I went to my rheumatologist Monday thinking I’d leave with the answers I needed but she completely dismissed me. Said I have no hyper mobility despite my PT telling me I have severe hyper mobility and knowing I do along with all my other symptoms. I left sobbing. My state (MN) seems to be a desert when it comes to finding someone to diagnose people or take me seriously.
I don't know what I am getting out of posting this but I'm just wanting to see if I'm alone in experiencing this.
I am 35, I have always been very back and forth on having kids, and once I turned 30 I kind of was against the idea of having kids, only because I didn't consider myself capable of being a parent. I have ADHD, and anxiety, and some other stuff going on that I never had a diagnosis for that made me live in 'survival mode' for so long that I never had the capacity to consider if I truly ever would have the ability to be a good parent. Kind of the classic "I can't take care of myself, so how can I care for a kid?"
However, over the last year I finally started therapy, I started taking medication, my husband and I went to counseling and have been closer and stronger in our marriage than we ever have been before. We are moving to our 'dream house' in the spring, and he recently got a substantial promotion that would leave us quite well off financially. My mind is finally clearing up and for the first time in a very long time I'm finding myself getting excited about the future.
Apparently, along with getting excited for the future, I've also now had an overwhelming urge to have a child. And no, not just a baby, because they're only babies for a short period of time and eventually become grown humans with agency. For the first time in my life I've thought "Yeah, I could be a mom, and a good one" and for the first time ever, that feeling has actually stuck with me instead of being a fleeting thought that then gets countered by something my child-free brain would tell me about how awful having a kid would be like it used to.
Obviously I know I maybe can't even have kids at this point and my window is closing, so part of me wonders if this is my body's last ditch effort to make me consider having a baby. But if I still feel this strongly about it once we move, I think we will start trying. Has anyone experienced this before?
tl;dr I've always been ambivalent about having kids but now am overwhelmingly excited about the prospect of having a kid at 35 and want to know if anyone else experienced this or is it just my body tricking me into trying to have a baby?
I was on 150mg for two weeks, and had no issues and felt fine. I started 300mg on Monday per my doctors instructions and within a day I started experiencing what feels like shortness of breath, or not being able to get a full, satisfying breath without yawning. Everything else is normal as far as my vitals go. I messaged my prescribing doctor about it but I wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this?
Edit: I also have anxiety but was hoping getting my ADHD under control would help with some of my anxiety symptoms. I take Zepbound and Ramelteon for sleep. I was recently also diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome but I have yet to get any kind of treatment plan for that.
I went from 258.8lbs when I started in March of 2025 and today I hit 80lbs down and actually weighed in below my first goal of 180. I’m hoping to get down to 160 now.
I am 35, will turn 36 in February. I was always back and forth about having kids for as long as I could remember, but within the last couple of years my husband (41M) and I have very seriously been discussing the idea of having one within the next couple of years. I have had the strong, overwhelming desire to have a baby and wanted to wait to make sure it wasn't just a passing feeling.
However, I have been having it hammered into me for my entire life that women expire after age 30, and the odds of having a kid with disabilities or other problems dramatically increases with both maternal and paternal age. After 35 half of your eggs are chromosomally abnormal, and advanced paternal age also increases the risk for things like autism, schizophrenia, and other issues. I don't my choice to have waited so long before trying to have a baby to set my kid up for potential health issues or struggles.
I need other women who had children later on to tell me their experiences and that its entirely possible to have a safe, healthy baby at my age.
About a month ago we had to put our 10 month old cat to sleep after a sudden illness. He was evaluated by our family vet and eventually hospitalized for two days where he was evaluated by multiple specialty vets. It was suspected he had a rare autoimmune condition that we just didn’t catch in time. We opted not to do a necropsy because we already spent over 6k in vet bills and didn’t think it would make much of a difference to us to know what he died from definitively.
We ended up having a chance to adopt a new kitten last week because a friend of mine who Foster’s for a local rescue got a new litter. I understand it was a bit soon but we knew we wanted another cat and figured it was a good opportunity to give a new cat a home.
Well fast forward to this morning I wake up at 4 AM to a text from my good friend essentially accusing me of not only exposing her cat to FIP (a mutated strain of the coronavirus in cats that usually only occurs in cats under age 2) but also exposing my new kitten to it. She claims she’s deduced that my cat must have had FIP (despite being evaluated by infectious disease and neurology and they never suspected such a thing because he had no fever or any other indications) and that I’ve now caused her cat to get sick and am risking my new cats life.
Her cat is a 13+ year old sphinx rescue with heart problems and he recently started taking a downward turn and is losing weight and having appetite issues. His prior owner (and my friend’s on and off again ex) was a vet tech at one point and is constantly pretending she’s basically a vet and I can pretty much guarantee she’s behind why my friend is making these claims.
I researched FIP and it’s not transmissible itself, only the FCoV virus is and most cats who have ever lived with another cat has had it at some point in their life and it usually is asymptomatic but in rare cases in young cats it can mutate to FIP. My new kitten has already likely been exposed by the mere fact that he was in a rescue/foster and so far he’s completely healthy. My friend seemingly has no idea how FIP actually works and is also ignoring the fact that no one ever suspected our cat had FIP in the first place.
AIO by being upset at my friend for accusing me of being the reason her cat is sick and accusing me of endangering and ‘not caring’ about my own kitten?