Love interest just re-entered my life recently, how do I keep her from running?
Long story short a woman I wasn’t in contact with for 9 months re-entered my life this past weekend. I’ve been relaxed, unmoved by her testing and haven’t initiated contact with her anytime we’ve communicated (because she’s still blocking and unblocking for no reason whatsoever, no arguments or back and forth discussions and already she’s blocked me but will unblock when she wants to talk to me).
I know that her behavior is immature and I recognize that I should forget about her and find someone else: those are things I intend to do in the near future anyway.
In any case, how do I break her out of these maladaptive behaviors? If I tell her that blocking/unblocking is not conducive to us rebuilding our connection, I think I’ll be indicating that her behavior bothers me. In a healthy connection, I would be communicating that but since she’s not a healthy person, she’d probably leverage that information and know that she can control me by blocking and unblocking when she’s trying to be manipulative.
My goal is to condition her out of these behaviors but I want to do so without communication because her communication skills are not the best and she perceives most things as conflict.
How would you keep someone like this from being flighty and running away? How can I continue to draw them in without reaching out or making any moves to show that I want them to come to me?