u/ZealousidealRip77

When there's toxic workplace or bullying going on in an organisation, i find that there's so much risk in exposing them coz these companies can claim you spoil their reputation when in fact what they did is super toxic. And when things happen outside of text, like verbal abuse. It is difficult to prove it.

And this is why toxic companies or ppl continue their behaviour without much consequences. What do you think can be done in general to help improve such situations without getting into trouble??? or whats ur take in general on this🤔

(btw, im just asking in general)

[I think this is just a rant🤷‍♂️]

Context: This FA, lets call him J, was an ex colleague of my previous FA, who was in charged of my previous plan. And we spoke to each other 3 years ago and when i didnt buy any plans from him back then, he asked for anyone that may need his service. And me being naive back then and he was nice during our interaction then, so i just gave 1-2 ppl i know.

Fast forward to today, J contacted my friend via whatsapp. And my friend knew J was an FA judging by the looks of the J whatsapp business account. My friend informed me about this and i felt that i made the wrong decision of giving my contacts away to someone i didnt know at all.

I initially msged him stating that i want to call him regarding abt it. But he said he's in the meeting and asked me what is the call abt. So i just informed him that i understand he is an FA and he needs to do sales also, but i just didnt want him to contact my contacts regarding financial service. And he responded with "huh? i dont understand you"

So i called J, stating my request politely. He just told me usually is his PA that do the calling and messaging of leads and he wouldnt hv any control of who his PA contacts, plus he got thousands of ppl that he got under him or ppl that he keeps contact, and he wouldnt know which contact is my contacts. (funny enough when he texted my friend, he said he spoke to my friend 3 years ago and mentioned i was the one who passed him my friend contact)

After hearing from his end, i acknowledge that he does not have any control of who his PA contacts. And i was intending to rest my case there.

But he continued, saying that my notion of him being a bad person because he is an FA is wrong and said FA is more than just sales and there's a lot more at the backend like planning and consulting clients finance. And recommended that i should get to know him personally first before i say such thing about him.

And im like,"??? what? I just requested you to not contact the ppl i gave him years ago. I didnt ask u to not contact others." And i just pointed to him of my perspective of the FA industry and my general observations of other ppl perspective of it.

Instesd of acknowledging my concerns, he kept gaslighting me, framing me as the bad guy who thinks FA is all abt sales and not someone who value add to others.

Idk how it lead to this part, but do you think my request is unreasonable?

For those who are working while hustling at the side, is your hustle similar to your full time job? Or is it completely different? And how do you find the brain power and energy to do it at the side after work?

Context: Im working and building my hustle at the side. But because the nature of my hustle is similar to my full time work, so when i do it, it felt like im doing another full time job. Does anyone have any advice or been in similar situation? If so, how you manage it?