u/agnes_copperfield

Hey folks. If you’ve got experience in legal research and have a MLIS or JD (or both), apply for this role! Small but mighty team and I’m happy to answers any questions.

Just need a place to vent with folks who get it. Kiddo will be 3 in September. Started showing signs of interest around Dec/Jan and we did a long pantsless weekend in February. It went ok, she really was only successful if we prompted her to sit a lot. Daycare was helpful, we had her making progress. In April they moved her to a new classroom and she regressed. Then in early June her favorite teacher from her current room moved to a Pre-K room. And it continues to be a huge struggle.

Kiddo can hold her pee, but very rarely tells us she has to go or goes on her own accord. With poop she will say her tummy is rumbling or that she’s cold and those are her tells- but she still often poops in her underwear.

We’ve been keeping it positive, tried rewards (mixed results- we still had to prompt her), tried peer pressure. I know daycare is about as over it as we are. She has no problem with being wet/pooping her pants.

I know she is still young, I know we need to stick with it but today was a day where she peed her pants, we changed her and not even 5 minutes later she told us she pooped her pants. Get her changed again, she says she’s cold 5 minutes later and by the time I got her to the potty (she has her own small potty she picked out) she had pooped in her pants again.

My husband and I are feeling burnt out on potty training.

If she wants to move to the 3 year old preschool room in September she has to be potty trained and I just don’t see us getting there.

My MIL is MildlyNo for many reasons but thankfully I only see her 2-3 times a year. My husband has taken kid to see her solo twice and while he acknowledges his mother’s faults and stands up when needed, she is kiddo’s only grandparent so he wants there to be a relationship.

DH and I grew up about an hour apart but met in a different city. We usually go see both families around Fourth of July (we’re in the US) as we have some July birthdays. This year we only went to see my family as it was my little sister’s 40th birthday so we spent the whole weekend with them.

So back in late Spring, DH suggested that MIL come visit sometime this summer instead (she’s a teacher and doesn’t work summers). He bent over backwards to try to accommodate (offer to meet her outside of city and drive her to our home since she’s nervous about driving in our city), said she could stay at our place (as she always says it’s too expensive to come see us/pay for a hotel).

Instead MIL decided to adopt 2 dogs, which included taking out a home equity loan to get her yard fenced in because it was a requirement of the rescue. So it wasn’t until about last week that the subject came up again, we just assumed that like usual nothing would happen (except for MIL complaining she doesn’t see kiddo enough).

Supposedly BIL will be coming up with MIL in early August. No idea what’s she’s doing with her dogs (we have a dog who is territorial). No idea where they’re staying (we have a very small home, hosting one person is the max). I’ll be very surprised if this visit actually happens. And she’ll of course complain that she won’t see kiddo until Thanksgiving.

I’m so glad I dropped the rope and let all things MIL be handled by DH.

I’ve been in law firms for over 10 years (no JD, just MLIS), and I had a recruiter reach out to me on LinkedIn for a fully remote role.

The job description emphasizes doing a lot of legislative histories, which I don’t have a ton of experience in, so not a fit for me…but maybe for you?

Not entry level, they want some legal experience. IIRC the pay range was 70-90k.

Happy to pass along job description and recruiter name if interested.