u/Zelda-Cat123

Salaams all, hope you’re well :)

I have been feeling really guilty lately about my low imaan. I want to reconnect with my faith again. Alhamdullilah it was going well in Ramadan and now i don’t pray, don’t make dua or make enough effort. There isn’t any personal circumstances effecting me too I just feel like I have lost spiritual connection. However, I am neurodivergent and it does tend to come in the way of my routines and way of life (probs a bad excuse)

What could I do to slowly rebuild it into my life and learn more about Islam? Would appreciate any advice <3

I am in a trio but we barely speak now sadly. One of them I speak to a bit but not as much now. Then I feel like the other friend is avoiding me. Her relative isn’t too well so I know she’s got so much on but shes been hanging out with other friends and has not really reached out to me. I’ve known her since primary school and we used to be really close.

I’m quite surprised, after a really difficult start to the year only one of the friends reached out and stayed in touch (kinda)

Something funny happened today and I wanted to tell them in our group chat but I feel awkward? The last time we all properly spoke in it was December. The one thing which got us all to stay in touch since high school was playing video games and although we all still play, we’ve stopped playing together.

Should I stop reaching out? I’m sick of one sided friendships :/

Salaams all I hope you are well inshallah. I wanted to ask for some advice on how to build imaan, I’m struggling and feel quite upset that my efforts have been inconsistent.

For context, I am neurodivergent, it’s affected my imaan because there’s sometimes things I don’t understand about Islam. For example, the terminology, if I’m actually praying right and my concentration while praying.

One thing which did help me was reading the Qur’an in English translation as I was really interested in the Surahs and what it had meant. But unfortunately since Ramadan my praying has lacked effort and I have stopped reading. Any advice would be appreciated, Jzk❤️

Hi all, this is gonna be long haha
So I have been friends with this (Im22) (F23) girl since primary school (since we were 3) we went to the same high school, different college and uni but still stayed very close. We had quite a jokey friendship and it was the type where we barely hugged or said ily but we always felt comfort with one another if that makes sense. However, since last autumn, I felt the friendship fizzling out.

We used to play a lot of video games online (we would do that more than hanging out but idc I would have sm fun) and eventually we stopped. Her relative isn’t too well unfortunately and she’s had to look after her a lot. She is very private and doesn’t like to share personal things that go on. So when me and my friend (we’re in a trio) would ask to hang out she would say she can’t) and I completely understand that. I don’t want to burden her. I asked her about her relative and she said I don’t want to share, so I didn’t want to cross that boundary. The last time I saw her was March.

But I hate to admit, I feel hurt. She posts on Snapchat most of the time, she hangs out with other friends. Yet, she takes time responding to my texts and is barely messaging me. I had a family death earlier this year and she came to the funeral which meant a lot, but didn’t really contact me when I was grieving. I did think to myself she probably doesn’t have the emotional capacity since her relative isn’t well but I was still upset. She wasn’t like this in the past when my other relatives passed.

The one thing which upset me the most was that I hosted my first art exhibition and when I messaged in our trio group chat she didn’t say anything about coming or congratulating me. We don’t text in the group chat often but I told her weeks in advance and she didn’t say anything about coming until I had to message her. In the past she’s come to other events I have had my work in but not my solo exhibition which was a huge achievement. She hung out with her friend a couple of days after too.

I probably sound like a bitch complaining, but I can’t help but feel stuck? It seems that she’s putting more effort into other friendships and is neglecting ours. I feel awkward messaging her now and we’ve not spoken in weeks. I really miss our friendship. We don’t often talk about deep stuff and I think she assumes we’re okay but I don’t feel comfortable. We live quite close to eachother too. Am I being stubborn for not wanting to text her? Because I’ve noticed that when I reach out thats the only time i hear from her. She doesn’t reach out to me :(

Any advice would be great and sorry this is long haha