u/YourFuture2000

Sometimes my comments I the sub are removed for containing slur or other things like "ableism", but sometimes I don't know what word is being flagged as slur or as hate word. Not everybody is educated about all the words that are politically incorrect, and even among radical left/anarchist groups may not agree with some words being politically incorrect or not.

It would be very helpful if a bot pointed out the words being flagged, so we can learn what words we have been using wrongly as well as better following the sub rules.

I have lived in different developed countries, and I feel that in none of them was it actually possible to have a truly good quality of life. The worst for me has been Germany so far. After many years, I have never been able to find a flat where I could have privacy and truly rest at night because the walls do not block noise from neighbors, which is a basic building requirement in all non-developed countries I have lived in, except in some types of ghettos. This makes me feel that the living standard in German flats is, to me, comparable to living in a ghetto speaking on this aspect in particular. The same seems to apply to almost everyone I know, except for people with very high incomes or the fortunate ones who won the “housing lottery” by living in one of the newer buildings, which also tend to have much higher rents.

It seems that, no matter where, a true quality of life is only possible if one is rich and probably retired — or at least does not have to work all day and travel long distances every day to maintain a high income.

By quality of life, I mean being able to have quiet nights and sleep without constant brain stimulation caused by street and neighbor noise; having enough time for hobbies and other activities during the week without having to live a rushed life; not spending too much time commuting and having reliable, uninterrupted public transport; having time to rest and maybe even take a nap (and having a place to do so) after lunch at work; being allowed to do nothing, or even go home, when there is nothing to do at work instead of pretending to be productive; Having many options for free cultural activities such as museums, cinemas, theaters, dance performances, concerts, etc, or at least a minimum income that allows people to enjoy these things regularly without going broke. And, of course, there are the obvious things that hardly need mentioning: safety, genuine public trust, ease of socialization, access to higher education, public health insurance, guaranteed subsistence when unemployed, and so on.

I know quality of life can mean different things to different people. For example, I do not need video games, expensive stereo systems, or large screens at home. I am happy with books, Netflix, outdoor activities, and spending time with friends. However, I think that even if most people do not consciously notice or care about it, sleeping with noise constantly stimulating the brain, spending too much time commuting every day, having restricted access to cultural and intellectual life, and living in a constant state of rush and anxiety do worsen anyone’s quality of life.

Yesterday's topic about masculinity and some replies talking about random things assuming that today society and so its masculinity culture is just the results of "big ape" instincts that we are locked in.

It brought to my memory the many historical narratives of human relations between men and women, and children, in other societies that was not sexualised as it is today. Like the story I read from Síria Hustvedt about a couple in a small isolated rural community who didn't know about sexual intercurse and thought they could have children by just sleeping in the same bed. Or the nudist culture in Europe. When a woman said women can not walk topless because men, I wondered if the problem are men or the culture/education/society which these men are emerged to. As a man, I go to saunas, parks and beaches in Germany where we always see completely naked women and I never herd any report of sexual harassment. But we know how the new generation of men has made nudism much less popular in open public space like in French and german beaches.

There is a very conservative old idea of trying to explain society, sexualisation and oppretion as the pure result of instict, when neurobiologists such as Antonio Damasio, Sarah Blaffer Hrdy, among many others, have shown time and time again that a lot of what we assume of being instinct among human and no human animals is actually nutured/cultural learning. I would love to imerge on this regarding about sexualisation of human relationships from a historical point of view.

I have always wanted to have a cat or a dog, but I don’t, because I think that keeping a cat or dog confined for life in a 23 m² apartment is cruel. Honestly, I believe that even for humans it is bad for our mental health not to have enough space to move at home, as well as having to deal with noise pollution from neighbors coming from all directions.

Since the cat is constantly crying at random hours every day, I assume it might be very anxious, possibly because it is essentially “caged.”

Although I personally consider this to be animal cruelty, I don’t know what the law says. That’s why I would like to contact the appropriate authorities so they can check on the situation.

Also, any recommendation of NGO in hamburg about animal protection that care for the animals regardless of the law says, would be appreciated.