u/_JustAlices

For some context, around 4 years ago my wife left me without a word. No letter, no goodbye, nothing, just went and left me to come home to an empty house with zero explanation. If it weren't for one of my daughters sending me a letter telling me that her mother moved in with her, I would've been left wondering if something terrible happened to her while I was gone. I feel like it's only fair that I give her the same treatment she gave me. If she doesn't even care enough to tell me why she decided to leave, then I have no reason to speak to her.

To be honest, the only reason I'm even writing this post is to settle a dispute with my friends. I never felt the need to mention any of this to them up until recently, and I almost instantly regretted it. One of them began speculating about all the ways I could've "wronged" her, and the others got on me for not communicating with my family enough. I really don't understand what they're so upset about, all of my kids are grown and they are just as capable of reaching out to me if they want a relationship. And I've already gone over my grievances with my wife. I honestly feel like they're the assholes in this situation. The one time I opened up, they start finding any reason to criticize me. Anyways, let me know what you guys think.

TL;DR: My wife left me with no explanation, so I'm giving her the same treatment by not reaching out to her.