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Basically, I want to know in the experience of UK Genderfluid people, what clothes store has been I guess the most accepting of you shopping for say clothing of the opposite binary for days you feel say masc as afab/fem as amab or buying neuter clothing for days that are less defined. (Idk if this makes sense and I’m happy to edit change wording or delete the post) but like I guess I’m just curious and wondering, cause I (AMAB) want to go skirt shopping soon for my fem days but I’ve been having my ass kicked too much worried and overthinking things. Just for context, I have one supportive best friend who knows and family who know and support me but compromised on things at home with me, mainly for extended family and for how gendered my mother tongue is.
Sorry if this makes 0 sense.

So, I’ve been genderfluid for a good little bit now (probably longer than I’ve been recognising it) but lately I feel kind of ‘stuck’ in the feminine side of my fluidity, it’s not changing, it’s causing me dysphoria and I’m starting to rethink whether I’m not just Trans MtF. When I first came to terms with and out as gender fluid, it felt correct because I could spot the pattern that had been happening throughout high school yet I had bottled up as an “academic distraction” (I know I was good academically in high school but when it came to self expression and social intelligence I was the invisible quiet kid with like a couple close friends). Anyhow, the pattern which first made me recognise my fluidity has just been completely shattered. Now I know genderfluid means my identity shifting over time but I can’t ignore a pattern when I see one, and the pattern I saw was very specific with a small error margin but it was always with my identity shifting between M F and Agender. It was an exact shift of every 11-16 days but if I felt really good with my identity that shift time would go up to 21 days or 3 weeks. But it’s been 4 weeks now, and my identity isn’t shifting at all. Was I wrong about being genderfluid or was I right and this is just a small one off pattern break?

So, I’ve been genderfluid for a good little bit now (probably longer than I’ve been recognising it) but lately I feel kind of ‘stuck’ in the feminine side of my fluidity, it’s not changing, it’s causing me dysphoria and I’m starting to rethink whether I’m not just Trans MtF. When I first came to terms with and out as gender fluid, it felt correct because I could spot the pattern that had been happening throughout high school yet I had bottled up as an “academic distraction” (I know I was good academically in high school but when it came to self expression and social intelligence I was the invisible quiet kid with like a couple close friends). Anyhow, the pattern which first made me recognise my fluidity has just been completely shattered. Now I know genderfluid means my identity shifting over time but I can’t ignore a pattern when I see one, and the pattern I saw was very specific with a small error margin but it was always with my identity shifting between M F and Agender. It was an exact shift of every 11-16 days but if I felt really good with my identity that shift time would go up to 21 days or 3 weeks. But it’s been 4 weeks now, and my identity isn’t shifting at all. Was I wrong about being genderfluid or was I right and this is just a small one off pattern break?

TLDR: Local LGBTQ+ group for people my age range (I’m 18y/o) has a “talk with youth worker before joining the group” policy but I don’t think I’d need a youth worker since I’ve already figured out my identity + came out to people close to me.

So anyways, I found a local evening group for those who are LGBTQ+ in my age range (I’m 18 y/o). However, they basically have a “you need to sign up, talk with a youth worker and then you’re allowed into the group” policy, which feels really strange, cause I’ve never heard of anything like that. Also, it would be very like awkward to talk to a youth worker since I’ve already come out to family and they support me, so I don’t really need to talk about my identity or anything with a youth worker, I was just wanting to join a local LGBTQ+ group that’s for my age range so I could maybe find more friends than just my best friend who either have similar interests or overall I could vibe with/become friends with. For reference this is a group with a specific local thing to my place in the UK which I won’t say what part of the UK. Anybody got an idea why they might have that “talk with a youth worker first” approach?

I guess I’m just looking for people to give their 2 cents idk. I’m thinking about signing up for it but at the same time it might be awkward especially since I don’t see why I’d need a youth worker if I’ve already figured things out and came out to 3 people very close to me.

Hi,I’m thinking about exploring my feminine side and feminine expression through clothing. I’ll most likely be going into a clothing store at some point soon. I’m wondering if I should just be outright honest with shop staff when asking them for help if I should tell them that I’m looking for myself or if I am better being more subtle in some way? (I don’t know my measurements or sizing that well, so I might need a lot of help regardless.)

I’m open to any opinions!!!

TLDR: I’m coming out to my best friend who is also LGBTQ+ (Trans)
Any tips for coming out to my friend?
Just very simple question and very last minute since I’m coming out tmrw. (It’s June 9th, I’m coming out to them on June 10th) I should clarify we are meeting IRL.

So recently, I’ve become aware that I’m gender fluid and I’m sure of this. But theres time i have this feeling that i can’t name and idk if it might or might not be dysphoria. It’s just like an empty pit in my stomach and discomfort with my wardrobe. (Best way I can describe this.) Most of my fluidity is between masc, fem and neither masc or fem however with looking back on the past and the fact that I know now that I probably bottled up my feelings of being fem/neither during high school with the excuse of “it’s a distraction from school” I’m pretty sure it’s all just hitting me at once, in terms of not feeling masc but fem or neither after years of presenting masc. Could I be experiencing dysphoria?