u/XTeachbalti

Hey everyone. I’m looking for an SLAA sponsor and figured I’d reach out here.

I’m in a pretty tough and busy season of life right now. I’m married with two very young kids—an infant and a toddler—and my wife and I are both juggling work, parenting, finances, and more than one job as we try to make ends meet. Life is pretty stressful for both of us right now.

At the same time, I know that recovery has to be a priority for me. I’ve been attending SLAA meetings in the mornings on my way to work, I see a therapist regularly, and I’m working on becoming more consistent with step work and recovery outside of meetings.

I’ve started working with a sponsor before, but scheduling has been difficult. I’m hoping to find someone who understands that I have some real limitations on my availability while still being willing to hold me accountable and help me seriously work the program.

My most reliable availability is usually around 3–4 p.m. Eastern, and I also have some availability after about 8:30 p.m. on certain evenings once my kids are in bed. Morning meetings are generally how I stay connected to the fellowship during the week.

I’m not looking for an easy way through the steps. I actually want to do the work. I’m just trying to figure out how to build consistent recovery into a life that is already pretty full.

I’m especially looking for someone who is comfortable working the steps, can provide some structure/accountability, and understands the realities of parenting young children and having a demanding schedule.

If anyone is available to sponsor, or knows someone who might be a good fit, please feel free to DM me. I’d really appreciate it.

I've gotten to the point where I know I need someone to help guide me through the Steps. I've been attending meetings, reaching out to other fellows, and I'm serious about recovery. I'm willing to be honest, do the work, and be accountable.

My main struggles are pornography, masturbation, fantasy, compulsive sexual behavior, and isolating.

One thing I'd like to mention up front is that I have a wife and two young kids, so this season of life is busy. I make recovery a priority, but a lot of my meetings are online because that's what works with my family schedule. I'm hoping to find a sponsor who's open to working with someone in that situation.

I'm on the East Coast (Eastern Time) and happy to connect by phone or Zoom. If you think we might be a good fit, or if you know someone who might be, I'd really appreciate you reaching out.

Thanks, everyone.