I started exploring my gender identity about a year and a half ago. I decided to try hrt and clarified to my planned parenthood Dr that I was comfortable with my agab, but wanted to explore myself with the help of hrt. A year later I decided it wasn't for me and stopped taking it. Do I qualify to join the military? Preferably air force.
I fell in love with my best friend when I was 18. Fast forward almost two years later and my dad passed away during covid. I ended a two year relationship due to communication issues and stayed in my hometown, ready to start over. My best friend asked me to visit her, so I did. Eventually her mom asked if I wanted to live there with them and my friend and I "E" started dating. She had a one year old son I took as my own. A few months later and we had our own rental. Things started to take a turn for the worst the moment her parents bought property to renovate and rent out we ended up getting pregnant and her parents talked her into renting from them, since their house was bigger. We helped fix a few things and began renting a small three bedroom for about 725 a month. The house had a few things to finish and we offered to finish them, they told us no, however, so we left them be. Our oldest was 4 at the time and E had just recently given birth. I worked full time, as I have since I was 16 years old, and E was left alone to care for both children and the house. My kids to this day are very messy, as kids are. Peeing on the floor, drawing on walls, breaking things, climbing on furniture. Before we had moved into the house I begged everyone to reconsider, as I didn't want to strain our relationship with her parents by becoming tenants. Everyone disagreed with me, saying it would be stupid to rent another property and pay more, or to move to another state. At some point around 2023/2024, we learned that E's mom had cancer. Her dad worked out of state 5 days a week and she was asked to stay overnight to care for her siblings, get them ready for school, get them to bed and help around the house. I started a work from home job around this time and stayed home with our two kids, often losing sleep due to the two sharing rooms. Her mom passed away unexpectedly due to complications from a related surgery, and everyone was extremely devastated. Her dad and her talked about plans for the future and I was mostly left out of the decisionmaking. They decided to sell the house we had been renting, and we would live in his house with his kids while he worked out of state. We would stay there 24/7, care for his 17, 11, 15, and 7 year old. We did this for 10 months, which I also had no say in. I lost a lot of work hours due to the children screaming and getting into fights. They peeled paint off the doors, broke furniture (his youngest was extremely destructive) and anytime we asked for help he would tell us to (be the adults). While living with his kids, we paid him 650 of his 950 a month rent, and he covered bills since his kids still lived there. This went on for ten months after my mother in laws passing, and finally he remarried (he had entered a relationship about 3 or four months after she passed I think) got a new morgage on his house (he backdated our lease agreement, which my fiancee signed my name on, so he could legally pull a second lease on his new home in the state he works under the notion he had renters) and the kids moved in with him around the beginning of June. I moved all of the utilities into my name and paid to get them started. The house was and is constantly a mess. It's been a problem since we had kids. Even when I pitch in before or after work, we get roach infestations because the kids throw their trash, unfinished juice and milk, and fruit peels around the house while I work. I knew this would be an issue, which is why I, again, tried to keep everyone from setting us up to live in another one of her dad's properties. Anyhow, here we are. I sold my work pc and a few of my other belongings for extra cash. I also pulled everything out of my 401k, and spent my work breaks finding a new rental. It hasn't even been a full two months and her dad has given us a letter basically saying "the house is messy and there are damages both of our kids destroyed. Fix it all in 15 days or get out" I had already told him weeks prior I felt terrible for the state of the house, I've always left things in better condition than when I found them, and that I wanted to not only fix the things my kids and his destroyed, but also finish the things his late wife couldn't so he could sell the house at a profit. I no longer get to do that. This is the second time since coming here that I've had my life turned upside down because living arrangements and big life choices were made without my knowledge up until the moment I had to take the blame for the choices of others or pay out of pocket. I'm excited to have my own place again untied to family, but I'm anxious that this will be a recurring issue. I've tried talking about it, offering alternatives, explaining that I feel unheard and that I feel like I've been used like a scapegoat repeatedly, while clarifying that I'm in no way saying I want to leave. I inherited property after my father died and offered to move us all there into his old home, but E hates Texas and thinks it's a horrible place to live. I'm not sure what to do.