u/alexl1994

**I’m also looking for friends as well**

I live in Massachusetts, where I grew up, but spent my undergrad/grad years in Washington, DC and Virginia studying literature. I have a steady job that I’ve had for 7+ years in scientific publishing but wouldn’t call myself “career driven.” I prefer to cultivate skills, goals, and meaning outside of work. Not a high earner but financially responsible and on the FIRE path.

I’m 5'7" with a relatively active lifestyle, running 5 days/week with a few half marathons under my belt and hiking in New Hampshire several times a year. Hiking gives me time to disconnect and be alone with my thoughts while also challenging myself to do something scary or new. While I love this opportunity for solitude, I often pass by couples on the trail—that could be us one day! Other than hiking, I love traveling, nature/landscape photography, reading (let’s compare bookshelves?), and working on the iOS app I’m building in my spare time.

I tend to be a homebody but am always up to go to a literary event, see a movie, or check out a museum, flea market, or craft fair. Big groups or performative socializing aren’t really my thing. Personality-wise, I’m a relatively quiet person who finds it hard to open up to others in the beginning.

I’m non-religious and progressive. I try to stay informed and enjoy talking about politics (or any intellectual topic)—not trading headlines back and forth but having nuanced conversations about whose voice gets heard and how to survive anti-democratic times.

I’m firmly and happily childfree with an upcoming sterilization scheduled. Instead of kids, I’d like to focus my life on traveling, working on hobbies, building a stable relationship with my partner, and maybe having a dog or two.

You, ideally: aligned on politics and religion; ages ~24–36 (flexible); seeking a monogamous and long-term relationship; non-smoker; dog-friendly; and in or near MA/the northeast US. While I don’t think an LDR is ideal, if you’re elsewhere on the East Coast and think we might be a good match, shoot your shot! I’m open to trying it with the right person.

When I’m comfortable with someone, I enjoy deep conversations and staying in touch throughout the day. Not constant texting, but asking questions and sharing jokes, observations, links, or lines from the books we’re reading. Once I open up, I’m affectionate, intentional, and loyal.

Even if we’re not totally aligned, if any of this resonates, I’d love to hear from you and see if there’s a connection. Please be willing to share a photo in your first few messages. As I said, I’m open to friendships too!

**I’m also looking for friends as well**

I live in Massachusetts, where I grew up, but spent my undergrad/grad years in Washington, DC and Virginia studying literature. I have a steady job that I’ve had for 7+ years in scientific publishing but wouldn’t call myself “career driven.” I prefer to cultivate skills, goals, and meaning outside of work. Not a high earner but financially responsible and on the FIRE path.

I’m 5'7" with a relatively active lifestyle, running 5 days/week with a few half marathons under my belt and hiking in New Hampshire several times a year. Hiking gives me time to disconnect and be alone with my thoughts while also challenging myself to do something scary or new. While I love this opportunity for solitude, I often pass by couples on the trail—that could be us one day! Other than hiking, I love traveling, nature/landscape photography, reading (let’s compare bookshelves?), and working on the iOS app I’m building in my spare time.

I tend to be a homebody but am always up to go to a literary event, see a movie, or check out a museum, flea market, or craft fair. Big groups or performative socializing aren’t really my thing. Personality-wise, I’m a relatively quiet person who finds it hard to open up to others in the beginning.

I’m non-religious and progressive. I try to stay informed and enjoy talking about politics (or any intellectual topic)—not trading headlines back and forth but having nuanced conversations about whose voice gets heard and how to survive anti-democratic times.

I’m firmly and happily childfree with an upcoming sterilization scheduled. Instead of kids, I’d like to focus my life on traveling, working on hobbies, building a stable relationship with my partner, and maybe having a dog or two.

You, ideally: aligned on politics and religion; ages ~24–36 (flexible); seeking a monogamous and long-term relationship; non-smoker; dog-friendly; and in or near MA/the northeast US. While I don’t think an LDR is ideal, if you’re elsewhere on the East Coast and think we might be a good match, shoot your shot! I’m open to trying it with the right person.

When I’m comfortable with someone, I enjoy deep conversations and staying in touch throughout the day. Not constant texting, but asking questions and sharing jokes, observations, links, or lines from the books we’re reading. Once I open up, I’m affectionate, intentional, and loyal.

Even if we’re not totally aligned, if any of this resonates, I’d love to hear from you and see if there’s a connection. Please be willing to share a photo in your first few messages. As I said, I’m open to friendships too!

I live in Massachusetts, where I grew up, but spent my undergrad/grad years in Washington, DC and Virginia studying literature. I have a steady job that I’ve had for 6+ years in scientific publishing but wouldn’t call myself “career driven.” I prefer to cultivate skills, goals, and meaning outside of work. I work remotely and love the flexibility this brings.

I’m 5'7" with a relatively active lifestyle, running 5 days/week with a few half marathons under my belt and hiking in New Hampshire several times a year. Hiking gives me time to disconnect and be alone with my thoughts while also challenging myself to do something scary or new. While I love this opportunity for solitude, I often pass by couples on the trail—that could be us one day! I also drink very little with no other substance use.

One of my favorite things to do when the weather is nice is take photos. I mostly photograph nature and landscapes and will often travel, sometimes very far, to find things to photograph. Last year, I organized my favorite photos and printed a photo book.

Reading is my first love. I have far, far too many books but am always up for wandering the aisles of a bookstore (preferably used or independent) to find one more. My interests skew a bit more academic, and I mainly read literary fiction or nonfiction on nature/climate change, history, science, politics, philosophy, etc. I rarely abandon books because I’m intentional about the ones I choose.

My last big hobby is iOS development. I've spent the last few years learning how to build apps and am working on a political and civic data app. Even though I'm not very talkative, I could probably talk your ear off about everything I've learned.

I tend to be a homebody but am always up to do a hike, go to a literary event, see a movie, or check out a flea market/craft fair. Big groups or performative socializing aren’t really my thing. Personality-wise, I’m a relatively private person who finds it hard to open up to others in the beginning. I’m also quiet and introverted.

I’m non-religious/atheist and am looking for someone who feels the same. Politically, I consider myself progressive with climate change, reproductive rights, LGBTQ+ rights, immigrant rights, and Palestinian sovereignty being some of the causes I support. I try to stay informed and enjoy talking about politics (or any intellectual topic)—not trading headlines back and forth but having nuanced conversations about whose voice gets heard and how to survive anti-democratic times.

I’m firmly and happily childfree with an upcoming sterilization scheduled. Instead of kids, I’d like to focus my life on traveling, working on hobbies, building a stable relationship with my partner, maybe having a dog or two, and saving money responsibly.

You, ideally: aligned on politics and religion; ages ~24–34 (flexible); seeking a monogamous and long-term relationship; non-smoker; dog-friendly; and in or near MA/the northeast US (I recently bought a condo, so it would be difficult to relocate in the near term).

While I don’t think an LDR is ideal, if you’re elsewhere on the East Coast and think we might be a good match, shoot your shot! I’m open to trying it with the right person.

I have an analytical mind and love dissecting books, shows, and movies. I’m equally comfortable re-watching The Office for the nth time as I am listening to a horror movie podcast as I am poring over last year’s Best Picture winner.

In relationships, I aim to be straightforward, honest, low maintenance, and drama free. I’d say I’m demisexual, so I need a strong emotional bond before romantic or physical attraction develops. I’m a fan of a slow burn romance or a friends-to-lovers story but… I have trouble making friends too 😅

When I’m comfortable with someone, I enjoy deep conversations and staying in touch throughout the day. Not constant texting, but asking questions and sharing jokes, observations, links, or lines from the books we’re reading. Once I open up, I’m affectionate, intentional, and loyal.

Three relationship values I think are important are:

• Communication (I think a relationship can survive a lot with top-tier communication)
• Safety (which I think of as a commitment to creating space to feel emotionally safe and vulnerable)
• Respect (particularly around boundaries and autonomy but also in respecting your partner’s thoughts and opinions and not belittling them or being condescending)

Even if we’re not totally aligned, if any of this resonates, I’d love to hear from you and see if there’s a connection. Please be willing to share a photo in your first few messages. I’m open to friendships too!