u/alicia3714

Hi guys so I'm (18f) not on Reddit at all (I'm not sure if it’s like the wrong subreddit please let me know if I should post somewhere else)

But I thought I'd try posting this since I feel really confused and frankly uncomfortable

So basically I work at a pub as a waitress and there is this older customer 50 something-ish he comes quite a lot, likes to start conversations, and always tips very well.

I’m quite chatty and friendly with customers anyway so when he first started talking to me I thought nothing of it. we've got loads of regulars who come in for a drink and have a chat with the staff. Some are a bit odd, some are quite nice. But nothing he said was particularly weird or sexual. And he also gets on well with another female bartender (20 something) and shes never had any issues with him.

At some point he asked me if I had a boyfriend. I don’t remember him saying it in a particularly dodgy way so I don’t want to make it sound like he definitely meant something by it.

Then the other night I was actually sitting there with a friend I wasnt working

I was also completely wasted (Not my finest moment)

He was there and said hi, then

Me and my friend were sitting up at the bar and at some point I realized he slipped like 200£ into my bag.

Like... £200??? And I wasn’t even working that night.

I also vaguely remember him giving me a hug.

Then afterward my friend told me that he’d apparently been staring at me for the majority of the night.

Anyways I was feeling weird about the whole thing the next day so I spoke to the bartender since she’s friendly with him also.

She basically said hes never been sexual with her or made any advances and that she thinks he’s just a nice guy who likes giving people money or feels like he has to tip loads for attention or something. she was very surprised when I told her about the £200 though, but ultimately said the same thing as she said before.

But I can’t help but feel icky about the whole thing. Between the £200, the hug, the boyfriend comment, and the alleged staring. Am I crazy? Is it not super weird and inappropriate?

I really don't know what to do.

I still have the £200 in my bag and I haven't touched it. I'm not going to use it, I don't want it, but I feel weird about giving it back I don't want to make a scene or anything.

hes well liked there and I really don't want to blow the whole thingout of proportion.

I'm worried that maybe I'm overreacting or that I somehow gave him the wrong impression by being friendly. Like I said I'm quite chatty and I've had situations before where I was accused of sending mixed signals. I also actually like this job but now I'm kinda dreading going back there.

don’t know if I’m being completely daft about this or if I’ve got a reason to feel a bit weirded out.

Wow sorry this came out long but I would really really appreciate any advice. I don't know whats the right thing to do here

Thanks a lot for reading❤️

Hi guys so I'm (18f) not on Reddit at all (I'm not sure if it’s like the wrong subreddit please let me know if I should post somewhere else)

But I thought I'd try posting this since I feel really confused and frankly uncomfortable

So basically I work at a pub as a waitress and there is this older customer 50 something-ish he comes quite a lot, likes to start conversations, and always tips very well.

I’m quite chatty and friendly with customers anyway so when he first started talking to me I thought nothing of it. we've got loads of regulars who come in for a drink and have a chat with the staff. Some are a bit odd, some are quite nice. But nothing he said was particularly weird or sexual. And he also gets on well with another female bartender (20 something) and shes never had any issues with him.

At some point he asked me if I had a boyfriend. I don’t remember him saying it in a particularly dodgy way so I don’t want to make it sound like he definitely meant something by it.

Then the other night I was actually sitting there with a friend I wasnt working

I was also completely wasted (Not my finest moment)

He was there and said hi, then

Me and my friend were sitting up at the bar and at some point I realized he slipped like £200 into my bag.

Like... £200??? And I wasn’t even working that night.

I also vaguely remember him giving me a hug.

Then afterward my friend told me that he’d apparently been staring at me for the majority of the night.

Anyways I was feeling weird about the whole thing the next day so I spoke to the bartender since she’s friendly with him also.

She basically said hes never been sexual with her or made any advances and that she thinks he’s just a nice guy who likes giving people money or feels like he has to tip loads for attention or something. she was very surprised when I told her about the £200 though, but ultimately said the same thing as she said before.

But I can’t help but feel icky about the whole thing. Between the £200, the hug, the boyfriend comment, and the alleged staring. Am I crazy? Is it not super weird and inappropriate?

I really don't know what to do.

I still have the £200 in my bag and I haven't touched it. I'm not going to use it, I don't want it, but I feel weird about giving it back I don't want to make a scene or anything.

hes well liked there and I really don't want to blow the whole thingout of proportion.

I'm worried that maybe I'm overreacting or that I somehow gave him the wrong impression by being friendly. Like I said I'm quite chatty and I've had situations before where I was accused of sending mixed signals. I also actually like this job but now I'm kinda dreading going back there.

don’t know if I’m being completely daft about this or if I’ve got a reason to feel a bit weirded out.

Wow sorry this came out long but I would really really appreciate any advice. I don't know whats the right thing to do here

Thanks a lot for reading❤️