u/_Lynnsane

Ich sitz mit 4 Hüben 2x täglich jeweils knapp 1 1/2 Stunden da, bis es eingezogen ist. Meine Endo sagt dazu nur "niemals sitzen Sie so lang, ich hab das selbst mal genommen, das dauert 4 Minuten". Ja well, jetzt hab ich schon wieder Bock, den Endo zu wechseln deswegen... Aber ich meins wirklich ernst. Ich sitze täglich knapp 3 Stunden insgesamt da und warte darauf, bis der Mist verschwunden ist. Wie ist das bei euch? Ist das normal? (2 Hübe skrotal, 2 auf die Innenseite vom Bein btw)

Heyho! Ich weiß leider nicht so genau, wer dafür infrage käme. Ich kann aus diversen Gründen nicht so viele Kilometer auf mich nehmen, weshalb München, Hamburg, etc. leider wegfallen. Hat hier jemand eine Orchiektomie in Leipzig bzw. im Großraum Halle/Leipzig gemacht? Ich bin auf Monotherapie (Estréva) und habe ehrlich gesagt etwas "Angst", dass die Hoden irgendwann irgendwie Probleme machen könnten.

LG

A couple weeks ago I got officially diagnosed with autism and adhd. I found out my struggles with maintaining friendships could be related to autism but after doing a lot of research it seems like I'm pretty much alone with my problem. I feel like I'm always too much. Too clingy. Expecting too much and then people find me annoying. For me a friendship is something I actually wanna feel. If I'm calling you my friend it means I really trust you because in the past I made a lot of negative experiences with so called friends. I just don't get how people are able to call each other friends and then not spend time together.

A couple days ago I ended a friendship because of this. I felt like I was the only one participating. Every time I texted her, it took ages for her to respond. It would have cost her 30 seconds a day to not make me feel like I'm a stranger. But here's the thing. Every time we actually did hang out she was always praising me, making compliments and basically treating me like I'm her best friend and expecting me to call her that too. She was even making sexual/romantic comments occasionally which just confused the hell out of me. I just don't get it and it makes me anxious.

Whenever she got mad at me for "being too much" she was always basically saying I'm just looking for a baby sitter who has the time to entertain me 24/7. This is not true at all. That's not the problem I have with her. I have a couple acquaintances I don't have this problem with. I get that people have an own life and can't be there for me 24/7. The things she said just didn't align with how she made me feel when we weren't in the same room. It just didn't make sense. Why would you make me feel like I'm the most important person in the room, but then ignore me all the time when we're texting? I feel like she was only really there when she needed advice/support.

And it's not just her, this is the average experience of having "friends" for me. It's always the same and I'm just tired. Maybe I'm just too childish. Maybe I just never grew into the adult version of having friends. My brain deeply craves connections. Feeling a type of belonging. Having people around me who actually enjoy my company. Why was this so much easier when we were all just kids? I had one single friendship I enjoyed over the past few years and to this day I miss her deeply. She was the only one diagnosed with autism too and back then she was even talking to me when she shouldn't have. When she was at work/in class and so on. That friendship ended when she got into a relationship and forgot about my existence. That was the point I got anxious and was basically running after her which just made me feel even more awful.

I don't know what I'm supposed to do. At this point I'm just waiting for the friendship to break after getting to know someone. I'm losing interest because the story is always repeating itself.