u/XupcuH

Need advice on crush confession with my severe social anxiety

Hey everyone. I (18F) just graduated high school, and I'm honestly struggling to cope with the feeling of a missed opportunity. I need some outside perspective or similar stories to help me calm down and move on, or maybe someone had experience confessing in such situations and can share it with me. I asked about this in love-related sub, but I feel like my severe social anxiety is a very important detail :(

I’ve had a huge crush on this guy for the past year (we've known each other for two years).

Our graduation party was a few days ago, and there was a moment during the prom when they announced white dance, but I panicked and froze because of my social anxiety (diagnosed). I missed my chance to invite him. As well as I missed every other opportunity to be closer to him this year.

I keep torturing myself with the "what ifs", like, what if I had been brave enough to become close friends with him earlier? Maybe he would have gotten to know me and liked me :/

It’s still not too late to text him, but it's definitely the last chance, and since I am not sure it is (or can become) mutual, I don't know if I should. I am very afraid of rejection, even though we might never meet again unless it's intentional. And I don't know how to not make the message sound sudden and suspicious because I feel like I'd sound strange.

I don't honestly understand how people get in relationship with social anxiety, I feel like I'm gonna stay single forever.

Thank you in advance!

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u/XupcuH — 24 hours ago

School graduation and my crush is still a crush.

Hey everyone. I (18F) just graduated high school, and I'm honestly struggling to cope with the feeling of a missed opportunity. I need some outside perspective or similar stories to help me calm down and move on, or maybe someone had experience confessing in such situations and can share it with me.

I’ve had a huge crush on this guy for the past year (we've known each other for two years). It wasn't love at first sight; my feelings grew gradually as I noticed the small details about him. He is literally my exact type, which is incredibly rare in my country. A real green flag.

Our graduation party was last night, and I spent the whole time trying to give him looks and being as nice as possible, even though I didn't talk much to him. There was even a moment during the prom when they announced white dance, but I panicked and froze because of my social anxiety. I missed my chance to invite him. As well as I missed every other opportunity to be closer to him this year.

I keep torturing myself with the "what ifs", like, what if I had been brave enough to become close friends with him earlier? Maybe he would have gotten to know me and liked me back :/

It’s still not too late to text him, but since I am not sure it is (or can become) mutual, I don't know if I should. And I don't know how to make it sound not strange.

Thank you in advance!

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u/XupcuH — 5 days ago