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I (26f,Hispanic) have been with my boyfriend (26m,Hispanic) for about a month and a half. Our story is a little chaotic in itself but overall I would say he is a very loving and caring boyfriend.

We had a church dance on Saturday, and obviously we looked forward to dancing together. The dance was just barely starting when I saw an old friend waving at me from a distance, who I barely recognized as he looked a bit different since I had last seen him a year prior. We caught up for about two minutes while my boyfriend, who was standing next to me, took a seat behind us. My friend said something along the lines of “hey, I might steal a couple of bachata dances from you just because I don’t know anyone here” and I was like “yeah no worries, I get it”.

I turned to motion my boyfriend to come so I could introduce them, but my friend took off before that could happen. I told my boyfriend “aw man, I was about to introduce you to my friend” and my boyfriend said “no, for what?”. Then I said “hey, just so you know I might dance a couple of songs with him because he doesn’t know anyone here. Is that okay?” I don’t recall what he said but he swears later on that he said “do whatever you want”.

I danced two songs with my friend the entire dance and it was bachata, nothing that was remotely flirty or anything of that nature. I danced one other song with a second guy friend and the rest with my boyfriend. I thought everything was okay because he hadn’t brought it up or anything , up until yesterday.

He said that he was speaking with our mutual friend (let’s call him A), and A brought up how it wasn’t right for a girl with a boyfriend to dance with another guy and that it shouldn’t happen and blah blah. Apparently my boyfriend just said something along the lines of “that’s her business, she does whatever she wants” in a dismissive way that gave off “she doesn’t listen to anyone but herself” vibe.

It got me annoyed obviously because what year is this that I can’t dance with a friend- who by the way, I see maybe once or twice a year? I just listened to him and asked if meeting that friend would’ve changed the way he felt and he proceeded to tell me that he’s not good at making friends, it doesn’t come naturally to him to talk to others and he feels uncomfortable. Which of course, opened up the doors to me saying that I would like for him to put in a little bit of effort to introduce himself to my friends (not even become friends) and him saying that that’s not who he is, it’s not something he’s good at and that he can’t just change like that.

AITA for dancing with my guy friend, now knowing my boyfriend didn’t approve?

Edit: we were at a church dance and I made it clear that I would have had no problem if he had danced with any of his/our friends that are girls. He stated he wouldn’t do that to me because it’s disrespectful to your significant other.

Hi, everyone! I’m apply to the respiratory therapy program in my cc and I just finished taking my Hesi exam today.
Grammar- 100
Reading- 90
Vocab-94
Math-88
A&P-76

As you can see, I did not do very well on A & P which was annoying bc I had studied the quizlets hard and none of those questions were on there 😅
This leaves me in a point average of 36/50 of max points I can get from the test.

Should I retake the test or should I just focus on other parts of my application? I did really good in other sections and it seems like a waste to just go back for one but I’m not sure.

Any advice?

Hello,

Just some background: I am 26, born and raised LDS and both my parents were practically raised in the church as well (served full time missions, sealed in temple,etc.)

I met a guy who was investigating the church and we started hitting it off pretty early on. However, for some reason my mom just didn’t like him even though she had never met him because she said he wasn’t baptized. I told her he was still learning about the church and she said that it had been months and if he didn’t have a testimony by then, he wouldn’t ever get baptized.

I called it quits with the boy for a while although I never told him the true reason behind it. A couple of months later, we ended up restarting things and when I would go drop him off at his house (always stayed in the car, don’t even know his apartment unit), my mom would text and call a lot. I was already kind of unsure about the relationship because I want someone with my same standards, but he recently got baptized and has been going to institute and participating more in class.

I spoke with my mom about how it feels that I have to choose between her and him and she just told me that ultimately it’s my choice but that she felt that I shouldn’t be with him. She stated that the spirit made her feel that him and I would have a problem with the law of chastity and she didn’t want me to make mistakes like that. She just kind of left it off that ultimately it was my decision if I wanted to be with him and that she wouldn’t stop me but that she wished she had gotten advice like that when she was younger.

When I brought up meeting him, she said she did not want to and didn’t feel like acting like a hypocrite by acting like it was all okay.

I guess what I’m trying to ask is- should I consider what my mom said as a type of revelation? I don’t know if what she’s saying is coming from fear or the actual spirit and the thing is I would really like to try a relationship with him even if it’s for a bit.

Update: talked to mom. She got teary eyed and she said “there’s nothing more I can say but I can feel it clearly and I’ve felt for months that you shouldn’t be with him because I get so much anxiety when you’re with him”. I explained that him and I went over a lot of her concerns and what we agreed on and she just said “I can see this clearly, it is the lamb and the wolf where you know it’s a matter of time before the wolf eats the lamb. And I hope I’m wrong but that feeling hasn’t gone away. Either way maybe this is a lesson you have to learn by yourself” don’t know how to feel about this…. Thanks anyways guys