u/amicable_liz

I saw a tiktok where a woman posts about how her bumble date is glued to his phone the whole time and all the comments where calling the man a pig (which I do not disagree with). But I also saw another tiktok from a man showing how his date is glued to her phone but all the comments where in the lines of "if she's on her phone the whole time, you should look inwards" or that the guy has poor social skills. People will blame men regardless of the situation.

Most of the time they just send 'hey' and expect me to carry the conversation. And if we do meet up in person, many of them are on their phone for the entire date. For an app whose selling point is that women must make the first move, it still feels like I am the one doing the work. If they weren't interested, they can just not start any conversations at all. I mean if this were Tinder, I accept that the man is the one taking initiative. But on an app whose point is the reverse the roles? Nah!

I feel like the word just dehumanizes men. If they are being sexist, then just call them a sexist. Why does it matter if they get sex or not? IDK why Incel is the go-to word for a sexist man when plenty of misogynistic men I met can get ladies easily. Plus I feel like the word is hardly applied on women who behave entitled (e.g. fat women who demand men date them). Funny how only men are only ones that get this label.

I was waiting for the bus when a man sat at the seat next to me. I started chatting with him since he wasn't like he was doing anything or had anything on his mind. The wasn't any other person at the bus stop aside from the two of us. The bus didn't seem to be arriving anytime soon so I just thought of just trying to kill time by chatting with this stranger.

He's kind of funny and hot. At one point he said he thought I looked so cute, to which I said I felt the same about him. Eventually he asked if he could kiss me and I said sure and it was my first kiss. It was a bit awkward at first, but then it just got better and better and I haven't stopped smiling since. He wrapped his arm around me and kept flirting and we kissed a bit more until our bus arrived. We just held hands on the bus until he needed to get down on his stop. The exact way I imagined my first kiss to go, but still a total surprise and in the moment sort of thing.

Not sure why I'm here really. I guess I just want to tell someone.