r/MilitaryTrans

Hello all,

I recently (this year) got into a technical, electrical role with a company that is growing a lot. The team I'm part of is very inclusive and supportive. A little bit about what we do: my technical title is, Power Service Technician. We service RPPs and soon to be PDUs and the position is customer facing, we fly out to the site where the customer is and we perform our service then fly back to our home "base" location. It is a heavy travel position but we are also looking for local/regional techs across the nation. We are growing from 2 (me and my coworker) to 16 in the year with competitive pay, DM for the pay scale but it is above 75k a year. We offer full benefits medical, dental, vision and can POSSIBLY offer relocation assistance. My boss mentioned a massive preference for veterans and so I asked him, "I can reach out to a lot of veterans but are you okay with them being trans." His response, "I don't care what their identity is, if they receive any issues then I will be handling it, along with HR, myself." So it's safe to say we are willing to fight for any of yall (I'm trans myself lol....otherwise I wouldn't dream of posting this in this subreddit :3). I am currently working on getting us into skillbridge but I want to give my trans veteran community the opportunity first since we were wrongly barred from service. If you are interested then you can feel free to shoot me a DM or comment on this post, anything other than just light info about the job I'll prefer a DM though.

Also rates/mos's preferred: anything similar to ET from the Navy. That's what I did in the Navy and my boss basically said if we can get more veterans that were like me then he wants to grab them quick (I was an ET in the Navy....served 6.5 years then medically retired).

So I’ve recently come out as trans to my husband who was very accepting of my decision. However I will not say anything to my command because for starters I love the Army, it’s basically in my nature since I’ve done so well for the last five years and would love to continue serving. I’ve accepted the fact I won’t be able to take T, luckily I have a deeper voice for a female so I can naturally feel myself even in front of my command and soldiers. I know I won’t be able to get a double mastectomy unless I would find like a lump or have family that has had breast cancer in the past. I know I won’t be able to transition at least until I decide to get out which again is fine though I lowkey hate it. The only thing I can do to truly feel like myself is grow out my leg hair and such because there’s nothing in the regs that state I have to shave them and wear either a chest binder or use trans tape to flatten my chest. Again no one can say anything since they won’t see it obviously and there’s nothing in the regs. I’m just curious if I’m wrong for it? I’m sure my closest friends in the Army would question me a bit although they have seen me in men’s clothes practically since they’ve met me when we hang out outside of work. I don’t know, I guess I’m just looking for some guidance on this.

I've always wanted to join the National Guard and I'm at a point in my life where I feel that my family could truly benefit from it. I've considered "de-transitioning" just to enlist. I know it's easier said than done. I wish this wasn't our reality right now....

Just a disclaimer, I don't know what the best native subreddit would be for this post, I was split between here, some legal subreddits, and other military subreddits, so this is a post that (quite frankly) might not even have any relevance here.

According to some correspondence here on how the mechanics and legal aspects of the ban, if I thoretically get a diagnosis for Gender Dysphoria as a just plain dude, falsify symptoms by usage of medical data taken from various psychiatrists/medical associations, and I remain a cis guy after everything is settled, isn't that just a way to legally dodge the draft? I've heard stories that that was a frequent and popular way of how sons of congressmen/government officials did so in the 1960s during Vietnam. Someone explain this to me, I'm not enlisted, but I'd be at the age to be included in a first wave for a draft when the "optimal time" for war would hit. I have skills that would be useful in a military role, I speak Russian and Polish, which are inherently useful for coordination, and have understanding of underlying historical events of contemporary Russian history. Not asking if getting a facetious diagnosis would be ETHICAL, I'm asking from a standpoint of legality, how the DoD functions, and how draft exemptions have worked in the past.

Hello everyone! The title says it all. I'm 31 (M) bisexual active duty for 12 years. Married to active duty female with 2 kids. During these past few months I've realized that I have gender dysphoria and may possibly be a Trans woman. I'm currently navigating my femininity and have a wonderful group of friends who are supporting me by using she/her pronouns and a more feminine name to see how I feel about it.

I know that the current climate for trans people is not favorable and I'm just curious if there are resources in the military that I can use while not fearing for my career or is it better if I seek outside resources and does anybody have any good recommendations?

It's very scary for me right now but more than anything I want to have a plan if I truly commit to this.

I got my separation date 😭 its finally over

The title. I’m offered a separation board, but can’t find any other information and nobody I speak to has a bloody clue.

I finally got my date I’m being kicked out, it’s NLT 7/14/2026, is that the final date I have to finish all my paperwork? Also I have been unable to find a job and am worried about going homeless, what options do I have? I genuinely feel like I’m a disappointment for being unable to find a job this whole time regardless of how hard I looked, what options do I have if I don’t find something by that NLT date

Hey yall. Active duty army here. I’ve been in for a few years now and joined completely post op. Only thing I require for my diagnosis is my weekly T injections that I’m still prescribed to and have been taking for almost 20 years now. (I know, I’m an old head and joined late). Nobody would ever guess I’m trans.

When the ban started I made an appointment with my PCM and she reassured me that her or no other medical staff in our unit would ever find it necessary to out me to leadership that would trigger a PAR for separation. She essentially told me she would “hide” me. I’ve even gone through SRP, pre and redeployment, with different medical providers and neither of them mentioned the diagnosis. They simply stamped my paperwork and I was good to go. No one other than medical staff in my unit knows I’m trans and I’ve been very fortunate so far to continue to do my job and make my paycheck.

With that being said, I recently came back from the Middle East. Things got pretty spicy over there as I’m sure yall are tracking. At one point we were running to bunkers just about every hour for days at a time. The location I was at took many drone and missile strikes. Since I’ve gotten back I feel very anxious and I haven’t been able to sleep through the night since before the war started. I keep having reoccurring dreams of running for my life and trying to escape danger in different forms but it’s usually war related (dodging bombs, jumping off sinking ships, running from people trying to kill me, etc.). I also hate how the unit changed while we were gone and have zero motivation. I guess I’m having trouble adjusting to being back to normal life. I feel stressed the fuck out and irritable 90% of the time. Im drinking a lot and hate that it’s something I’m now relying on. And admitting to all of that makes me feel like a bitch.

My wife wants me to go to BH to talk to someone and I know I need to. I pulled into the parking lot the other day. I couldn’t bring myself to go inside because I’m worried about the BH provider seeing my diagnosis, questioning me about it and potentially ending my career. I’ve decided I don’t want to do another contract and I ETS next year. I want to get out, but I don’t want to get kicked out because of who I am.

Does anyone have any advice? Do you think if I went to BH they’ll ignore my diagnosis and treat me for what I’m currently struggling with? Am I pushing my luck if I go? Should I try and access BH off post and will tricare cover that considering we get free BH on base? Any ideas would be very much appreciated. Thanks everyone.

I just received a memo I’ll be involuntarily separated on June 8th. It feels like a bitter sweet tbh but it’s nice to finally be out of limbo.

Went to planned parenthood in 2021 to get estrogen for a more non binary look. Long story short I am not non binary or trans or anything. Trying to figure out what my chances at meps are gonna be and if I should tell my recruiter. Kind of embarrassed by The Whole situation

I am gender non-binary but typically perceived as female, I was born female, & just about 10 years ago I legally changed my name & gender marker to male. I was then (unknowingly) registered in the Selective Service. I no longer identify or seek to be perceived as male (actually for the past 7ish years), can I remove myself from the Selective Service & how?

Just under a week ago I asked some local resources for help to switch careers & during the intake process, we discovered that I was registered with the Selective Service. I never willingly or knowingly signed up; if I knew that legally changing my gender marker would do that then I would have NEVER done it. (I got all the validation & love I needed from the beautiful people in my life, being recognized by the government was just the cherry on top at that time.)

My birth certificate says female & my current state-issued driver's license says "X" for my gender marker. I'd be willing to legally change my gender back to female if it removed me from the Selective Service as gender carries almost no importance to me anymore.

I’m in ROTC and I found out way too damn late that I’m trans, and I’m about to finally commission and I’m terrified. I wanted to come out as trans and separate, but I currently live with my extremely transphobic parents and I just don’t feel safe to come out to them while I live under their roof. My parents are so extremely transphobic, they watch conservative news channels and genuinely despise trans people. I have no money to get a place for myself, and I’ve been trying to get a job so I can move out, separate, and transition, but it’s been so difficult because I want to leave NOW.

I am completely closeted. Only one person knows I’m trans. I haven’t told any of my friends, because after some vetting I realized I couldn’t trust any of them. I am so lonely I cry all the time when I can afford any privacy in my own home. I’m so lonely, I want to be out so bad but I have no fucking money. Everyone I know seems to be transphobic in some way. I have nobody to talk to and I’m beginning to feel hopeless.

Edit: thank you guys for your incredible words of encouragement and support. It means the world to me, especially right now.

Hi everyone! I recently got approved to have a septoplasty done, but due to my EAS being so soon (i grab my DD-214 in 2.5 weeks) I was told I'll need it approved by the VA.

Anywho, does anyone know if it's even possible to use this to get a rhinoplasty as well? Im not exactly sure what id need to say to who. I'm sure I'll probably have to prove to someone that it's medically necessary, i have no experience with the VA or really insurance at all.

So, one of the youth that I foster went to MEPS recently. They did a prescreening for MEPS and MEPS requested a few documents, they sent them and MEPS approved them! He went to MEPS and he needs a waiver for symptoms surrounding gender dysphoria. The kicker is this: He has never been diagnosed with gender dysphoria from any therapist (the claims that MEPS found comes from the doctor putting transsexual in his files but no formal diagnosis), he has never been on any hormones nor socially transitioned. He wouldn’t have anything other in his record surrounding transgender or gender dysphoria. What are his chances of an approved waiver? He really wants this since I have known and fostered him (since he was 9 years old). I just want to gauge this situation so he isn’t given false hope. His recruiter thinks he will be fine but I also don’t want to give him false hope for such a major goal/dream.

So I am a veteran and I stupidly waited to change my info on DEERS. I went to the local office to do it once but it was extremely busy and when I was still actively working a job it was hard to take the time off to do it.

Plus the VA medical side had change my info so I was fine on that end... but recently the VA changed their medical system to some new one that pulls all the info from DEERS directly.. and they cant edit the info. Only DEERS can. So now i can back to being called by my old gender pronouns and old name. And its made things super shitty.

My state ID, VA medical ID, and social security card are all updated with my current name and gender.. is there any hope of me changing my info with DEERS still? I dont have an updated Birth Certificate however I could likely get one since I was born in California just would take a bit since I live no where near there.

With the documents I have listed above do you think I will be able to do the following?

1. Can I at least change my first name?

2. Will I be able to change my Gender / Sex?

Any recommendations on what I should do?

Like seriously I volunteer separated the 1st day it was an option been on adsep for so long has literally anyone gotten out yet?

Making this on an alt but i started HRT while having 3 years left on my reserve contract, like, 2 days ago and I was wondering on how long do you think it’d take for them to notice/could I just squeeze by without them noticing? I’m paying out of pocket and get my stuff from planned parenthood. I’m also leaving for a 3-4 month TDY and then a deployment not long after. At base i sit in the corner and nobody comes to me for anything and my job does nothing because we don’t have anything to support it.

Is it doable to finish and go or will i get fried before then?

I volsep'd with the 1st wave way back when I ended up being on admin leave all the way up till Feb when I finally left. I went home and now im trying to get my life back together and move on but I just got a letter saying I owe over 6k in bonus recoupment who do I call to fight this. I was told if I vol sep'd the bonus recoupment wasn't a thing and wouldn't ruin my life.