u/adrenaline58

So my little sister has immense behavioral problems and my dad hates her behavioral problems, yet does literally nothing other than sit there on his one part of the couch, shit-talk when she’s not around, and say horrific shit like this.

He thinks his TEN YEAR OLD CHILD is going to “slut out” and be promiscuous when she’s a teenager and yet because he is a selfish, lazy and neglectful, abusive pile of shit, he refuses to do anything about it

And he said this to my enabler mom, when my little sister was out of the house, and me and my older sister were upstairs, yet I overheard him:

“Horrible grades… just absolutely horrible grades… She’s not doing good in school…

I’ve been on her VR headset to try and fix something for her. And her avatars… her characters she’s dressing up as..?

She’s gonna slut out. She’s gonna slut out when she’s a teen.”

-A threat my dad literally just gave me

I don’t care if this comes across as stupid, I am in an incredibly toxic and hellish homelife and this is one of many boiling points.

Context: I apparently have an issue where I take a long time to get in the shower and then supposedly take forever and “waste all the hot water” when I am in the shower.

I do admit I take a long time to get in, but it seems like they’re really over-exaggerating about the time I spend in the shower.

My dad loves to go on about how he supposedly needs to wait until the dead of night to take his showers so he can get any hot water. He also complains how he takes countless different medications each day (true) which completely destroys his gut. You know what else destroys your gut? Drinking countless Mountain Dews, smoking endlessly, eating foods you are told by doctors not to eat, and generally treating yourself like shit.

It all reached quite a boiling point tonight when everyone began nagging at me while I was showering. My dad had my little sister poke her head in and go on a massive tirade on his behalf.

I do want to say I have ADHD. Emotional disregulation is one of the major issues. Having my little sister have to give a big tirade because I spent a little too long showering all because I had to pop a blood-filled pimple by my ear (which I wish I told them I was doing) I ended up getting real frustrated and starting saying a bunch of stuff to myself, basically going”

“All you people make me want to kill myself just to get away from you. Literally just every fucking time I have to deal with your nagging, your fucking whining, your fucking bitching.”

My dad ends up hearing this and storms in there. i swore I could hear my mom yell in distress as he stormed in, and he starts yelling:

“You got some kind of fucking problem?! We can all hear you talking a bunch of shit out there! Every fucking day—every fucking day—we yell at you for this! Every single day you sit on the toilet for 45 minutes and then you get in and waste all the fucking hot water! You don’t like living here?! Move out!”

The big point is past him to head upstairs to my room and he says “If you wanna hit me in the face, let me know and we’ll go right at it.”

I stand there, staring him in the eyes, and I go “Okay!” in a real clear and upbeat voice. I can then hear my dad say this as I’m walking away from him.

“Fucking cocky shithead…”

When he started yelling and when he gave me the threat, for some reason I wasn’t scared? Please don’t assume I’m trying to come off as badass btw! Aside from me noticing my legs were a tiny bit shaky while I was getting out and drying off (thankfully the outburst was already done and the door was closed) I didn’t feel any tightness, I didn’t feel like I was weakened.

Yes, my goal is to move out as soon as possible, but I am 17, and though I have a car, I have a debt to give my parents and on top of that have next to no money. I will be posting more on this subreddit detailing what my homelife is like.

I (17M) am trying to get with a girl (18F) who i used to have a class with. I remember us getting along amazingly but I didn’t have feelings for her then. Now I’m looking to get with her but I can not stop freaking out. I have a solid plan that I’ve talked to friends about, and they all say it’s great.

I have no clue if she has a boyfriend. This all started when she posted a selfie on her snapchat (we’re friends on there) where she had the song “trust issues” by drake. I’m assuming she chose that song intentionally, so maybe she’s single? But then today I got recommended some other guy from her grade’s snapchat and his story showed a girl who might be her. This is where I’m catastrophizing, because even though the girl’s face and upper body is covered by a big hoodie, I look at the skin and the big grey sweatpants and assume it’s her. I just asked a mutual friend on snap if she’s dating someone, so maybe I’ll figure out.

Edit: wimped out, deleted messages to friend. looking at story i doubt it’s her