u/Disastrous-Gap-1197

Hey everyone I just need some advice. Ok so I have a friend that I was friends with for 8 years we where friends in high school and I would hang out with her occasionally. She was always really flaky anytime we wanted to hang out but i guess that just who she is. I graduated high about 2 years ago and I haven't really talked to her much since. I would text her if she wanted to come over and just hang out sometimes she would responded and sometimes she wouldn't not. And I just thought that she was busy. Well she started dating a guy let's call him tod I never really met tod. My friend was never really one to talk about boyfriends a lot even if I asked all she would say is its going great. She just never really talked much about her relationship. This was back in christmas about last year. I haven't talked to her since. I have tired to reach out and see if she wanted to hang out or something she would always look but never responded. It kinda made me worried if I did something wrong. Well one day I was looking on Facebook and found out the she was pregnant. I was shocked I just didn't know that my friend was pregnant... I felt bad for her but at the same time I didn't know how to feel.. bc all the times I have asked her to hang out she never responded to me. So me being the nice person I am I texted her multiple time and told her that I will be there for her if she needs anything or if she wants to talk we can. And I got nothing she looked at them but never responded. Now its July and she is having a baby shower this Sunday my mom thinks it will be good for me to go and talk to her. I honestly don't want to go. I feel for her I do but I feel like she put herself in this position. I tried to be there for her but she never responded. My mom says that I am being a horrible friend and should go. And that she was there form me in high school and that I need to be there for her too. So reddit am I the a hole for not going. I will get her a gift and send it with my mom. But I just feel like our friendship has fissled out I feel for her and I hope all goes well for her but I just don't talk to her as much. Please let me know your thoughts and what I should do.

Hey everyone I am new. And I want to see if I am in the wrong here please let me know how you are feeling about this post after. Ok so I am a female and 19 years old. I have been having a bad relationship with my mother for about 6 months. I love her death but I don't always love the things she says to me and she always gets mad at me for the way I am feeling. So about 2 months ago my mom told me that she doesn't have enough money to pay for my rent anymore for anyone that is confused I am a college student and I live in a apartment by myself. And I pay for my electric, groceries, and my coxs all by myself and also my car. And I split the rent with my parents. So I will be going up to college next year and I will also being graduating this year here is where I have some problems my mom came up to me one day and said that we are running low on money for my rent and instead of living there for a year I would live there until April. And to be honest I am pissed I know it doesn't sound like a big deal but I stay up late to do homework because I work after classes and nighttime is my only time to do homework. By the way, my mom hates it.When I come home and i'm up late.I understand that they have a routine.But when I am home, I have to do homework, and nighttime is the only time I can do it. So the transition of moving home would be extremely difficult. Especially when i'm used to living on my own and doing homework.When I can and nobody can bother me because it's quiet. But here's where this started to p*** me off.. after my mom told me they were not able to afford my rent.. they went off and bought a boat.. I just feel like that if you can't afford something then shouldn't go buy something that you can't afford. Then, fast forward a couple months later, my mom talked to me one day... and told me I was very distant from her, and i'm not talking to her as much as I used to. And to be honest, I don't talk to my mom as much as I used to.Because if I do I get in trouble for how I feel and I feel like that is not fair why would I tell her something. And then get yelled at for it. So then she starts crying telling me that I am selfish and I am always grumpy and have a bad attitude.That made me feel like shit bc I always try to be as nice as possible. So then I went quite for a minute and then I start to tell her things that she does that rube me the wrong way for instead one day I was having a hard day and she told me if I keep acting annoyed then I should just move back to my apartment. Or when I come home all they talk about is my brother and how great he is at baseball and he has had some struggles with baseball but its all my family talks about and sometimes it just really hurts bc when I come home they don't even ask how my day is all the talk about is my brother. And when I tell my mom this she says 1. That if they want to buy a boat they can bc they are the adults and its there money which kinda hurt bc I don't feel like that is being an adult when you are low on money you should not go out and spend more money.. 2. That I need to just be proud of my brother bc he has worked hard to get to where he is. And I am very proud of him. He is really good at it and I know that he will go to college for it. But its all they talk about and I just want to talk about something else like how my day is or how my exams where. And then after I got done saying all of that my mom just told me that I need to self reflect on my actions and I need to be more polite. And then I just went quite. And then after she starts crying again and then just said that she regrets saying anything to me bc if I am going to be quiet and not talk then there is no point of talking to me in the first place. So am I in the wrong for how I am feeling.. I just feel very hurt by her amd this is one of many reasons I don't talk to her anymore. Because she always finds a way to make me feel bad for what I am feeling. Thank you for your help.