I (18F) and my situationship? (17M)
So we're in a situationship for around 7 months now cause I told him that my parents wouldn't want me to have a boyfriend cause I want to focus on college. My parents already met him like 4x now and I only met his dad 3x. He told me that he didn't want me to wait for him, and I'm like confusing like why don't you want me to? He said that he wants us to choose me each other in the future because we want to and not because we have to. And that's exactly why I don't know what to do, he seems like a great guy and all but in the past, he mentioned that he liked someone else and something happened between them like an M.U. and he insists that our relationship is different from them because he actually wanted a future with me. Back when we were just regular friends, there's this girl that he mentioned (the M.U.) they had something going on, years back.
This is the main issue that i don't know what to do.
I told him that I liked him before and it was just one sided. He used to sleep on exactly 10 even if we were playing, he'd still sleep. He waited till 12 to greet her happy birthday with this picture that he made or a gif. On my birthday, he didn't even greet me on 12 and he randomly woke up on 4am and didn't even greet me by then, and just messaged like "randomly woke up" without even a single message of happy birthday. I guess, I got disappointed that it wasn't his first message. When he clearly did more effort and back then, before her birthday, he talked to me in call about getting her like flowers or something and asked me to go with him (knowing damn well i liked him that time). I made an excuse to not go, and when it was my birthday, if I didn't suggest to go to town, I don't even know if he'd get me a gift. He got me the exact thing that my friend mentioned that i liked (there were 3 of us on my bday, him and my other friend) on the exact same store, it's like he didn't even thought of it and just brought it cuz it was pointed out by my bff. Then when we had smth, he kept talking to me about this goth baddie etc etc. and this girl he liked in the past and called her a baddie in front of me. I don't know why the he thought that was a good idea when we had smth going on.
4 months later, he joked inappropriately with one of our female friends and they met before me and apparently it was "normal" between them and I just feel so disrespected. When I confronted him about it, he said he'll be better and he did become better, it's been 2 months since that joke and I don't feel the same anymore but he's a really great guy other than that. He gives me random gifts and surprises and compliments, I can't feel pretty ever again thx to what he did with the random people compliments, I can't let go of the past and that's affecting our relationship/situationship, when I told him that I wanted to be just friends, he didn't want to but I eventually convinced him then I told him we never even dated then he said it felt like we did then I asked him "why would you do these things when you felt like we were dating?"He said "I was dumb and didn't know why I did that" and he seems to really regret it and has been treating me better and also stopped with the random people compliments but I can never look at him the same way. I still like him but not as much.