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i have nothing against my in laws, in fact, sobrang grateful ako sakanila kasi sobrang maalaga sila saakin even before i was pregnant and until now. pero tama nga talaga yung karamihan na meron at merong magiging problem when you’re living with your in laws.

they don’t directly communicate saakin yung mga “ayaw” nilang gawin for my baby, e.g 1. ayaw nila paliguan. grabe, 2 weeks di naligo yung anak ko. tinakas lang namin ng asawa ko, and nung nalaman nila, nagalit. 2. since tuloy tuloy yung ulan, wala si mr. sun for almost 3 weeks and kanina lang pinaaraw ko si baby kasi may sinag ng araw. like what they briefed me sa nicu when i was at the hospital (take note, andun din MIL ko nung sinabi to) sabi sa’kin ni dra & sa nicu na hubaran si baby, diaper lang daw ang suot and ipaaraw for 30 mins. 15 mins each side. ngayon, nagagalit daw sila sa husband ko na “pabaya” raw kami sa apo nila.

eh kung tutuusin, mas maalaga pa ako sa anak ko kesa sakanila kasi every time na kinukuha nila si baby to sleep in their room, andun yung 3 dogs nila. walang air purifier, nagv-vacuum lang sila madalas, oo. pero still, may mga nakukuha akong hair ng dogs sa damit and face ni baby. ilang beses na.

since cs ako, ang reason nila is hahayaan lang daw muna akong mag recover kaya ayaw nila ako ma-overwork. pero yung decision namin ni husband na ayaw sana naming ma-expose si baby sa pets, hindi marespeto. we even gave our 2 cats temporarily sa mga kapatid ko para di ma-expose baby namin sa mga buhok tapos ganon lang din pala kahahantungan hahaha.

parang wala akong karapatan mag decide for my child. and parang wala ako karapatang magreklamo kasi simula’t sapul sila naman lahat nagbabayad. nakakainis lang kasi napaka-selective nila sa sinasabi nilang, “sa doctor tayo makinig” kasi kung ako na gumagawa ng mga sinasabi ng doctor, hindi na nila sinusunod

hello, everyone. it’s me again, maglalabas lang ako ng sama ng loob dahil hindi na ako makatulog araw araw because of stress.

sa last post ko, i mentioned that my parents cut off my rent & personal allowance when they found out i was pregnant. (i was supposed to be an incoming med student but since i got pregnant, i had to stop) short backstory lang, i never really planned on keeping my baby, i was supposed to get medical ab0rt!0n but because of the delays sa plans, and maybe God’s way of telling me not to do it, umabot sa point na on the day of my MA, i couldn’t bring myself to do it. hindi ko kaya.

yes, i am one of those “mom” na masasabihan ng iba na “in this economy hindi ka naman working pinili niyo pa mag anak”, pasensya na po, pero hindi kinaya ng konsensya ko patayin yung bata. personally, i am pro-choice, i support ab0rt!0n if sasabihin ng babae na hindi niya kaya/hindi pa siya ready. but that time, i thought, no one’s ever prepared for motherhood.

for months, i kept it to myself, my bf, and his family only. i tried freelancing & since may allowance akong nakukuha from my parents, i use it sa share ko sa check ups, vitamins, milk, food, etc. my bf and i also decided to live together na since nag-start na ako mahirapan on my 2nd trim.

ff, last may, i was 7 months back then, my parents found out i was pregnant, at first, they took it as “ano pang magagawa eh andiyan na” “blessing ‘yan bakit naisip mong i-ab0rt”, until i asked for my monthly rent (kasi it’s too much for me to cover kaya humihingi ako, ₱15k ang rent namin so half kami ni bf, ₱7.5k kami) and they told me na wala na akong makukuha from them bec i decided to start a family na.

i begged, asked for a temporary help kasi hindi ko pa kaya and willing naman akong bayaran lahat once i got a stable job, but they said kayanin ko raw yung pinili kong desisyon, gawan ko ng paraan. my dad doesn’t want to talk to me after niya malaman and hinold talaga niya lahat.

i understand na bakit ko nga naman kasi pinasok to kung hindi ko naman kaya pero hindi rin kasi kaya ng konsensya ko back then na ituloy yung MA. ang hindi ko lang matanggap, yung comments ng mom ko saying, “kung sinabi mo nang maaga, edi naagapan pa yan”, and by naagapan she meant, it could’ve been ab0rted earlier daw, take note, sinasabi niya ‘yan sakin kahit na i’m 36 weeks na.

i’m really trying to look for a job na now kasi hindi rin enough yung nabibigay ng family ng bf ko, yung bf ko naman magsstart palang sa work this aug. i just want to earn for my baby & myself since baka di na ako patuluyin sa medschool, & kailangan ko mag ipon for that while sustaining for our baby din.

if you read my previous post here, alam niyo na po bakit ko ‘to pinost.

trying my luck if may VA moms here na nago-outsource or pwedeng mag refer. i have 2.5 years of hybrid experience as CSR and 7 months experience as SMM. i can do admin tasks (you can give me mock projects to work on if you want to check my skills), gusto ko po kasi mag transition to EVA/GVA. [calendar organization, inbox management, chat support]

i have the equipment naman po, non-voice lang po sana yung work since i will be living with my in laws and may soon to be baby na po ako.😅

thank you in advance po

hello, everyone. i’m a FTM. 26 yo. currently 35 weeks 5 days

on my recent ultrasound, we found out that baby is in breech position, so nag-usap kami ng partner ko ano magiging plan namin if ever ma-CS ako.

for context, we’re both in graduate school, (he’s a law student, i’m a med student) and currently nagbabakasyon kami in our province but staying with his family lang kasi hindi tanggap ng family ko yung pagbubuntis ko.

he and his family offered to let me stay here at their house during recovery since magiging working student yung partner ko. + if we’re gonna live together (we study jn a diff province) and it’s gonna be us 2 lang, wala kaming guidance since first time parents kami.

however, he talked to me kanina na kahit daw normal ako or cs, he thinks it’s better for me to stay here sa bahay nila para may mag asikaso sa’kin given na they have 2-3 helpers naman, so less load sa luto, hugas, laba. alam daw niyang hindi niya kami maaalagaan 100% ni baby habang nagrrecover ako kasi morning= work, night=school siya, mag-aaral pa.

aminado naman ako na magiging mahirap talaga yung set up namin kung dadalawa lang kami pero natatakot ako tumira dito sa bahay nila nang wala siya. his parents are kind, pero madada ang lola niya. maraming pinapansin and comments on me & my family. she constantly makes me feel as if my family is taking advantage of them lang. & kawawa raw yung apo niya (partner ko) kasi hindi ako binibigyan ng financial support ng parents ko (yes, inalisan ako ng allowance & rent allowance ng family ko) and feel niya lahat bayad ng apo niya.

responsibility ng partner ko na buhayin kami ng mag-ina niya and actually now palang naghahanap na’ko ng work as VA, because i still want my own money.

any thoughts and advice on this? paano ba kumilos sa bahay ng in laws mo hahaha

hello po!! sa mga naka-try na po ng private room & panganganak sa PCDH, kumusta naman po experience niyo? doon po kasi affiliated yung bago kong OB kaya from SLU-SHMC, need po namin lumipat to pines.

how much din po room rates and ano naman po included sa private rooms po nila?

hello po! does anyone here knows anong vet po pwedeng i-contact right now for an online consultation? parang maga po kasi isang eye ng kitten ko tapos kanina di niya mai-open. naglalabas din po ng sticky eye mucus. online consultation po sana kasi preggy po ako and di po ako makalabas

hello po, may pwede po ba i-meet dito sa baguio for cash loan? ₱50k po sana hihiramin ko para sa medical expenses and start ng small business. willing po ako mag sign ng contract kung sakali and mag-provide ng valid ID. kailangan na kailangan lang po talaga ngayon

hello po! may nakakaalam po ba magkano po manganak sa slu-shmc? wala po kasi akong philhealth and sss kaya gusto po naming mag-prepare sa gastos kung sakali