u/Zukinii

I had a uni friend that did a lot of things for attention, especially male attention. One of those things is faking multiple disorders like anxiety, depression, ocd, adhd and autism. It was extremely draining. She’d literally randomly go up to you and go ‘omg my ocd!’ And rearrange a random set of objects and then conveniently forget about her supposed ocd for months before remembering again and doing the exact same scenario. She once got fully offended when someone called her basic haha, she just wanted to be different somehow.
She claimed she had an anxiety disorder but never actually went to get diagnosed. She fr told me ‘well when I think about death I get really anxious’ as evidence and that’s it. She’d say her anxiety affected social stuff like presentations, but nope. She’d present with no issues and she literally wanted to do a speech for graduation and was upset when she didn’t get it.
She’d claim autism because she liked fnaf and other random stuff like ok as do millions of people bro
She’d honestly just lie about everything. She lied about being an introvert for some odd reason.

The worst part is how she treated others with actual disorders.
I have some childhood trauma from my father. I told her stories about it and afterwards she would proceed to show me videos of how much fun she was having with her own dad. Never her mum. Always her dad. I told her not to show me videos like that because it makes me upset. She kept doing it no matter how uncomfortable I got.
When I got into my worst depressive episode, she managed to make it about herself and got a guy to text me telling me to apologise to her because she’s upset that I’m depressed and that I didn’t respond to a single message from her.
After I left her, she switched targets and caused my other friends severe depression. My friend went to therapy and got put on anti depressants. When she told the girl, she fr told my friend ‘well therapy never worked for me, but since your depression is mild it might help’…. She’s never been to therapy. The only ‘therapy’ she’s ever done was a school therapist when her parents got divorced at age like 12.

Honestly I often see a pattern with fakers and attention seekers, they always seem to despise those with actual issues, always trying to one up them.

The ages in the title are the ages we were at the time of this. We’re now both 23.

We’ve known each other since first year uni. His behaviour changed during third year.

We were living together with our other friends. I got severely depressed during this time. I barely ate because of this and also because I had a job which caused me to come home at 1am, and I didn’t want to wake anyone up when cooking so I’d just go to sleep hungry, ended up weighing almost 30kg.

Anyway, one time he hid my seasoning and when I finally tried to cook something and couldn’t find my seasoning, he started laughing and pulled them out of his drawer, laughing about how he hid them for so long and I didn't realise. I was genuinely so confused because what even is the joke here? I just stared at him and after a while he said something along the lines of ‘I guess you’re just not in the mood’ ? He supposedly ‘knew’ I was struggling so idek what he was doing here. Like is it funny that I’m not eating?

Another time he literally gathered everyone in the house to humiliate me (I guess). He made a whole account in attempt to rage bait me when at the time I told them I enjoyed arguing with people online. I don’t do this anymore, as it was an unhealthy way for me to get stimulation and my frustrations out during my hardest times. But yeah he gathered everyone in the house and revealed that it was him arguing with me. He was laughing and saying ‘omg you got so mad’ and ‘how did you not realise it was me!’ And again I just stared at him. I was also confused cuz I did tell them that I liked arguing and getting mad cuz it was fun. I don’t get why he had to announce it to everyone and laugh about it so hard? It made me feel weird

He did also prevent me from sleeping and revising by going right up to my room and making as much noise as possible no matter how many times I asked him to stop. My friend said she saw him purposefully slam cabinets over and over when I was trying to sleep. He also gaslit me saying I never communicate and that I should apologise to this other girl in our house cuz she’s upset that I was depressed. After I said no he removed me from every group chat we had with our friends.

I genuinely don’t understand why he was behaving this way. He would also constantly comment on my other friend’s weight which was super weird. She also stopped talking to him and we’re still friends to this day. I don’t speak to him anymore but maybe strangers will help me understand? Why was he even saying this? What was the point? He started being pretty mean to both me and my friend, why? Was he trying to make fun of me or something? These are just some examples. I have severe memory loss from my toughest time so occasionally a memory will come back to me