r/babyshower

I know this kind of thing varies across cultures and traditions amongst people so I’m welcoming all opinions. From my understanding, parents typically get a baby shower for their first baby. That’s standard and normal and expected. If the second baby is the same gender, then it’s frowned upon and tacky to expect family/friends to throw you another baby shower because it becomes assumed you use your hand-me downs instead.

I’m confused with a friend of mine who is about to have her third child. She is starting to send me baby shower ideas. This third child will be close in age with their siblings, all will be under age 5 (oldest is 2, baby is turning 1, and she is pregnant with the third child). The gender is also unknown as of now. If the child is the same gender as its siblings, I find it tacky and frankly irritating that she is expecting a baby shower. I have no idea how to bring this up to her. I have heard if it’s a new gender for the family, then the baby shower is lenient and is thrown for the family (honestly only because of gender norms on colors for babies \*cue eye roll\*).

Am I an asshole for being irritated at her trying to initiate another baby shower? What is everyone else usually accustomed to hearing about these things?

I've been invited to a coworker's baby shower on Saturday. Should I bring a gift? If so, what? I live in the countryside and don't have time to go into town/city (over an hour away).

They have a 6 year old daughter so it's not their first baby aka they probably have some stuff already. (I guess). This time it's a boy.

I'm also in Norway, baby showers aren't a big thing here, as far as I know.

We have hung together a couple times outside of work, but we definitely have different personalities, but we still have a good time (in moderation).

My mom is throwing me a baby shower and I’m trying to help her figure out what prizes people would actually like to win for participating in games!

We will have a diaper raffle for a super big gift, and then the other small party games will be simple but I’m not sure what people are actually interested in.

What would you want to win for entering a diaper raffle?

What would you want to win for playing a simple party game?

One of my closest friends is finally pregnant after struggling with infertility for eight years.

I am absolutely elated for her. I am working with several other of our friends to host a baby shower for her at the end of this year.

I wanna know what is the most memorable thing from a baby shower that you attended or your own baby shower? It could be a game, or an experience or something that was done for the parents that you not really seen before.

Ultimately, it is up to what my friend wants, but she is pretty chill. She’s just so happy. She’s finally having a baby. I’ll definitely speak with her before making any decisions.

It will be a mix of family, friends, and coworkers

Here is just a random list of ideas so far (obviously we won’t do all of them)

• Diaper message station (guests write word of encouragement/funny messages on newborn diapers for middle of the night changes)

•Decorate a onesie/bib/block (I’m going to ask which one she would prefer guest do)

• Thumbprint guest book (they did one for their wedding)

• I would love to get one of those insta print cameras and take a photo of everyone for a scrapbook

• Measure mommy’s belly

• Guess the baby food

• Bottle chugging contests

•Don’t say baby

• Diaper raffle

• Price is right baby edition

I had my shower over the weekend and would really love to get my two girl friends who organized the whole affair something special. Are there typical gifts for organizers? Have others done something that has been really well received?

Thank you!

Hey, I made this account just to post this lol.

So my sister is having her first baby. She’s had a rough time of it so far in her pregnancy so I wanted to help out by planning her baby shower. I don’t think it’s crazy important to her, but I want it to be the best I can make it.

Unfortunately, I’ve never planned a baby shower before. Let alone a party of any kind. I have several solid ideas down; I just don’t know how to execute them.

Any general advice on planning, tips, do’s and don’t’s, etc. would be awesome.

Thanks!

We are first time parents and are severely struggling not only with the pregnancy but also paying for appointments and buying things for the baby. I’m 25 years old and have no idea how to even be a person half the time and I’ve been doing extremely poorly at existing it seems 😂 My baby shower is in two weeks and while I’m thankful for everything, only two things have been bought and I bought one of them myself 😭 I’m beyond stressed and have to move across the country at the end of the month. I haven’t been able to work and my partner is going into debt trying to make ends meet and pay for my appointments and actually getting the u haul truck for us to move. He’s working 12 hour shifts and still doing ubereats, shipt other odd jobs for neighbors. I might end up trying to find a part time (despite him protesting) remote job just to make some money because right now we have a bassinet and a car seat. I really don’t know what to do. We were financially okay before we fell pregnant but we’ve had so many things happen and go wrong and with me not working we are just drowning. I sold my car just so he could keep the house and I thought about applying for a credit card just to buy some of the essentials.

Where is somewhere I could post my registry? I’ve shared with my family but my baby shower is super small. I just need all the help I could get.

Hi everyone! I’m putting together a care package for my sister, who is due to have her baby in a couple of months. She doesn’t want a baby shower so I’m posting here to get some ideas. I’d love to hear your recommendations! What were your must have items during the postpartum period? What did you use the most, what did you find yourself needing, and is there anything you wish someone had included in a care package for you?

I 26(f) am currently pregnant with my first about 26 weeks currently due beginning of October. All of my family is across the country as well as most of my close friends so I told them very early on. We told my boyfriend’s 30(m) family at around 4 months they were all very excited and supportive but are very Catholic and immediately started asking when we’re getting married. Saying we needed to have a courthouse wedding so we didn’t have the baby out of wedlock etc which is not going to happen.

When we made the announcement a few of his older female cousins around their 40’s who all have grown children closer to my age offered to plan the baby shower. That was now a few months ago & no one has reached out to us to start any planning. The only one who’s asked any questions is his mom who’s in her late 60’s & doesn’t speak the best English. She also really doesn’t understand a lot of the cultural norms that come with having a baby in America like baby classes, hiring a doula, things along those lines & is always saying that they’re not necessary. So I don’t really want to involve her in the actual planning because it will just be too much pushback but appreciate her willingness to help as much as possible.

Anyways that’s my rant now my main question is would it be weird or possibly offensive to just do all the planning myself & just ask his family to help with the setup & cleanup process. I’ve already talked with one of his 2nd cousins who’s my age & has her own dessert catering about doing those dishes/showing her some of the ideas I have. She’s all on board to help with that which will be the most tedious thing asked of any of his family.

My mom & best friend as well as a few other family members will be flying in & I’m not sure if it will be the best to have them host the games/activities since the guests will pretty much be 10 people from my side & easily 40+ people from my boyfriends family & friends. Or should I just wait to see if one of his family members will offer to do this role/just ask them if they will?

Anyone else spend weeks putting together a registry just for people to completely ignore it? 😅
Had my baby shower recently and I swear almost everyone either bought clothes or showed up empty-handed because they find it superstitious to buy gifts for the baby before she is even born and is waiting until after they are born. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate that people took the time to come celebrate, but now I’m sitting here realizing I still need to buy all the actual essentials from my registry with my own money.
I don’t need another newborn outfit or cute socks . I need diapers, wipes, bottles, postpartum supplies, and all the practical stuff that somehow nobody bought. The registry was literally there to make things easier.
Now I’m spending the weeks before baby arrives placing registry orders myself and wondering why I even made one in the first place. 🙃
Please tell me I’m not the only one this has happened to.

Looking for venue for baby shower for about 60 women, some younger kids and at least one wheelchair. Also ideas on caterers for locations such as community centers. Prefer fairly simple theme, set-up, & food but a classy vibe. Also interested in private restaurant rooms.

Prefer Des Moines, Waukee, Clive and WDM area.

The venue where I am hosting my baby shower doesn’t allow us to bring in a cake. I have already ordered the most gorgeous cake for the occasion and would just want it for display and pictures, we don’t have to cut it or eat it. PLS GIVE IDEAS, MY SHOWER IS TOMORROW

Hello, i am working on a project for a baby shower. my niece wants an elevated personalized mug. so i will be putting uv dtf decal on the mug and here's what i need help with. how to elevate it? I was thinking of adding a few high end rhinestones on the mug. I am open to ideas and suggestions. I also like to find out where to get the best mugs. My niece wants it in creme and pink color, yes two tone. Thank you for your help!

Hello all,

Looking for an elegant venue for my baby sprinkle. It will be approx 10 people.

Private rooms are okay too.

I would really love something thats elevated and classy but not stuffy.

I’m open to all ideas.

This would be prior to October. I’m thinking maybe August or September. I’m thinking indoors might be best especially if it’s too hot.

Thank you!

Hi all! I’m looking for an affordable venue in Charlotte (preferably South Charlotte) to host a baby shower for around 30–40 people.

We need a space with a kitchen area to keep the food so that the guests can serve themselves. Tables, chairs, restrooms, and convenient parking would also be helpful. We are open to community centers, clubhouses, private event rooms, or similar spaces.

Please share any recommendations, pricing, or contact information. Thank you!

I am currently pregnant. I’m very early and the only people who know are my husband and my sister. I currently also have a 14 month old.

My sister asked if I was having a sprinkle and I said I wasn’t sure. I would like to but I’m nervous it would come across as “tacky” since my baby is still young. My sister said all babies deserve to be celebrated and encouraged me to have one.

I’m still a while away but I’m curious on how this comes across to others?

For some context - my sister had a sprinkle with her second, but I didn’t think twice about it as her first born was 3 years old before she was pregnant with her second.

I still have all my baby’s baby items so any gifts that people would bring would probably just be diapers, wipes, maybe some newborn onesies, etc. It would also be a more intimate gathering with close friends and family.

I’m also considering it more because before my first was born, I had a miscarriage. It was devastating so I do truly believe all babies should be celebrated.

Please share your honest thoughts and opinions!

I’m due in September. This isn’t my first baby, but it has been over a decade since our first and this pregnancy was unexpected and literally starting all over because we obviously kept nothing except a crib. 😂 My friend told me two months ago she wanted to have a shower/sprinkle for me and asked me my preferences for where and when. I told her I would like to do it on an evening/night because I work overnight and it would keep me from having to take multiple PTO days because I’m reserving them for mat leave and I don’t care where just don’t want her or our other friends put out on costs. She was all excited about it and said she was going to get with some other friends and we discussed a date and I will have to take off work (it’s a Friday evening). Well…the picked date is approaching in about 3 weeks and I have heard nothing else.

I’m fine if nothing is done, but I don’t want to take a whole day out of my maternity leave if we aren’t doing it and I don’t know how to ask my friend about it? I feel like it’s so rude to be like “hey are we doing this or not?” I don’t want to seem like I am demanding something be done for me because I really don’t expect that kind of thing, but I have had a handful of people between work and other friends ask me a few weeks back if I’m having one because they want to be there or they have asked about a registry. It’s just kind of put me in an awkward spot and I don’t want to step on anyone’s toes.