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I know this is a long shot but has anyone else gone through this?

My son is 3 tomorrow, I weaned his last year just before he was 2.5 and this habit started almost right away.. in fact it was also a big reason i even started weaning.

Its been a little over 6 months of me battling this now and it early on turned from the usual post weaning boob grabbing, to him doing it when he gets angry and frustrated. He does it for a reaction I believe as I must have given him a big reaction in the beginning when he started doing it (although I dont remember doing anything but sternly telling him no).

So now when he gets annoyed or is throwing a tantrum he will straight away go to grab my boobs, like a hard squeeze in an aggressive way.

He cannot talk yet, knows more words than ever before but nothing to enable him to even put 2 words together let alone a sentence. His understanding isnt where it should be however im very sure he knows he shouldnt be doing this but still does.

I posted on the toddler subreddit ages ago but nobody is able to help as they are not dealing with a speech delayed child. Many mention talking to him and explaining why its not OK... that doesnt work as he doesnt understand!

I have tried holding his hands to stop him, blocking off my chest and anticipating him doing it and it all turns to a wrestling match where he will persist and keep trying to force his hand there.

I have tried standing up and walking away, he will just stand up and try again on tip toes or follow me.

Iv closed baby gates with us on each side, by that point he is throwing a tantrum and even found his way over the gate one time but either way that doesnt teach him not to do this specific thing.

The only thing that stops it is leaving him to grab and make absolutely no response/reaction but I dont feel like being hurt in the process.

This has become really triggering for me and can get me real angry! I feel like its been 6 months of consistently trying to curb this and its not working!

Anyone gone through this or know how i can stop him? Because I feel like im going to end up paying for a behaviour specialist just for 1 issue which is a waste of money

Sorry for another post however at my appointment yesterday I was told exactly this.

That the propranolol i was given was only meant to be there for the first few weeks of me starting carbimazole and that by this point it is stopped (been 11 weeks).

This came up because I mentioned my nausea is mostly controlled by the propranolol and that the moment I miss a single dose, it comes back so much worse the next day.

My pulse at the time was 86bpm and I explained that the current dose im on only brought it down a little but this is my usual pulse now which you would expect to be much lower while taking a beta blocker.

Anyway he proceeded to ask me if I would be willing to cut my 3 doses of 10mg down to 2 doses instead, despite me saying if I miss 1 dose the next day I feel so sick... so I told him I wasnt happy to cut things down right now, I not long ago missed done dose and I cannot live every day as miserable and sick as that day.

He told me that was fine and gave me the option to take 10 or 20mg 3 times a day, depending how i feel but otherwise told me my GP will have to manage the beta blocker side of things now.

Is this the norm? Beta blockers get stopped in the first 3 weeks of thyroid med use? Even if it is actively controlling other symptoms? Because I was told thyroid meds can take months to actually make you feel better so wouldnt you stop them when your thyroid meds actually start to help?

So I had my first endocrinologist appointment yesterday and one thing I wanted to get to the bottom of was the warning that comes with this med which is "if you develop a sore throat and/or fever, you need to get bloods done!".

I posted about this a few weeks ago, my toddler caught the flu, as a single parent in knew that flu was coming my way and sure enough, it did. I developed the sore throat, fever, aches, fatigue and sinus issues.... typical for a flu however at the back of my mind im hearing "any sore throat needs bloods!"

I contacted my GP and 111 who reassured me I would be fine if its clearly caught from my son and I dont feel its worse than ever before and at that point my sore throat was clearing up... so I was okay with that and left it there. Others on here also said the same thing so I left it.

Yesterday at my appointment i asked for clarification and explained the flu situation and they told me "No, they was wrong! You needed to get bloods done regardless if your son was sick and you expected it!" I told them I didnt understand because it wasnt a random occurrence, was very much expected and predictable and it felt like a normal flu. I was told that while it may have been expected, I cannot be sure my white cell count hasnt dropped at the exact same time I caught this sickness and I can only be sure by bloods!

This is ridiculous to me! Im a single parent, my toddler will be stating nursery in September and he will inevitably bring home bugs which 9 times out of 10 im guaranteed to catch and now im being told 100% it doesnt matter, I need bloods EVERY SINGLE TIME!

Now im stuck anxious. Every time I get a lone sore throat im thinking.... but really?!

Yesterday I had a slightly sore throat at my appointment, today the sore throat is a little more pronounced but im sure its from reflux.. they took bloods yesterday however going by their logic, I need to go and get bloods again today regardless that I literally had them yesterday! (Im not getting bloods, since the sore throat was there yesterday im sure them bloods will be enough!)

I just want to come off these meds! Im hoping my upcoming tests say its just inflammation and they get stopped anyway but honestly, this is making me anxious and miserable!

So my ex and I (both female) have 1 son, he is almost 3.

She visits him 3x a week which use to be held at our house but I moved it a few weeks ago because she is consistent late or just doesnt show up and gives excuses instead. When she doesnt show up, its too late for my son to go out so she has essentially wasted our whole day.

Anyway monday she said it was fine for our son to do swimming lessons so I signed him up and he has been doing that over a month.

Wednesday I take him soft play and Friday I am always trying to find new things to do.

Every visit my ex finds a way to not actually spend time with him. She will always find somewhere to sit while I play with our son and she spends most her time on her whatsapp group.

Last Friday we got into an argument where she told me she doesnt get any time with him on these visits.

Told me that on Monday she only gets to watch him do swimming from a small viewing area (which she said was fine before I signed him up) then she said Wednesday was fine but then basically told me that she wanted to come to my house so she can "sit down" and be with him...

I told her she doesnt need to be in my house to be with him and that she has plenty of opportunities to be with him on these outdoor visits and she refused to listen to me and just kept fixating on coming to our house!

Before I moved the visits outside, I said to her she could stay in the living room and ill be in the bedroom for the visit, that way she gets all her time with him and can engage with him.. thing is, my son hates being around her and chose to join me in the bedroom and leaving her in the living room alone where she just zones out on the couch and im sure falling asleep.. not once has she tried to get our son to play with her in the living room or try to entice him to stay in there with her.. she is happy to sit on the couch alone and have no involvement with our son... so why would she want to come to our house for the visit especially if she is complaining of getting no time with him?! She gets more time with him now we are outside than her being in our living room alone!

I put my foot down, told her she isn't coming to our house and that i don't want her there and reminded her that I asked her weeks ago to find an activity she can do with him on her visits and that she has never bothered.

In the end she shut it down acting like im the aggressor and that was that.. my son found something to play with and she proceeded to find a corner to sit down where again she didnt bother to play with him.. I did.

Where can I move that friday visit to? So that it is the same each week and I dont have to think about a new location each week because she doesnt care to find something to do with him.

Her visit is 2.5 hours which she has cut down most times so I was thinking the park would be okay but if its raining it wont be ideal.

I would move all her visits to a contact centre but £50 minimum for each visit isnt a price i can pay just to keep her out our house.

My son will be 3 in 3 weeks and we won't be doing much on the day as he has a swimming lesson but I will take him to a theme park a little afterwards.

I figured i can take him out for dinner after swimming but cannot think of anywhere to take him!

He has a shellfish allergy so it needs to avoid that but my biggest issue is the picky eating of his age! He doesn't eat things like McDonald's or similar.. doesn't eat nuggets, burgers or other usual kid friendly food as he never got it before so its alien to him.

I'm struggling daily with dinner as it is so I'm in need of some recommendations.. where did you take your little ones at this age?

I had a sore throat and a few mild mouth ulcers a few weeks ago, I went to the GP and asked for blood draws as they say to watch out for dangerous symptoms while on meds.

There was no urgent blood test appts so I actually only got my bloods done last Tuesday and am only getting some of my results right now (which are fine).

My toddler has a virus, so i was sure I would catch it but it was just a waiting game. Sure enough yesterday I started with the sneezing, runny nose and slight sore throat and today of course it has progressed to my nose pouring, sneezing constantly and my throat more sore than before.

Google says I need to stop my meds and request another blood test (which would mean 2 blood tests in less than a week!)

Having a toddler means im going to get sick often, especially as he starts nursery and having bloods 24/7 seems crazy! As well as stopping and starting my meds.

What do you do?

Do i ask for more bloods even though I predicted I was going to get his virus? Is this just the new routine now? Getting bloods constantly and stopping meds just to be sure?

I have about 2 weeks before my endo appt so I cant ask a specialist just yet.

Thats it.. just wondering if anyone else experiences nausea because ever since I have gotten this diagnosis I get really bad nausea on and off.

I also got the diagnosis while dealing with biliary complications so it could be that but im just trying to figure out if others with this condition also get wiped out by nausea?

My son is 3 at the end of this month and i have just started him in swimming lessons. He is severely speech delayed so cannot speak and has limited understanding.

The lessons I got him into i didnt check and turned out it was for him to go in alone instead of with me and its a toddler class but starts from age 3 (they accepted him in even though he is 1 month away).

Anyway here is my thing, he obviously isnt use to doing something like this alone or without support. Luckily he doesnt mind clinging to the instructor but thats another issue.. im paying for him to be held by the instructor , do a little swimming before he is held again. I dont mind this right now as it allows him to get use to this new change but my issue is this..

The class has maybe about 5 kids including mine. When the instructor needs to address the other children he will sit him on the edge of the pool and turn his back on him to help another kid.

The first time he did this I was allowed to sit on the bench nearby so my son could still see me and the whole time I was on edge ready to stop my son falling or taking the leap of faith when the instructors back is turned. This has happened a few times now and while some of them times he has arm bands on, a lot of the time he doesn't!

Parents are not allowed in the area and we have to go outside and behind some glass, so if anything happened I would essentially watch from behind a screen!

My son isnt being taught life skills like how to float onto his back should he fall in without aids or how to get himself to the edge of the pool once already in.

These classes dont seem to have a start date, it seems students can just join in at any point so there are kids of different age groups, of different swim levels all in the same class.

Yesterday I asked 2 other mums how old their kids were and they said 4 and 5. One mum said her daughter is really good now but was like my son at the start while the other mum said her son has his days but for all the time he has been here, he still cant swim.

Its odd to me that a 2/3yr old would be put into a class with a 4 and 5 year old where one can swim and other cant. There is another little girl 2 months older than my son and I spend the first 2 lessons watching her fall behind, almost drowning and needing the instructor give her extra help while all the other kids were swimming by and my son was either being held or sitting at the edge of the pool unassisted.

I spoke tonthe instructor about moving him to another one of his locations where I can get in with him, however he highly discouraged me getting in with him saying my son wont do what he needs to do with me there (but i feel he is doing a lot less while im not there and he is just being held a lot of the lesson or sitting on the edge of the pool).

I feel really conflicted and was wondering others views with kids that have already been through this... do I leave him there and trust he will be fine and pick it up alone.. or do I move locations so I can get in with him so he can engage more (as i truly believe he will engage more unlike what the instructor is saying). Or maybe i need to find a completely different school that will add in life skills too?

As a teen I got with the wrong person. I already came from a hard upbringing and instead of bringing me out of the hardship as promised, I pulled down deeper!

My life quickly spiralled worse than before and this time I was dealing with an abusive relationship I had managed to get trapped in!

The whole time I told myself it would get better, the person just needed time, we both needed understanding and because we did have occasional good times, I allowed that to overcast the majority of bad times.

I deal with manipulation, gaslighting, coercion, physical/mental/emotional and sexual abuse and all awhile this person would tell me they loved and cared about me, would try and sympathise with me and act as my best friend. I was isolated from my friends, family and any social connection outside of us and if I wanted to go somewhere or meet someone, they had to be present! My day couldn't even start until they woke in the afternoon/evening!

I was so stupid, I trusted this person, gave them everything and just kept telling myself I needed to be kind and understanding even if I wasnt being treated that way.

3 years ago I had my son and they just emotionally checked out. In my greatest time of need, they wasn't there for me or our son and ultimately I found the courage to kick them out.

It has been 3 years since then and I have really gone on an emotional rollercoaster!

I have learned that things I thought were a coincidence really wasnt, things that were played off as innocent or absentminded was in fact intentional. I believed I was getting hurt unknowingly because we didnt understand eachother but I now know it was nothing like that!

Now i feel myself building up with hatred, resentment and annoyance every time im around them! Because of our son we still have to have contact and I cannot help but think about the wrongdoings over our relationship and its now made me highly critical of them in the present day. I am on edge as I know everything is intentional!

Im no longer blinded by whatever I was when we was together and its making it really hard having to deal with them now!.

I think about all I lost, how stupid i was to allow all this to happen. How i now have made my son have to deal with this person because of my stupidity. Im struggling to move on, forgive myself even if I cant forgive them and trying to live in the now instead of wandering back to then.

How do I start to heal?

I have been on Carbimazole for almost 3 weeks and while the fatigue has improved quite a lot, its still very much there and I feel like I just want to stay on my sofa all day every day doing absolutely nothing!

I have a almost 3 year old son im a single mother to so this feeling is amplified so much to the point where I feel like im really struggling!

How long after starting meds does it take for this to clear up? I still have over a month before I see the endo and find out what exactly is going on but damn im struggling!

Let me start by saying my son has a speech delay and while he can say a few words, its nowhere near enough for him to be able to communicate with me at all!

Now here is the issue.. lately for the past week or two (or longer) he has been having tantrums pretty much every day which isnt usually like him but i guess it is now!

He really knows how to push my buttons and I have made numerous posts about this and how to stop it but he has a thing where he will go for my boobs and pinching whenever he has a tantrum.

Im assuming what happened was that he did it one point and I reacting in a way that made him decide that was a way to get a reaction from me so he continued it on. Before this started he never pinched or grabbed at all and I cannot say he had tantrums (especially aggressive ones).

Now we can be sitting there doing anything and because of any reason he will decide its time to have a tantrum and will instantly start to try grabbing my boobs.

I use to give him a firm "NO!" Or "STOP!" however im pretty sure he is after any reaction at that point as it will make him attempt even more and even add in kicking! So now I dont say anything as I move his hands away. He ALWAYS turns it into a battle so I will move him away, then he will catapult himself back towards me and if I move him again he will start kicking. So I will stand up which will cause him to also jump up and continue.

Ultimately I will walk out and close a baby gate between us where he will stand there screaming bloody murder as he hits the baby gate over and over and over.

He doesnt stop screaming or hitting the gate no matter how long I remove myself for, it literally just keeps going and sometimes when I return he will continue what he was doing before I left, other times he will eventually stop.

Lately he has been doing this at any opportunity. We have been out and about and because he no longer wants to walk and wants to be picked up he will start an aggressive tantrum, if I do pick him up he starts slapping me in the face over and over and over. Now I dont give him that opportunity and will strap him in his pram screaming and if I dont have it I will hold him outwards so he cant reach me and keep going.

Im a single parent, am fully burnt out, dont get a break from him at all and quite frankly I have had enough and dont want to deal with him or this anymore! Im no longer seeing the joys of parenting, no longer feel like these moments are manageable and its literally 24/7!

When he calms down and is now smiling and trying to engage with me im furious, want to be left alone and just had enough!

This just seems to be getting worse, its been 6 months of me trying to stop this behaviour and its just getting worse! Time out doesnt work, firmly discouraging just makes him get worse, ignoring means I get attacked and walking out has him screaming for over 10 mins if I allow it! If I walk out, I can be walking out an excessive amount of times a day and it teaches him absolutely nothing as he will keep throwing these aggressive tantrums.

How do I manage this?

My son is 3 next month and im wondering how I go about potty training with a delay?

He cannot say peepee/pee or poo/poopoo and he doesnt have any signs for it either. He doesnt give me any indicator that he needs to go and when he is nappy free the only thing he does if he is about to pee is look down at his penis or grab it (peeing on his hands).

How did you guys go about starting? Do i try and teach him a sign to say he needs to go? (even though he doesnt tell me anyway).

If I just sit him on the potty and he starts associating the potty with going toilet, how will he tell me he needs to go when we are out and about?

When we are out and about and I carry a portable potty with us, if he randomly lets me know he needs to go, am I meant to just pull out the potty anywhere and sit him on it?

How do i go about this?