use my name sometimes and listen to me talk, but the second hormones come up it’s a hard no. They act like they’re protecting me, while ignoring that doing nothing is also a decision with consequences. Watching time pass like this is exhausting—every month feels like another month I’m stuck waiting for permission to be myself. I see other trans guys starting T and finally feeling comfortable in their bodies, and while I’m happy for them, I’m also incredibly jealous.
I know my parents think they’re doing the right thing and that they’re scared, but it feels like they’re choosing their comfort over my wellbeing. I don’t want to spend years trying to convince people that I know who I am—I just want the chance to move forward with my life.