r/sgworkassholes

I was supposed to join another department despite I was on a very good terms with team lead to my surprise I was told that my team lead spoken bad things about me to that department manager which I was supposed to transfer over to.

Was I too foolish for not realizing that I had a snake all along beside me and for those of you out there had the same experience possible to comment down below did you all went for therapy to get over it?

I am afraid I am not able to sleep well now ..........

I work in a law firm. Hours are notoriously long, often requiring me to work late into the night (average 11pm-1am). This is also because we are expected to urgently respond to clients in different time zones.

Our team’s policy is WFH once a week. But for anyone in legal practice, you would know that the culture is that WFH is not strictly policed, and it’s also generally acceptable coming into office a bit later, especially if you had a late night or needed to rush something out in the morning.

After all, as professionals, our work follows us everywhere and whether we work in office or at home makes no real difference to the work product.

Recently, my Partner’s secretary has been strictly enforcing the WFH policy and going around checking whether the lawyers in the team are in by a certain time. If not, she will ask that lawyer’s secretary to constantly check on their whereabouts and report back what time they will be reaching office. She keeps an excel spreadsheet of who is WFH on which days, and if a lawyer is late to work, she will cancel our WFH entitlement for that week.

When she was approached about this cancel of WFH entitlement and whether this is something that should be communicated to the team, her response was basically that she didn’t want this in writing and she wants it to be spread by word of mouth.

I’ve been in my team for many years and this is the first time she’s been policing us like that. Her justification is that the Partner is very upset we have not been complying with the WFH policy. But we’ve never heard this directly from the Partner themself. In fact, the Partner probably is in office 30% of the time.

This same secretary also manages the team’s leave calendar to ensure only a few lawyers are on leave on any given date. We are contractually entitled to 30 days leave. It’s literally in our employment contract. Yet when we try to apply for more than 20+ days of leave, she will reject our leave on the basis that “boss doesn’t like you to take all your leave - you all already get to WFH, and WFH is like leave, so if you all take all your leave, then might as well not work”Yet I’ve never heard this rule from my Partner directly.

What is going on? Is she a sadist on a power trip? Or am I just being whiny?

https://www.instagram.com/p/DcI9hOgy1b-/

Started work for 3 months and ask for advance leave in 2027 for 2 weeks.

Entitlement or delusional?

It's very hard to just ignore smile close laptop and shut off because like it or not it will still affect you. How do you overcome this

I worked at a startup where the work culture was extremely toxic.

People would casually pass unnecessary and sometimes personal comments, and if you had a problem with it, they would justify it by saying things like, “I said it because I consider you a friend.”

Working late at night was treated like a normal part of the culture rather than an exception. It felt like the number of hours you stayed was more important than whether you actually completed your work.

Another major issue was accountability. People would push their own responsibilities onto others, and somehow this behaviour was tolerated or even supported. There were many other things happening that I personally found completely unprofessional, but instead of being corrected, such behaviour seemed to get encouraged.

Over time, the environment became mentally exhausting. Going to work started feeling more like dealing with office politics, unnecessary comments and other people's responsibilities than actually focusing on my own work.

For me, it has been one of the worst workplace experiences.

Has anyone else experienced this kind of culture in Indian startups? Is this common, or was I just unlucky with this company?

Ok ranting.

Sometimes I really wonder why some people are like this.

There was once my wife and I attended a wedding dinner for someone from her workplace.

Naturally, we were seated at the same table with some of her colleagues. A few of them were female colleagues she had mentioned to me before.

Some background.

These colleagues know I treat my wife well. My wife doesn't exactly hide it either. And I also openly adore her quite unabashedly. Sometimes even I admit quite 肉麻 lah.

Apparently this somehow bothers some people.

My wife told me before that some of these female colleagues had made comments directly to her face like:

"Wait till your husband cheats on you."

Or:

"You just wait."

When she first told me, I was like... huh?

What kind of person sees someone happily married and the first thing they want to say is wait till your husband cheats on you?

My wife was naturally a bit upset when they said things like this. But she didn't want trouble at work, so she would just smile, give some neutral reply and divert the conversation.

Then came this wedding dinner.

Same table. Same few people.

Throughout the dinner, there were sarcastic and salty remarks coming on and off. Some were married, some were single. I don't even remember every single comment anymore.

I didn't want to confront anyone because ultimately these are people my wife still has to see at work. If I make things ugly there and then, I'm not the one who has to go back to the office and face them.

During dinner I was just doing what I normally do for my wife.

Chicken came, I de-boned the meat for her.

Prawns came, I shelled them for her.

Anything troublesome to eat, I'll usually help settle first before passing it to her.

Take food for her. Check if she wants anything. Pour her drink. That kind of thing.

To me it's normal lah. I've always been like this with her.

But apparently even this also attracted comments.

"Wah, must like that ah?"

"Aiyo, need to do until so 肉麻 meh?"

Sometimes said jokingly, sometimes with that kind of tone where you know there's a bit more behind it.

I mostly just smiled, carried on and answered neutrally that these are normal things I do for her.

I didn't see any point in reacting to the remarks or turning someone's wedding dinner into an argument.

End of the day, I was there with my wife. I was going to treat her the way I always treat her, regardless of who happened to be sitting at the same table.

But still, why some people is so cb?

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why are sinkies such toxic colleagues? it makes life so diff especially when you just want to make a living and go back?

worked for her 3 years ago and really didnt like how she overworked me and her employees. she barely does anything and still get credits from her styling work

Just yesterday heard a funny yet concerning incident that happened in a publication which is an International publication establised in India few months back. An employee was fired because that employee asked in a bit strict voice about her salary after several follow ups and after delay of good 10days. The HR apparently got offended with the way she asked for her money so she was fired on the spot.

This comedown to an question that now employees have to also fear of HR ego issues while they already have to worry on internal politics
Also If Salary isn't given on time why is work expected to be delivered on time?
Where is the ethics or is there any ethics?

How do you put someone in their place who is in a higher position than you and it’s your job to be nice lol
Like when an executive is rude to you and ignores you when you ask them important questions … like it’s so hard for me to not call him a c*** … any suggestions?? I’m new at this job but I ain’t trynna let no man treat me like that