Even though it was toxic, is it my fault?
I'm going to do this again since it just happened this month. I'm only going to tell you what happened from my P.O.V. and why I need new friends. When I first started coming to CSULA, I only had a few friends and those same friends eventually stopped coming here but during my first year I met my close friend who was like my older sibling to me. At the time, I was going through depression and my friend had some fair share experiences, so she helped me. Dare I say, she saved my life. I'll never forget those days, I'll always cherish those first 2 years for the rest of my life..... until one day during the summer of 2024, from what I'm suspecting, she must've gone through the worst pain of her life bc something from her changed. She went from being kind and accepting to now avoiding and isolating and toxic. The last time we spoke before all of the drama happened was over 2 years ago, June 2024, and ever since, she's changed. In the first 2 years, she was always happy to see me, but by the 3rd year, she kept restricting me on socials even though I was doing my best to follow her boundaries but anytime I would make a mistake even as small, she would mistreat me. As I mentioned, I have autism so it's pretty hard to learn how to follow boundaries, but recently, from some other toxic cycles from my past that I had to break was also the main reason. I tried to explain it to her, but she brushed me off, gaslighted me, and never listened to me. She even got mad at me for surprising her at her graduation when literally all the other students did the same to their friends and there was no trouble. We just cut ties early this month bc she blocked me after I tried setting boundaries with her, but she laughed at me and blocked me. She said the most offending things like "anybody would've already cut you off" and publicly threatened to do so bc she doesn't like my presence. I have some proof in case if something happens (God forbid). Heck I even ask her help or to vent once in a while and she refused by saying "That's not my problem." She even threatened the cops to me after setting my boundaries.... I just don't understand why she gets to call me out, but when I do so, I am problematic. So yea I would appreciate if you guys pray for me and give me emotional support bc all of this made me suicidal bc idk if this is my fault for not doing more for her even though I did the best that I could. She a catholic which makes it worse bc as someone with faith I thought I failed God for losing her..... so yea she a millennial btw lol