r/sgworkassholes

happy weekend guys wanted to get some inputs.

I was made redundant in April with end of service date in June. so was legally employed with old employer and getting paid salary.

Meantime I was with a very long interview process with another company and everything has went well. The ref checks are done too and now I expect a formal offer.

how should I open the subject with the new employer as they will know when / if they contact the old company on the duration of work ?

confused on how to handle this and did I do a mistake by not declaring my redundancy from the start ?

grateful for the inputs 🙏🏻

Management of SM Supermalls is super toxic and has no respect for personal time. President of SM supermalls (Steven Tan) had a surprise visit last Saturday (in SM BF) and I was forced to cancel my day off. I was forced to go to work to assisst the President.

Nothing highlights a toxic workplace culture quite like getting a frantic phone call or a barrage of Viber messages on your one day off because the big boss decided to do a "surprise" mall visit.

Here is the unfiltered reality of that absolute nightmare:

The Day off Audacity

The Guard is Never Down: You are finally sitting at home, trying to forget the mall exists, and suddenly your phone lights up like a Christmas tree. The panic in your coworker's texts is palpable. You can practically smell the adrenaline and floor wax through the screen.

The Silent Expectation: Even if they don’t explicitly say "come in," the toxic culture dictates that you should offer. There is this unspoken, manipulative pressure that if you actually care about your job, your team, or your career, you’ll drop your personal life, change into corporate attire, and run to the mall to stand there and look pretty for the entourage.

Guilt-Tripping as a Management Style: If you stay home and protect your peace, you are subtly penalized. You get the "Must be nice to relax while we’re suffering here" comments the next day, or you're branded as "not a team player" because you refused to work for free on your designated day of rest.

“Your boundary is treated like a betrayal. If the store or mall can't survive a single executive walkthrough without dragging off-duty employees out of their beds, the problem isn't the staff—it's the system."

THE ULTIMATE IRONY

The biggest joke of the "surprise visit" is that upper management loves to preach about work-life balance in corporate newsletters, but the second their boss shows up, all of that goes out the window.

They expect the mall to look flawless, but they achieve it through pure chaos, fear-mongering, and ruining the mental health of the people who actually keep the place running. A surprise visit on a weekend or a rest day doesn't prove that management is dedicated; it just proves they don't respect the basic human need to unplug.

When the boss leaves and everyone finally breathes a sigh of relief, you're left holding a ruined day off, high cortisol levels, and zero compensation for the emotional real estate they stole from you.

I happened to see the enokiimushrooom tiktok from this other post ... as much some of ya'll also say to name and shame such work assholes and bad workplaces, would you do it if you were in the same position?
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Seems like she reported it to her former workplace (publicly identified as IMH) via a formal investigation route after she resigned? Also, she tried reporting it to external parties outside the org. But I don't understand what's the expected outcome she wants... does she want "G" (her bully, who supposedly also violated pdpa) to be retrenched? While she didn't explicitly name "G", it seems the tiktok gained so much traction that "G" got named from google's algorithms anyway.

The tiktok is pretty hard to follow because while it seems that "G" had intentionally social isolated her (and team members were bystanders who didn't intervene?) + overloaded her with work (likely to cite poor performance), I don't think there was a clear reason made known on how / why all these even happened in the first place... or is there no reason at all? There's a post that cites someone else sharing that "G" uses this tactic to try to force out people that they deem as a "misfit" within the team so it wasn't an isolated incident.

It made me think about my own situation (with a similar outcome of ptsd) and how to go about handling it asides being forced to look for a new job... i seriously relate with one of the posts that said that the workplace was the cause of the bad mental health, and being forced to quit (or get retrenched) when your mental health is so bad that you can't work because of them.

Anyway after sharing her story on tiktok, she managed to find another job anyway in spite of supposed sabotage of offer. Wonder if her new bosses are aware of what she posted.

All in all, from this episode, does it mean that publicizing your own workplace story and even "naming" the workplace is safe? Especially when it's not slander and you have documented truth on what had happened. Maybe it's a form of carthasis for enokiimushrooom?

Either way, a thank you to this subreddit for reposting about the enokiimushrooom's story... now I feel less alone

When there's toxic workplace or bullying going on in an organisation, i find that there's so much risk in exposing them coz these companies can claim you spoil their reputation when in fact what they did is super toxic. And when things happen outside of text, like verbal abuse. It is difficult to prove it.

And this is why toxic companies or ppl continue their behaviour without much consequences. What do you think can be done in general to help improve such situations without getting into trouble??? or whats ur take in general on this🤔

(btw, im just asking in general)

Had ex employers access my personal data when i logged into my account using a work laptop. Took the info, retained it and sent it to some acquaintances. Also suspect they sent malware to my phone lol. Reported but police slept on it and said.. oh cant find evidence. What the hell man.

Hi all. I am trying to get into deel in operations department in hr or people ops....I used to have a boss who was very toxic and with him it was like I am working 24/7 , no sense of boundaries, texting me in middle of the night to get the work done that is actually his. I don't want to end up with such people again...I am burn out and the another reason is the job I have doesn't suit me and or my boss never supported my authorities plus I joined as a intern this gives other people opportunity to walk all over me even some interns who are just older than me .....the end thing is I don't want to end up in a situation where I work but I am reviewed on the basis of other people performance, I wanna get a job where k build things and that bring me satisfaction ....and I don't want to jump from one toxic boss to another

Have you worked somewhere that used this phrase? Did the culture match the claim?

From timing my washroom breaks while i had UTI to threatening me with security (21 yeo F) , my life at ZS assosiates 🤣
A year ago, I joined ZS Associates as a fresher, excited to start my career.
Within 15 days, I found myself in a situation with HR A who for some reason didnt like me and that ended with me getting accused of saying disgusting things about her (by A herself)and ultimately getting fired from the company WITHOUT ANY EVIDENCE. HR B, another HR literally threatened that they would sue me if i ever talk about this incident, also said “It’s a small world of HRs, if you don’t behave anf resign rn, your career is potentially ruined forever “. My phone was snatched away from me while i was on a call with my family because i was having a terrible panic attack. I was threatened with security if i wouldnt resign. An HR with 11 years of experience btw. My washroom breaks were tracked even tho i had major UTI and health issues. I still believe I was not given a fair chance to defend myself, and the experience completely shattered my confidence.
People think losing a job is the painful part. For me, the painful part was everything that came after: therapy, anxiety, sleepless nights, and watching my friends move forward while I struggled to rebuild.
I was 22, fresh out of college, and had no idea how to navigate a situation where all the power felt like it was on the other side of the table.
A year later, I’m still trying to recover from an experience that lasted only days.
Sometimes a corporate decision becomes just another file on someone’s desk.
For the employee, it can become a memory they carry for years.

From timing my washroom breaks while i had UTI to threatening me with security (21 yeo F) , my life at ZS assosiates 🤣
A year ago, I joined ZS Associates as a fresher, excited to start my career.
Within 15 days, I found myself in a situation with HR A who for some reason didnt like me and that ended with me getting accused of saying disgusting things about her (by A herself)and ultimately getting fired from the company WITHOUT ANY EVIDENCE. HR B, another HR literally threatened that they would sue me if i ever talk about this incident, also said “It’s a small world of HRs, if you don’t behave anf resign rn, your career is potentially ruined forever “. My phone was snatched away from me while i was on a call with my family because i was having a terrible panic attack. I was threatened with security if i wouldnt resign. An HR with 11 years of experience btw. My washroom breaks were tracked even tho i had major UTI and health issues. I still believe I was not given a fair chance to defend myself, and the experience completely shattered my confidence.
People think losing a job is the painful part. For me, the painful part was everything that came after: therapy, anxiety, sleepless nights, and watching my friends move forward while I struggled to rebuild.
I was 22, fresh out of college, and had no idea how to navigate a situation where all the power felt like it was on the other side of the table.
A year later, I’m still trying to recover from an experience that lasted only days.
Sometimes a corporate decision becomes just another file on someone’s desk.
For the employee, it can become a memory they carry for years.

Also just wanna know if there is anything here that is NOT office job related because all I have seen from here is office job related stuff