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I 26(f) am currently pregnant with my first about 26 weeks currently due beginning of October. All of my family is across the country as well as most of my close friends so I told them very early on. We told my boyfriend’s 30(m) family at around 4 months they were all very excited and supportive but are very Catholic and immediately started asking when we’re getting married. Saying we needed to have a courthouse wedding so we didn’t have the baby out of wedlock etc which is not going to happen.

When we made the announcement a few of his older female cousins around their 40’s who all have grown children closer to my age offered to plan the baby shower. That was now a few months ago & no one has reached out to us to start any planning. The only one who’s asked any questions is his mom who’s in her late 60’s & doesn’t speak the best English. She also really doesn’t understand a lot of the cultural norms that come with having a baby in America like baby classes, hiring a doula, things along those lines & is always saying that they’re not necessary. So I don’t really want to involve her in the actual planning because it will just be too much pushback but appreciate her willingness to help as much as possible.

Anyways that’s my rant now my main question is would it be weird or possibly offensive to just do all the planning myself & just ask his family to help with the setup & cleanup process. I’ve already talked with one of his 2nd cousins who’s my age & has her own dessert catering about doing those dishes/showing her some of the ideas I have. She’s all on board to help with that which will be the most tedious thing asked of any of his family.

My mom & best friend as well as a few other family members will be flying in & I’m not sure if it will be the best to have them host the games/activities since the guests will pretty much be 10 people from my side & easily 40+ people from my boyfriends family & friends. Or should I just wait to see if one of his family members will offer to do this role/just ask them if they will?

I (26F) was out getting a late dinner with my boyfriend (30M). I am currently 5 months pregnant & the acid reflux has been kicking my ass.

Before we even got to the restaurant we were going to, a Coney Island, I started feeling the burn creeping up. If you live in Michigan you know every Coney is basically quick greasy food just adding more fuel to the fire.

By this time all the CVS & Walgreens were closed so I asked my bf to go to a gas station so I could get something to help the acid reflux. We get to a gas station & they didn’t have the full sized bottles or even the mini bottles just individually packaged singles. I figured might as well grab extras to keep in his car, my purse, etc since this is basically a daily issue. So I took probably like 10 of the single wrapped Pepcid leaving 6 or so in the box on the shelf.

We get up to the cashier & immediately he asks if I left any more in the box. I tell him yes I did & he goes around to check. I guess leaving the amount I did wasn’t good enough because he starts to go on about how that’s not very many & he uses them regularly. My bf apologized & says I can put some back but I told him no I won’t I need them for the future just in case.

The guy didn’t really say anything more but was obviously irritated I’d raided his stash so my bf explained I’m pregnant. That was basically the end of the interaction & we paid but as we were getting back in the car my bf was asked did I really need to take that many. In my defense I don’t think 10 Pepcid is really a lot considering I have to take two at a time & not that it’s warming up we’re on the go a lot more. I guess my question is was I being selfish to take that many or is it justified?